[chronic_fatigue]

(Original post by bloomblaze)
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Where do you approach and talk to these people you dont know?

Anywhere, societies, halls, laundrette, shops...I haven't stayed in contact with some of them but its a start it helps you build confidence an you become used to talking to people. I met some of good friends by just going up to them and talking.
It should work with someone you want to date. If a guy was interested and approached me and I would be flattered. It can take a lot of guts for some people to just walk up to someone they like. Even if I didn't find the guy attractive I would still respect them for putting themselves on the line.

[Flyingaround]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Anon/delete

I see these threads on here how girls pine over guys they meet or guys that they have a crush on. Why do girls have massive crushes on guys that haven't even had to do anything? Why has no girl ever liked me in that way? Why has no girl gone out of their way to talk to me?

I am not good looking, I would say I'm below average. My social life isn't great but I have met a lot of girls in the past but they have made no intention to get with me. No girl has ever flirted to me or has given me signals. Is it because I am not good looking? Is society that much shallow that due to the fact that I'm not good looking that I don't even get a look in?

Is it because I don't make my intentions clear? Is it because I don't usually approach girls? If so then how come girls always fancy guys that has never even approached them?

I have a friend who is good looking and girls always flirt with him even though he hasn't had to do anything and it really makes me mad.

I ****ing hate this ****! Its making me feel unworthy for anyone and its ruining my well-being (and life). Its al-right for girls because even the ugliest ones get approached. But if you're a guy and you're ugly - you're screwed for life.

Is anyone going through what I'm going through now? I would hope that I am not the only one.

It's called living in the UK, I am the same as you, in my early years around primary school it was easy to talk to girls and see them as friends or on holidays but now it seems so much harder, as if they have a goal to get the most perfect man.
But as soon as I left this country on a working holiday to australia, i could just go up to girls and ask for directions, and when this one group saw me again on the train back they talked to me really nicely.
I also went to singapore on the way back and made friends strangely, because I never find it this easy, though they saw a video i had edited and wanted me to film them in the city so maybe it was half being used, i don't know. Another time was from Peru, I made friends easily, as soon as I got back to the UK, i felt that my life shouldnt be here.
But I want it to be here, there are nice people, the nice ones seem to have already found their love in school or shy or something. I blame the culture that we have.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Its al-right for girls because even the ugliest ones get approached. But if you're a guy and you're ugly - you're screwed for life.

Is anyone going through what I'm going through now? I would hope that I am not the only one.

I totally disagree with this, I don't think I'm ugly, well I've heard people say I am before, I'm just below average I guess and I've never been approached, but I've fancied a guy who doesn't ever get flirted with, he's not really good looking to other people.

My friends have all said they think he's ugly, but I like him I like his looks and personality although no one else really notices him. But I'm not that confident type to go up to him and start flirting with him or anything. Maybe there's a girl like that who likes you but she's not that flirty type and she's got low confidence?

You boost you're confidence and self-esteem and you should try to approach them

[Kdm4life]

(Original post by honggau)
Ok let's get this straight lol it's the reverse my friend! Have you ever seen an ugly girl with a dead handsome guy? Rare. Wait, no, i haven't! But have you ever seen an ugly guy with a beautiful girl? Hell yeah, yes! A lot! Everyday! It's even everywhere on the media, for example: she's out of my league, Kick-ass, and even 21 Jump street, and so forth! A lot of movies did it because it's a norm and because most girls like to hear more than to see and to girls, a warm, caring, sensitive below average guy who knows how to listen and treats a girl right scores better than a hot but selfish guy. They're simply better for long term relationships. (Not to mention the ugly rich guy with super hot model girls!)

And seriously, do you really need those girls who only care about appearance?? You know, you're the one who actually cares SO MUCH about appearance! Why do you think those girls approach your friend because he's good looking but not because there is something special in him that they can see? I guess it's because at least he doesn't think the way you think of yourself! You don't even respect yourself, how can you expect us girls to think differently? Ok just assume that you're really really ugly, even if your face is somehow distorted but if you have a nice personality, passion, hobbies, and you care about people more than your own appearance, right girls will come because you will attract the right girls who know your real value!

Also my friend, appearance is not everything. A charming guy does not necessarily have a good face but he believes in himself, he has a high self-esteem, he makes people feel special when they're with him just because of how he treats people.

And hey, why don't you be the one to approach the girl you like? Be active and take control of your life! Who would turn down a guy who confidently approaches her, politely and nicely talks to her, makes her laugh and makes her feel special? It's your choice to change the situation or not!

