[Frequency]

So basically, I'm a Muslim girl and I'm in year 7. I've been wearing a hijab on my head to school since September, and now it's May. I decided by myself that I'd stop wearing it for reasons like; it's really hot now; it was never my choice to wear one, but I was just quiet about it toward my parents*; I was late for an exam the other day because I was still changing after PE (my parents weren't happy about that); I was in Science working with a bunson burner when my hijab almost caught on fire until my friend pushed me out of the way; I just genuinely don't like wearing one.
My older brother came home from uni and asked me why I wear it, and my reply was literally, "I don't know."
He said: "It's your choice, y'know."

*I thought it was compulsory to wear one in my religion, but isn't it supposed to be my choice whether to wear one or not?

At the start of year 7 my mum said to me, "You're wearing a hijab in year 7, okay?"
Me, "Okay."
My parents are a bit strict if I say so myself, but that's irrelevant at the moment.
Three days ago I went to school without a hijab, I didn't discuss anything with my parents which I now regret. Whilst I was in school everyone complimented me about how better I looked, which seemed to encourage me...
I came home from school that day and my mum was sleeping. She woke up about 2 hours later and knew that I didn't wear my hijab to school. When my dad got home from work my mum told him and he asked me why. Our conversation was a little like this:
Dad: "Why didn't you wear it?"
Me: "I just don't wanna wear one anymore."
I tried to keep my voice firm but he just got angrier. He shouted at me and I started crying because he was so mad. He then shouted at my older brother for telling me it's my choice. I came in then and said, "It's not his fault,"
But my dad interrupted me and told me to shut up and get out.
My mum spoke to me and said once I take it off, I'll never get it back on. She said I'll forget my religion, but I know I won't. They assumed I would. My dad was still angry at me and my brother, so I went up to my room.
I was so upset, I dialed childline and really wanted to tell them what happened. The lady on the phone said hi and asked if I wanted to talk to a Councillor tonight, and I cried on the phone and put it down.
I know it's not a big deal, maybe I'm just sensitive.
My parents went out then, and came back and called my name. I went downstairs and my dad hugged me and said I don't have to wear one if I don't want to, then told me to stay downstairs, but I went back to my room. About 10 minutes later they called my brother down. I heard them talking downstairs and I went and stood by the door and listened. They were talking to my brother and were telling him he should think before he gave advice to me, because I'm just a "kid." My brother said, "But it's her choice." They said no it's not and explained that I can't just take it off and put it on whenever I like.
BUT, the thing is, I wear one to school AND NOWHERE ELSE. I tried to explain that to my mum but she just sighed and shook her head.

The next day my mum came in and woke me up for school like always, only this time she didn't touch me, she hardly stepped foot in my room. Usually she comes in and pulls the blanket off me. I tried to ignore that she hardly spoke to me and got up to change into my uniform for school. When I got downstairs for breakfast my mum was sleeping, but she usually drops me off to school, so she shouldn't have been sleeping... I asked her and she said I'm walking today.
My dad came downstairs and was putting his shoes on, he said: "You look different without your hijab. You look weird."
I ignored him.

The next day I walked to school again because mum wanted me to, only this time she wasn't sleeping.
And now it's the third day without wearing a hijab, and I have no idea what to do.
Maybe my parents will stop being discouraging?
Maybe it'll wear-off?
Please help...

[Riz10]

You say you're muslim> then follow the islamic way of life, its for your own benefit. but at the end of the day its upto you, but if you say you are muslim then you
should wear a hijab regardless of the circumstances!

[zedeneye1]

maybe when you get a little older, you'll learn that what happens between family, stays within family....

Talk to them, solve the problem.....unless they are trying to kill you, there shouldnt be a problem...

"first world, muslim problems...."

[Frequency]

(Original post by Riz10)
You say you're muslim> then follow the islamic way of life, its for your own benefit. but at the end of the day its upto you, but if you say you are muslim then you
should wear a hijab regardless of the circumstances!

But I told my parents I'd wear one when I get older

[Fynch101]

**** the obligations of organised religion. Simple as that.

[mahaneap]

Ditch the entire religion. It will only hold you back and cause you problems.

[Frequency]

(Original post by Fynch101)
**** the obligations of organised religion. Simple as that.

I want to follow my religion but when I'm ready, not when my parents tell me I should

[A Cat]

Tell your parents that you don't need to wear a hijab in order to be a good person. Tell them that is what being a muslim is about - following a moral code, not a ****ing dress code. Tell them that forcing someone to do something they don't want is not the quality of a good person. If they fail to see this reason then wab wab wab waaaaaaaaaab.

[Frequency]

(Original post by mahaneap)
Ditch the entire religion. It will only hold you back and cause you problems.

I can't do that.. My older brother and sister aren't very religious, they focus on school and work, so my parents are depending on me and putting me under pressure

[bad8oy]

(Original post by Riz10)
You say you're muslim> then follow the islamic way of life, its for your own benefit. but at the end of the day its upto you, but if you say you are muslim then you
should wear a hijab regardless of the circumstances!

biggest load of bull ever. most girls that wear it are the ones that are worst.

[Frequency]

(Original post by Samrout)
Tell your parents that you don't need to wear a hijab in order to be a good person. Tell them that is what being a muslim is about - following a moral code, not a ****ing dress code. Tell them that forcing someone to do something they don't want is not the quality of a good person. If they fail to see this reason then wab wab wab waaaaaaaaaab.

That's a good point

[Steevee]

Myabe this will help you see how absurd religion can be.

If you're a Muslim, you are required to wear the Hijab. If you're a rational human, then you know that such obligation is absurd, and I welcome you to take a long hard look at your religion.

