[RainPours]

For a long time I knew this was coming, I have become really sad and lonely over the years.

Have any of you guys felt like this, and did any of you overcome this feeling?

I just need some perspective really, thank you guys.

[cskyes]

Ok im new to this community but if there is one thing i know its that i like to help out. I have felt what your going through many times over. Now i know this may seem corny but when i felt like that i pray. Also you can just remember that no matter what ur going through u always have friends like me to help you out you can message me. You have all the people in the world at your finger tips.

[MacDaddi]

If I ever feel down, I always do something to just take my mind off it -normally some rugby or a trip down to the gym. Keep yourself occupied!

The bins go out more than me!

[RainPours]

(Original post by MacCuishy)
If I ever feel down, I always do something to just take my mind off it -normally some rugby or a trip down to the gym. Keep yourself occupied!

The bins go out more than me!

Thanks, I did try to keep myself occupied all the time, it's when I'm not, it all starts, I can't always try to keep busy.

[MacDaddi]

(Original post by RainPours)
Thanks, I did try to keep myself occupied all the time, it's when I'm not, it all starts, I can't always try to keep busy.

How bad is this feeling of loneliness?

[RainPours]

(Original post by MacCuishy)
How bad is this feeling of loneliness?

Really bad, I don't know what to do?

[MacDaddi]

(Original post by RainPours)
Really bad, I don't know what to do?

Go and see a doctor - it sounds like a mild form of depression - hopefully they might be able to diagnose something

Good luck x

[Foo.mp3]

In some ways we're cursed as a generation, with the nuclear family model having divided society and now rotting from the inside, and technology playing a role here, but in others we are blessed ~ for the advent of technology means that all but the extremely poor will always have something to occupy themselves with (beyond work and family life), even if they find themselves lacking social opportunity/enterprise

I've been a bit of a 'lone wolf' for much of the past decade due to chronic ill health and sporadic periods of virtual isolation; looking back on it the ways I've managed have been twofold: 1) Master thyself; 2) Use online games/chat to replace, to some extent, what's missing in that critical social sense

What one must try to avoid in such circumstances however is coming to think of virtual interactivity as being tantamount to the real thing, especially where girls are concerned (online)

[Jwb2]

Write down a list of the things you're feeling down about and then decide which you can do something about, and which you can't. Actively 'fighting' your problems will make you feel better - like you've made a difference, which you will have!

[RainPours]

(Original post by Foo.mp3)
In some ways we're cursed as a generation, with the nuclear family model having divided society and now rotting from the inside, and technology playing a role here, but in others we are blessed ~ for the advent of technology means that all but the extremely poor will always have something to occupy themselves with (beyond work and family life), even if they find themselves lacking social opportunity/enterprise

I've been a bit of a 'lone wolf' for much of the past decade due to chronic ill health and sporadic periods of virtual isolation; looking back on it the ways I've managed have been twofold: 1) Master thyself; 2) Use online games/chat to replace, to some extent, what's missing in that critical social sense

What one must try to avoid in such circumstances however is coming to think of virtual interactivity as being tantamount to the real thing, especially where girls are concerned (online)

I'm Sorryn about your health, it's nearly been a decade for me too

[RainPours]

(Original post by MacCuishy)
Go and see a doctor - it sounds like a mild form of depression - hopefully they might be able to diagnose something

Good luck x

I really don't want to take any medication... but thanks man

[RainPours]

Thanks for the support guys

[heyAmy]

(Original post by RainPours)
For a long time I knew this was coming, I have become really sad and lonely over the years.

Have any of you guys felt like this, and did any of you overcome this feeling?

I just need some perspective really, thank you guys.

Sometimes.
Usually a change of scenery is needed or a new hobby to keep yourself going.

[catoswyn]

(Original post by RainPours)
Thanks for the support guys

I know it sounds daft but have you tried a pet? Dogs for instance are fantastic as you really are the centre of their world and they are always delighted to see you. It can be a real delight. Also gets you out and about walking and the normally reticent British person who would never start talking to a stranger in the street suddenly becomes completely different when meeting man with dog! If you can't have your own pet then volunteering as a dog walker or such like with the local rescue is another means.

