[im so academic]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Anon/delete

I see these threads on here how girls pine over guys they meet or guys that they have a crush on. Why do girls have massive crushes on guys that haven't even had to do anything? Why has no girl ever liked me in that way? Why has no girl gone out of their way to talk to me?

I am not good looking, I would say I'm below average. My social life isn't great but I have met a lot of girls in the past but they have made no intention to get with me. No girl has ever flirted to me or has given me signals. Is it because I am not good looking? Is society that much shallow that due to the fact that I'm not good looking that I don't even get a look in?

Is it because I don't make my intentions clear? Is it because I don't usually approach girls? If so then how come girls always fancy guys that has never even approached them?

I have a friend who is good looking and girls always flirt with him even though he hasn't had to do anything and it really makes me mad.

I ****ing hate this ****! Its making me feel unworthy for anyone and its ruining my well-being (and life). Its al-right for girls because even the ugliest ones get approached. But if you're a guy and you're ugly - you're screwed for life.

Is anyone going through what I'm going through now? I would hope that I am not the only one.

Incorrect - men want the best of girls. If you're a girl and you're ugly - that's it for you.

At least a man can get rich and get hot girls.

What has a ugly girl got to live for?

[tanveer2k12]

(Original post by jam277)
Not trying to be homophobic in anyway, but are you gay? Because it'll explain this statement.

if you're going to try imply im gay atleast say NO HOMO!!

Even if I was gay do you have a problem with gays?

[jam277]

(Original post by tanveer2k12)
if you're going to try imply im gay atleast say NO HOMO!!

Even if I was gay do you have a problem with gays?

You don't understand the rule of no homo, also, are you trolling. Because I said the statement 'not to be homophobic in anyway.' Therefore it's obvious that I don't have a problem with them.

[rj1990]

You have to be confident, but know your league. Look, if you're a quiet guy, it's impossible for you to be a confident guy and impress confident loud girls with your personality.

So, what do you do? Well, you go for girls like you, girls who're quiet, girls who you see just dancing with thier friends, never actively seeking a guy, because that girl is like you, she is shy. The benefit of this, is because you know she is shy, you can be confident infront of her, because she isn't intimidating. You can be the one that she thinks "wow he is confident"....but it's simply because she is like you, you will feel comfortable around her.

Feeling comfortable around someone is the key, then you can be as confident as you like. And anyway, who would want to spend their lives with someone they don't feel comfortable with just because they look amazing or are rich? You would tired quick.

So, go for girls who you suspect have the same personalty as you. Because, infront of them, you can be confident without trying, even if you don't feel like you're being confident, just approaching a shy girl and being charming she is going to be like "oh my god, wooooow" and have stars in her eyes, even if you aren't that good looking, because she's never had it before. Making shy quiet girls weak in the knees is extremely easy.

[Anonymous]

I am the thread starter btw.

So tonight has confirmed that I will be alone forever. I was out with my best friend who is incredibly good looking but shy. We met another friend on a night out too. There were three girls. I approached and introduced us to them hoping for some three on three action. What happened was that the 2 girls got with my two friends who are better looking than me and the other girl didn't want me presumably because of my looks and lied to me about having a boyfriend. I ended up going home by myself and I've never felt worse in my whole entire life. I actually feel like ending it all now.

[gintoki]

(Original post by Anonymous)
I am the thread starter btw.

So tonight has confirmed that I will be alone forever. I was out with my best friend who is incredibly good looking but shy. We met another friend on a night out too. There were three girls. I approached and introduced us to them hoping for some three on three action. What happened was that the 2 girls got with my two friends who are better looking than me and the other girl didn't want me presumably because of my looks and lied to me about having a boyfriend. I ended up going home by myself and I've never felt worse in my whole entire life. I actually feel like ending it all now.

I definitely know how it feels

But do realize that life isn't all about that, there is a lot more to life than that. You have friends, be thankful for that, there are people out there that do not have them, after all relationships have an end, but friendship is for life

If you have ambitions or hobbies that you really like, focus on them as well. Try to have objectives in your life other than having a relationship. Believe me, these things can be really important in your life and it's better than ending up in a ****ty relationship and in the end of all get cheated on (take it from someone who knows and has been in your situation).

Finally, yeah women nowadays are really shallow unfortunately. I cannot tell you to have faith you will find one because I do not believe that myself, just hang in there.

Good luck

[defrule]

(Original post by Anonymous)
I am the thread starter btw.

So tonight has confirmed that I will be alone forever. I was out with my best friend who is incredibly good looking but shy. We met another friend on a night out too. There were three girls. I approached and introduced us to them hoping for some three on three action. What happened was that the 2 girls got with my two friends who are better looking than me and the other girl didn't want me presumably because of my looks and lied to me about having a boyfriend. I ended up going home by myself and I've never felt worse in my whole entire life. I actually feel like ending it all now.