[Frequency]

(Original post by Steevee)
Myabe this will help you see how absurd religion can be.

If you're a Muslim, you are required to wear the Hijab. If you're a rational human, then you know that such obligation is absurd, and I welcome you to take a long hard look at your religion.

And I will wear a hijab, when I'm ready, not when I'm told to

[bad8oy]

(Original post by Frequency)
I can't do that.. My older brother and sister aren't very religious, they focus on school and work, so my parents are depending on me and putting me under pressure

lol trust me there just saying u look weird and that so u put it back on. when u put it back on it will all be normal. if i were you i would not put it back on and after a month they should forget :P im muslim btw

[Issy123]

If you wear a hijab you should wear it everywhere, not just at school or not just when you go shopping.

This is why i don't like how some Muslim parents behave regarding the hijab. You're meant to explain the reasons for wearing a hijab properly, the meaning behind a hijab, and not telling your daughter 'hey, here's a hijab, you're wearing this for the rest of your life otherwise you're dead'. Cause obviously, if you choose that approach, sooner or later your daughter will take it off cause she won't know the meaning behind the hijab and will just be wearing it by force and not even like wearing it which shouldn't be the case.

[A Cat]

(Original post by Frequency)
That's a good point

The truth is, you're young enough for your parents to be somewhat controlling over what you do. They see such things as for your safety, your benefit. I know you've heard it before, but when you grow up they will start to take you more seriously. Question everything while you're still alive, that is the only way to get to the truth.

[Frequency]

(Original post by bad8oy)
biggest load of bull ever. most girls that wear it are the ones that are worst.

That's irrelevant.. Maybe you should read the thread first.

[SweetChilliSauce]

(Original post by Frequency)
So basically, I'm a Muslim girl and I'm in year 7. I've been wearing a hijab on my head to school since September, and now it's May. I decided by myself that I'd stop wearing it for reasons like; it's really hot now; it was never my choice to wear one, but I was just quiet about it toward my parents*; I was late for an exam the other day because I was still changing after PE (my parents weren't happy about that); I was in Science working with a bunson burner when my hijab almost caught on fire until my friend pushed me out of the way; I just genuinely don't like wearing one.
My older brother came home from uni and asked me why I wear it, and my reply was literally, "I don't know."
He said: "It's your choice, y'know."

*I thought it was compulsory to wear one in my religion, but isn't it supposed to be my choice whether to wear one or not?

At the start of year 7 my mum said to me, "You're wearing a hijab in year 7, okay?"
Me, "Okay."
My parents are a bit strict if I say so myself, but that's irrelevant at the moment.
Three days ago I went to school without a hijab, I didn't discuss anything with my parents which I now regret. Whilst I was in school everyone complimented me about how better I looked, which seemed to encourage me...
I came home from school that day and my mum was sleeping. She woke up about 2 hours later and knew that I didn't wear my hijab to school. When my dad got home from work my mum told him and he asked me why. Our conversation was a little like this:
Dad: "Why didn't you wear it?"
Me: "I just don't wanna wear one anymore."
I tried to keep my voice firm but he just got angrier. He shouted at me and I started crying because he was so mad. He then shouted at my older brother for telling me it's my choice. I came in then and said, "It's not his fault,"
But my dad interrupted me and told me to shut up and get out.
My mum spoke to me and said once I take it off, I'll never get it back on. She said I'll forget my religion, but I know I won't. They assumed I would. My dad was still angry at me and my brother, so I went up to my room.
I was so upset, I dialed childline and really wanted to tell them what happened. The lady on the phone said hi and asked if I wanted to talk to a Councillor tonight, and I cried on the phone and put it down.
I know it's not a big deal, maybe I'm just sensitive.
My parents went out then, and came back and called my name. I went downstairs and my dad hugged me and said I don't have to wear one if I don't want to, then told me to stay downstairs, but I went back to my room. About 10 minutes later they called my brother down. I heard them talking downstairs and I went and stood by the door and listened. They were talking to my brother and were telling him he should think before he gave advice to me, because I'm just a "kid." My brother said, "But it's her choice." They said no it's not and explained that I can't just take it off and put it on whenever I like.
BUT, the thing is, I wear one to school AND NOWHERE ELSE. I tried to explain that to my mum but she just sighed and shook her head.

The next day my mum came in and woke me up for school like always, only this time she didn't touch me, she hardly stepped foot in my room. Usually she comes in and pulls the blanket off me. I tried to ignore that she hardly spoke to me and got up to change into my uniform for school. When I got downstairs for breakfast my mum was sleeping, but she usually drops me off to school, so she shouldn't have been sleeping... I asked her and she said I'm walking today.
My dad came downstairs and was putting his shoes on, he said: "You look different without your hijab. You look weird."
I ignored him.

The next day I walked to school again because mum wanted me to, only this time she wasn't sleeping.
And now it's the third day without wearing a hijab, and I have no idea what to do.
Maybe my parents will stop being discouraging?
Maybe it'll wear-off?
Please help...

I think if you really don't want to wear it, then try and confront them. Tell them it's only for the Summer period because it's hot. I'm not a Muslim but I know some of my Muslim friends don't wear the hijab so I don't think it's against the religion. So I guess talk to them and explain you still follow the religion but just don't want to wear the hijab for the time being because of the heat. If that doesn't work, then try and talk to one of your teachers, preferably a Muslim one since they'd know where you're coming from.

I hope things work out for you!

[Issy123]

(Original post by bad8oy)
biggest load of bull ever. most girls that wear it are the ones that are worst.

LOL. Generalisation much?

[bad8oy]

(Original post by Frequency)


That's irrelevant.. Maybe you should read the thread first.

i wasnt talking to you about it was i. i was sharing my observation with someone else.