As for people... its about finding those you feel comfortable with... your people if you like. Sometimes it takes a while to find them that's all. Its why people try clubs and societies as it's a good starting point.

The internet is a good infiller nowadays.

However in the end if you don't feel happy with yourself first then being alone with yourself can feel awful. Sometimes people just want to avoid that moment when they are left alone with their own thoughts because the thoughts themselves are negative. If this is what you're experiencing then talking it through with someone like a counsellor might help. Sadness is an awful emotion to live with constantly and maybe it would help to start working through the things making you feel so sad. If you can't face a counsellor then use internet forums to start connecting to other people about these things. Good luck!

[Lily Academia]

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Everyone gets lonely at times, even when surrounded by people. Try not to let it get you down; do what you enjoy, keep yourself active and occupied and you'll find the loneliness ebbs and dies.

(Original post by MacCuishy)
If I ever feel down, I always do something to just take my mind off it -normally some rugby or a trip down to the gym. Keep yourself occupied!

The bins go out more than me!

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[MacDaddi]

(Original post by Lily Academia)
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Everyone gets lonely at times, even when surrounded by people. Try not to let it get you down; do what you enjoy, keep yourself active and occupied and you'll find the loneliness ebbs and dies.

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Teh Armstrong and Miller is hilarious!

[RainPours]

(Original post by catoswyn)
I know it sounds daft but have you tried a pet? Dogs for instance are fantastic as you really are the centre of their world and they are always delighted to see you. It can be a real delight. Also gets you out and about walking and the normally reticent British person who would never start talking to a stranger in the street suddenly becomes completely different when meeting man with dog! If you can't have your own pet then volunteering as a dog walker or such like with the local rescue is another means.

As for people... its about finding those you feel comfortable with... your people if you like. Sometimes it takes a while to find them that's all. Its why people try clubs and societies as it's a good starting point.

The internet is a good infiller nowadays.

However in the end if you don't feel happy with yourself first then being alone with yourself can feel awful. Sometimes people just want to avoid that moment when they are left alone with their own thoughts because the thoughts themselves are negative. If this is what you're experiencing then talking it through with someone like a counsellor might help. Sadness is an awful emotion to live with constantly and maybe it would help to start working through the things making you feel so sad. If you can't face a counsellor then use internet forums to start connecting to other people about these things. Good luck!

Thanks you very much for the advice, I'm not a great fans of pets however I did see a councillor, but the pain is unbearable, the more I talk the more it hurts.

[RainPours]

(Original post by Lily Academia)
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Everyone gets lonely at times, even when surrounded by people. Try not to let it get you down; do what you enjoy, keep yourself active and occupied and you'll find the loneliness ebbs and dies.

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Thanks Lily... I just have to keep positive as I have done all my life. It hurts so much...

[RainPours]

(Original post by heyAmy)
Sometimes.
Usually a change of scenery is needed or a new hobby to keep yourself going.

Amy, I tried this, but it creeps up on me when I'm alone most of the times. I know why I feel like this, but the thing I'm searching for cannot be brought or given, it's love Amy...

[catoswyn]

(Original post by RainPours)
Thanks you very much for the advice, I'm not a great fans of pets however I did see a councillor, but the pain is unbearable, the more I talk the more it hurts.

It does sound as if you have crossed over a bit from feeling sad and lonely to actually being depressed. I really do understand about not wanting to make this a medical issue and the reluctance to take medication. However it can really help if you are sliding into depression.

Depression does not generally just disappear on its own though exercise and trying to keep talking do help a lot. However trying to continue in life while in emotional pain and depression can be like trying to walk everywhere on a broken leg and saying 'no I don't want a plaster cast thanks'. Depression is a real illness not just a set of feelings and can involve physiological changes such as chemical and glandular imbalances so medication can correct these things and be very effective. They always start people on low doses and build up gradually so it is possible to try and see how you get on.

If there is something specific that may have triggered these feelings in the first place see if there are on-line groups that could help... ie bereavement, early bullying, difficult family, traumatic events etc etc... It can work best to talk to people who have shared the same experiences and you can be anonymous too.