Remember everything around you is just the way you see it. It's not necessarily the truth. Well, there is no truth. You're the one who decides your life. Don't blame anyone. Also, I believe everything is uniquely beautiful in their own way. Some just are easier to seen than others, but the hidden part is always the interesting one

I am not in the same preddicament as the OP, but I get what he is saying. Of course, all ugly girls don't get approached, but there are more guys willing to settle for less than girls, and girls generally don't approach guys. Therefore, ugly girls are more likely to be approached than an ugly guy because they are girls, and girls are the ones who mainly get approached, and also because more guys are willing to settle for less than their standards than girls.

[QTpie118]

OP: There's someone for everyone.

[Mr.mAddd]

the solution is quite straightforward really: become rich

[TheInformer]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Why has no girl gone out of their way to talk to me?

I am not good looking, I would say I'm below average.

This is why. Being good looking makes things a lot easier.

Start approaching girls, you need to be proactive or things will stay as they are.

[Anonymous]

I really do think it's easier for ugly girls than for ugly guys. Why can't girls just accept this?

[Xiomara]

(Original post by Anonymous)
I really do think it's easier for ugly girls than for ugly guys. Why can't girls just accept this?

Why should we accept what you think just because you think it?

[Mushrooms]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Anon/delete

I see these threads on here how girls pine over guys they meet or guys that they have a crush on. Why do girls have massive crushes on guys that haven't even had to do anything? Why has no girl ever liked me in that way? Why has no girl gone out of their way to talk to me?

I am not good looking, I would say I'm below average. My social life isn't great but I have met a lot of girls in the past but they have made no intention to get with me. No girl has ever flirted to me or has given me signals. Is it because I am not good looking? Is society that much shallow that due to the fact that I'm not good looking that I don't even get a look in?

Is it because I don't make my intentions clear? Is it because I don't usually approach girls? If so then how come girls always fancy guys that has never even approached them?

I have a friend who is good looking and girls always flirt with him even though he hasn't had to do anything and it really makes me mad.

I ****ing hate this ****! Its making me feel unworthy for anyone and its ruining my well-being (and life). Its al-right for girls because even the ugliest ones get approached. But if you're a guy and you're ugly - you're screwed for life.

Is anyone going through what I'm going through now? I would hope that I am not the only one.

I am a girl and I have never been approached! I do go to an all girls school but I went to a mixed primary school and I am in town quite a lot. I personally am a bit shy around boys i like and would prefer them to approach me ( but they don't). Now I wouldn't say I am ugly, in fact I was told by a friend that a guy rated me as a 8/10, but it didn't change anything and that guy still didn't approach me. It is not just guys who have this problem it is also girls. But I wil accept that it is probably harder for not so god looking guys because they usually have to do the approaching.

I will say, however, that physical appearance plays an important part for me (without wishing to sound shallow. But if I am approach by a guy who is not so good looking but he is really nice then how he looks will be less important to me.

Sometimes I also get angry and upset but I just remind myself that there is someone for everyone and that in the future I will find someone

[tssf_skye]

I think you should just approach and get into a conversation with a girl, yeah looks its great but it's no use if you have nothing in common?
The easiest way to become friends with them, but keep it flirty so the girl knows it's not just friendship intended and therefore doesn't cancel you out.
If a guy talks to me, i'm happy to talk to them whatever they look like, i've been attracted to alot of guys who arn't traditionally 'good looking' and i know i have friends who have had boyfriends who they didn't find really that physically attractive :-)

[BACTSR2]

Make an OKCupid profile and a PlentyofFish profile. Don't count on anything, but keep checking your inboxes weekly. You might get lucky. There are some lonely women in this world. Going to club with super low self esteem is a bad idea. Some girl will come up and tell you she doesn't like you because of your ethnicity or something, just to see you squirm.

[gintoki]

(Original post by Flyingaround)
It's called living in the UK, I am the same as you, in my early years around primary school it was easy to talk to girls and see them as friends or on holidays but now it seems so much harder, as if they have a goal to get the most perfect man.
But as soon as I left this country on a working holiday to australia, i could just go up to girls and ask for directions, and when this one group saw me again on the train back they talked to me really nicely.
I also went to singapore on the way back and made friends strangely, because I never find it this easy, though they saw a video i had edited and wanted me to film them in the city so maybe it was half being used, i don't know. Another time was from Peru, I made friends easily, as soon as I got back to the UK, i felt that my life shouldnt be here.
But I want it to be here, there are nice people, the nice ones seem to have already found their love in school or shy or something. I blame the culture that we have.

Totally agree. Women in the UK have too many high standards.

(Original post by QTpie118)
OP: There's someone for everyone.

That's a load of crap.

[QTpie118]

(Original post by gintoki)
Totally agree. Women in the UK have too many high standards.



That's a load of crap.

I'm being serious! Each individual is naturally attracted to a member of the opposite sex (or same sex) who is the same 'attractiveness' as they are. Say you're a 5 out of 10, pretty average, you'll be attracted to average looking girls/guys. So even if you think you're really ugly, say a 1 on the scale, there's a girl/guy who's also a 1 out there and will find you attractive.