You shouldn't look at it that way because either she genuinely does have a boyfriend or she doesn't want to get with anyone until she knows them better. The other two friends being more shallow doesn't mean she would have been.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by defrule)
You shouldn't look at it that way because either she genuinely does have a boyfriend or she doesn't want to get with anyone until she knows them better. The other two friends being more shallow doesn't mean she would have been.

Well her friend said that she didn't have a boyfriend so I took the hint. Her and her friends were really looking to pull that night but ended up going of with my mates and ditching me. I felt so hurt. But this is nothing new. Girls have always approached my friend without him having to do anything and everytime I pluck up the courage to approach...nothing happens. I'm starting to hate my life and considering visiting prostitutes for the rest of my life. It seems that after that incident it really hit hard. I knew I was ugly before but that just confirmed it. Sorry if this sounds really melodramatic but I really think it will never happen for me. There is a reason why girls dont pursue me and reject me everytime I pursue them. Life as an ugly person is ****ing hard! Especially when you have a good looking best friend too

[JD.27]

(Original post by gintoki)
Finally, yeah women nowadays are really shallow unfortunately. I cannot tell you to have faith you will find one because I do not believe that myself, just hang in there.

This is all completely off, if girls don't want to be with you it's because of this atitude nothing to do with them all being shallow.

(Original post by Anonymous)
Sorry if this sounds really melodramatic but I really think it will never happen for me. There is a reason why girls dont pursue me and reject me everytime I pursue them. Life as an ugly person is ****ing hard! Especially when you have a good looking best friend too

Firstly it does sound melodramatic, it's also statistically unlikely so don't be so quick to self-pity. There IS a reason why girls don't pursue you and reject you but I think it'd be more useful to find out what it was exactly.
If you think you're ugly sort out your grooming, the clothes you wear, your haircut, hit the gym etc. All these things make a difference and if someone sorts them all out it's unlikely they'll be 'ugly'.
Looking back at your other posts first perhaps try and improve your social life, the more girls you meet the more options you have, also don't be so sure no girl has ever been attracted to you. Don't get so caught up on individual girls you can't be everyone's type, letting one girl get to you so much suggests you need more going on in your life (in terms of girls as well as hobbies etc)

[Anonymous]

(Original post by JD.27)
This is all completely off, if girls don't want to be with you it's because of this atitude nothing to do with them all being shallow.



Firstly it does sound melodramatic, it's also statistically unlikely so don't be so quick to self-pity. There IS a reason why girls don't pursue you and reject you but I think it'd be more useful to find out what it was exactly.
If you think you're ugly sort out your grooming, the clothes you wear, your haircut, hit the gym etc. All these things make a difference and if someone sorts them all out it's unlikely they'll be 'ugly'.
Looking back at your other posts first perhaps try and improve your social life, the more girls you meet the more options you have, also don't be so sure no girl has ever been attracted to you. Don't get so caught up on individual girls you can't be everyone's type, letting one girl get to you so much suggests you need more going on in your life (in terms of girls as well as hobbies etc)

Thanks. I go to the gym. I am pretty beefy.I have been known to trendy fashion taste. My social life isn't great but every time I meet girls they seem to be more interested in my friends. They always seem to be very interested in further meetings with my friends but never with me. They don't even add me on FB and they add all my mates. I talk to them, Im polite, I make them laugh, I can hold a good convo etc. but still they don't ever seem to want any further meetings even though my friends are quiet and shy. I think girls these days just want to hang around with the good looking people, even the unattractive girls dismiss my existence.

[Journeyzap]

I would say confidence (but not arrogance) is key, rather than good looks. Although good-looking guys probably find it easier to be confident in themselves.

[JD.27]

(Original post by Anonymous)
every time I meet girls they seem to be more interested in my friends. They always seem to be very interested in further meetings with my friends but never with me. They don't even add me on FB and they add all my mates. I talk to them, Im polite, I make them laugh, I can hold a good convo etc. but still they don't ever seem to want any further meetings even though my friends are quiet and shy. I think girls these days just want to hang around with the good looking people, even the unattractive girls dismiss my existence.

Perhaps its down to the way you talk them? It might not be flirty enough, or perhaps be too plain, etc.
I don't think it's entirely to do with looks, of course if you're friends are good looking they won't have to try very hard but that doesn't mean you'll be forever alone.
As for the last point it's just not true, friendship or who people choose to hang around with doesn't have much to do with looks and I know loads of good looking girls whose partners aren't exactly on the same level of attractiveness.

[gintoki]

(Original post by JD.27)
I don't think it's entirely to do with looks, of course if you're friends are good looking they won't have to try very hard

If it wasn't entirely to do with looks, his friends wouldn't get it so easy.

Accept that fact. Shallowness exists in women and in a big number.

[TieMeUp]

(Original post by Anonymous)
But if you're a guy and you're ugly - you're screwed for life. .

