[TruetoMyself]

I want some opinions on how 'close' people are to their immediate family? For example, do you strongly take into account their views on your partner/potential partners? or alternatively If immediate family members were against you moving a Long Distance away from them for a job, would it likely sway your decision?

[lizlaz350]

I listen to their opinions and take them on board but if it's still something I really want to do, I'd do it anyway.
They want me to be happy so most of their advice is pretty sensible stuff anyway.

[Georgiahoneybee]

It would very much depend on the decision and how strongly I felt about my own opinion I suppose. Having said that, I am very close to my immediate family and so I don't think I'd be able to ignore how they felt (even if I wanted to). Thankfully my parents love my boyfriend and I wanted to stay close for work, so I haven't encountered any such issue, but I reckon their opinion would effect me more than I think it would!

[Dee Leigh]

Depends...

[jLou711]

Not alot tbh.. #yolo

just had to.. lolol

[Origami Bullets]

Whilst I take into account their opinions, it's not going to make me change something that I really want to do. Luckily, we usually agree on stuff.

However, I don't think my family would ever presume to pass judgement on a partner, and my dad wants me to emigrate for work anyway, so that's not really an issue!

[Dee Leigh]

(Original post by jLou711)
Not alot tbh.. #yolo

just had to.. lolol

[internet tough guy]

very much

[Orphan]

I've been forced by events to carve my own path. I listen to my aunt on most practical things, I think and ask myself, "What would mum and dad have done?" quite a lot but in the end it has to be me that decides.

[Mr Dangermouse]

I'm not really a family person, but I'm happy to listen to their advice while they're giving me financial support. After uni I'll probably just start viewing them as friends.

[PinkMobilePhone]

I take advice given to me by my parents into consideration, but at the end of the day I'm a 28 year old woman with a husband and 3 kids. I'm usually the one dishing out the advice to my kids rather than listening to it from my parents these days.

Still if I have a query about something that I think they could answer then I will turn to my parents for advice. We were thinking about emigrating to canada and I discussed it with my mother a few weeks ago to get her input on it, as she has experience with emigrating (she has lived in Australia for 2 years, and France for 11 years, and has recently bought a house in Turkey where she now spends 6 months of the year. She also worked for 11 years in the OECD so she is very clued up on the economies of different countries - it's the sort of thing she follows!)

[Beige_Angel]

Not at all and to be honest I've never really valued my immediate family's opinion on goings on in my life (with good reason - I wasn't just a spoilt, ungrateful daughter or anything).

I'm not particularly close to my family and moved out when I was 17 (I'm now 20) due to being unable to continue living with my mum. Various events and continuous issues took place during my childhood and adolescence at home that caused a lot of hostility and negativity so I ended drifting away from both my parents (they divorced when I was 14) and have never really been close to their respective families, although I do have some family on my dad's side who I get along with greatly. I also have a younger brother but we don't really talk unless we visit a parent at the same time. So yeah, decisions are, and generally always have been, made on my own

[Paul McCartney]

A lot. Too much, actually

[Malevolent]

Il listen to their opinions but its not going to sway my decision in the end. If its something to do with them then fine but if its a potential partner or new job/university career its to do with me and therefore my decision not theirs.

[AYO]

depends on how serious the issue is, i wouldnt NOT date someone just because my parents didn't like him, however, i'd like to think my mum and i are on the same page in terms of guys, so its highly unlikely that i would date someone who my mum didn't like.

i ALWAYS take on board my mum's opinion when making other decisions though because, really she is almost always right and she knows everything lol

[Rhiannan94]

I used to be very focused on what people thought in general, not just my parents. Now that I am thinking of which uni to apply to, my mother in particular doesn't want me to move away or more specifically doesn't think I could/will move away. Whilst I see her point, to get into the better unis I need to go away, as well as wanting more independence.

So in essence, whilst I take my family's opinions on board, if it is something which directly affects my life it is completely up to me.

[Dee Leigh]

(Original post by johnharris19944)
Il listen to their opinions but its not going to sway my decision in the end. If its something to do with them then fine but if its a potential partner or new job/university career its to do with me and therefore my decision not theirs.

Same here, exactly what I was thinking.

This was posted from The Student Room's Android App on my GT-S5830

[Dee Leigh]

(Original post by Rhiannan94)
I used to be very focused on what people thought in general, not just my parents. Now that I am thinking of which uni to apply to, my mother in particular doesn't want me to move away or more specifically doesn't think I could/will move away. Whilst I see her point, to get into the better unis I need to go away, as well as wanting more independence.

So in essence, whilst I take my family's opinions on board, if it is something which directly affects my life it is completely up to me.

Same here.

Especially with subjects/uni/dating/career/my future etc...ultimately it is my decision regardless of what others (including my parents) think.

This was posted from The Student Room's Android App on my GT-S5830

[IRSP044]

I expect them to respect my views and choices.

[meenu89]

Although I am married I always take very seriously anything my family say to me, especially Mum or Grandma.