[Pitt1988]

Dude, just go straight for the hotties. Hotties rarely ever get approached for pure fear and intimidation from the male populace and as long as you portray yourself as charming, witty, intelligent and generally happy, you're in!

Being negative about yourself is absolutely the worst thing for anyone to do. Girls are a lot less shallow than blokes in my opinion; looks matter less to them than to us. So, pull your finger out your arse and get positive!

[gintoki]

(Original post by QTpie118)
I'm being serious! Each individual is naturally attracted to a member of the opposite sex (or same sex) who is the same 'attractiveness' as they are. Say you're a 5 out of 10, pretty average, you'll be attracted to average looking girls/guys. So even if you think you're really ugly, say a 1 on the scale, there's a girl/guy who's also a 1 out there and will find you attractive.

Again, not true.

1) Your theory does not make sense.

2) There are people that live their whole life single.

3) Is it me or there is a bit of patronizing coming from what you wrote? Yeah, get over yourself.

[Mushrooms]

(Original post by QTpie118)
I'm being serious! Each individual is naturally attracted to a member of the opposite sex (or same sex) who is the same 'attractiveness' as they are. Say you're a 5 out of 10, pretty average, you'll be attracted to average looking girls/guys. So even if you think you're really ugly, say a 1 on the scale, there's a girl/guy who's also a 1 out there and will find you attractive.

I am not sure about your theory. I personally am attracted to people who are better looking than me and who aren't as good looking as me (due to their personality) and I now their are plenty of girls who like Zac Efron or Taylor Launter but they are way out of most girls leagues. I do believe there is someone for everyone but I don't believe that individuals are naturally attracted to people who are just as good looking.

[QTpie118]

(Original post by gintoki)
Again, not true.

1) Your theory does not make sense.

2) There are people that live their whole life single.

3) Is it me or there is a bit of patronizing coming from what you wrote? Yeah, get over yourself.

You come across so aggressively, get over myself?! I'm trying to be helpful!
My theory does make sense, for most people and those who stay single stay single because they want to or because they haven't found their soulmate (or have an awful personality, that one would probably apply to you )

(Original post by Mushrooms)
I am not sure about your theory. I personally am attracted to people who are better looking than me and who aren't as good looking as me (due to their personality) and I now their are plenty of girls who like Zac Efron or Taylor Launter but they are way out of most girls leagues. I do believe there is someone for everyone but I don't believe that individuals are naturally attracted to people who are just as good looking.

I see what you're saying, but maybe I didn't use the right word. I mean that you'll fall in love with someone who's as attractive as you are. Those girls lust for Zac Effron or Taylor Lautner, but aren't truly in love with them. So if there's someone for everyone, do you think it's each person's unique personality that attracts them to one another, or a combination of their personality and looks?

[gintoki]

(Original post by QTpie118)
You come across so aggressively, get over myself?! I'm trying to be helpful!
My theory does make sense, for most people and those who stay single stay single because they want to or because they haven't found their soulmate (or have an awful personality, that one would probably apply to you )




I see what you're saying, but maybe I didn't use the right word. I mean that you'll fall in love with someone who's as attractive as you are. Those girls lust for Zac Effron or Taylor Lautner, but aren't truly in love with them. So if there's someone for everyone, do you think it's each person's unique personality that attracts them to one another, or a combination of their personality and looks?

"Single because they want to". This has to be one of the most inaccurate things I have ever heard. I hope a lot of single people read what you said and give a piece of their minds... Soulmates, again, they don't exist. Seriously who came up with this prophecy by the way?

Haha, about my personality, it's funny I only get comments like that in forums But hey, if you want to judge me based on a forum, be my guest

Finally, girls don't only lust for those guys, they feel they are entitled to guys like that. Simple, and that's how guys like the OP end up in TSR posting what he did.

[Mushrooms]

(Original post by QTpie118)
You come across so aggressively, get over myself?! I'm trying to be helpful!
My theory does make sense, for most people and those who stay single stay single because they want to or because they haven't found their soulmate (or have an awful personality, that one would probably apply to you )




I see what you're saying, but maybe I didn't use the right word. I mean that you'll fall in love with someone who's as attractive as you are. Those girls lust for Zac Effron or Taylor Lautner, but aren't truly in love with them. So if there's someone for everyone, do you think it's each person's unique personality that attracts them to one another, or a combination of their personality and looks?

I believe people are attracted to each other due to their looks but fall in love due to their personalities. People are naturally shallow and will not (at first) date someone if they perceive them to be below them appearance wise. People will naturally aim to date someone who is better looking than them. However because people who are better looking tend to only look at others who are better looking than them also or in their own league, people often find themselves dating people in their own league, because those in the league above consider them too ugly and they consider those in leagues below them too ugly. I am not sure I have made myself completely clear but I hope I have got across my point