Oh get a grip. I'm far from good looking, I'm only 5'7, I have manifest physical imperfections, and I tend to hook up once a week. Have some personality, some self-confidence, some b0llocks... tends to work wonders.

Edit: After seeing JD27's comment, I feel a bit harsh... his advice was spot on.

Why do you see short bald guys (think George from Seinfeld) with beautiful women? It's not about a secret method or "game" or looks as much as it's about personality, having something to offer, coming across as having some depth. If you have that, and you wear nice clothes, have an average body (as in no beer gut), girls *will* pursue you. I have women that come on to me, ffs!

And I'm utterly average in looks, gay and a bit laddish! If I can manage that, surely someone who actually wants to sleep with a woman can

[JD.27]

(Original post by gintoki)
If it wasn't entirely to do with looks, his friends wouldn't get it so easy.

Accept that fact. Shallowness exists in women and in a big number.

All humans are concerned with looks and how much attraction they feel this doesn't make them shallow. I'm sure there are some girls you'd not be so keen on sleeping with. BUT it's not the be all and end all, people have different tastes and for girls especially it seems there are a lot of other boxes. Most considerably good looking girls I know are going out with guys who wouldn't be considered conventionally good looking so I find it a little strange when people start blaming their looks/body for not being able to get any girls.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by JD.27)
All humans are concerned with looks and how much attraction they feel this doesn't make them shallow. I'm sure there are some girls you'd not be so keen on sleeping with. BUT it's not the be all and end all, people have different tastes and for girls especially it seems there are a lot of other boxes. Most considerably good looking girls I know are going out with guys who wouldn't be considered conventionally good looking so I find it a little strange when people start blaming their looks/body for not being able to get any girls.

Why? The guys you see getting with these hot girls may not be conventionally good looking but they are below average/average at least. Whereas I think I'm straight up ugly enough to dismiss my existence from this world. I don't think I've ever had a girl give me a compliment on my looks/personality in my whole entire life.

[aqquaintance_sport]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Anon/delete

I see these threads on here how girls pine over guys they meet or guys that they have a crush on. Why do girls have massive crushes on guys that haven't even had to do anything? Why has no girl ever liked me in that way? Why has no girl gone out of their way to talk to me?

I am not good looking, I would say I'm below average. My social life isn't great but I have met a lot of girls in the past but they have made no intention to get with me. No girl has ever flirted to me or has given me signals. Is it because I am not good looking? Is society that much shallow that due to the fact that I'm not good looking that I don't even get a look in?

Is it because I don't make my intentions clear? Is it because I don't usually approach girls? If so then how come girls always fancy guys that has never even approached them?

I have a friend who is good looking and girls always flirt with him even though he hasn't had to do anything and it really makes me mad.

I ****ing hate this ****! Its making me feel unworthy for anyone and its ruining my well-being (and life). Its al-right for girls because even the ugliest ones get approached. But if you're a guy and you're ugly - you're screwed for life.

Is anyone going through what I'm going through now? I would hope that I am not the only one.

Go to a brothel. Plenty of hot kittens in there.

[JD.27]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Why? The guys you see getting with these hot girls may not be conventionally good looking but they are below average/average at least. Whereas I think I'm straight up ugly enough to dismiss my existence from this world. I don't think I've ever had a girl give me a compliment on my looks/personality in my whole entire life.

Because I can see plenty of examples of the opposite. These guys are below average, some of them are overweight etc. Nobody is ugly enough to dismiss their existence. Girls don't usually go around complimenting guys on their looks/personality for no reason so it's not uncommon that nobody has given you one.
Not saying it's easy for guys who aren't good looking to pull girls but if you stop dismissing the evidence of girls going out with people much less attractive than them then you'd see it's just an excuse.
I'm sure you're not as ugly as you seem to think, especially if as you claimed you take care of your grooming, dress and physique.

[LaEstrella]

Appearance nowadays is something which society revolves around and unfortunately without it, no one 'wants' us. It happens to guys, it happens to girls but I'm sure that you'll meet someone in the future who see's something that they like. Everyone has different requirements in a partner and everyone has a different opinion on what is attractive x

[Soph(:]

[QUOTE=Anonymous;37919490]Well her friend said that she didn't have a boyfriend so I took the hint. Her and her friends were really looking to pull that night but ended up going of with my mates and ditching me. I felt so hurt. But this is nothing new. Girls have always approached my friend without him having to do anything and everytime I pluck up the courage to approach...nothing happens. I'm starting to hate my life and considering visiting prostitutes for the rest of my life. It seems that after that incident it really hit hard. I knew I was ugly before but that just confirmed it. Sorry if this sounds really melodramatic but I really think it will never happen for me. There is a reason why girls dont pursue me and reject me everytime I pursue them. Life as an ugly person is ****ing hard! Especially when you have a good looking best friend too [/QUOT

This is going to sound shallow but surely you must have a less good looking friend? Well go out with him so you don't keep comparing yourself to your good looking friend.