[DaveSmith99]

(Original post by Frequency)
I can't do that.. My older brother and sister aren't very religious, they focus on school and work, so my parents are depending on me and putting me under pressure

You should follow your religion if you believe in it and you want to, not because your parents are pressuring you to.

[Frequency]

(Original post by Samrout)
The truth is, you're young enough for your parents to be somewhat controlling over what you do. They see such things as for your safety, your benefit. I know you've heard it before, but when you grow up they will start to take you more seriously. Question everything while you're still alive, that is the only way to get to the truth.

My sister is 18, and she chose to wear one when she gets married

[Frequency]

(Original post by DaveSmith99)
You should follow your religion if you believe in it and you want to, not because your parents are pressuring you to.

I want to but, sometimes it just gets in the way..

[Beebumble]

Actually I've heard from a few muslim friends who wear hijabs and who don't who say the requirement is "to cover up" and it's up to you how you interpret that. Obviously I'm not sure on that but just what I've been told.

[senator88]

(Original post by Frequency)
So basically, I'm a Muslim girl and I'm in year 7. I've been wearing a hijab on my head to school since September, and now it's May. I decided by myself that I'd stop wearing it for reasons like; it's really hot now; it was never my choice to wear one, but I was just quiet about it toward my parents*; I was late for an exam the other day because I was still changing after PE (my parents weren't happy about that); I was in Science working with a bunson burner when my hijab almost caught on fire until my friend pushed me out of the way; I just genuinely don't like wearing one.
My older brother came home from uni and asked me why I wear it, and my reply was literally, "I don't know."
He said: "It's your choice, y'know."

*I thought it was compulsory to wear one in my religion, but isn't it supposed to be my choice whether to wear one or not?

At the start of year 7 my mum said to me, "You're wearing a hijab in year 7, okay?"
Me, "Okay."
My parents are a bit strict if I say so myself, but that's irrelevant at the moment.
Three days ago I went to school without a hijab, I didn't discuss anything with my parents which I now regret. Whilst I was in school everyone complimented me about how better I looked, which seemed to encourage me...
I came home from school that day and my mum was sleeping. She woke up about 2 hours later and knew that I didn't wear my hijab to school. When my dad got home from work my mum told him and he asked me why. Our conversation was a little like this:
Dad: "Why didn't you wear it?"
Me: "I just don't wanna wear one anymore."
I tried to keep my voice firm but he just got angrier. He shouted at me and I started crying because he was so mad. He then shouted at my older brother for telling me it's my choice. I came in then and said, "It's not his fault,"
But my dad interrupted me and told me to shut up and get out.
My mum spoke to me and said once I take it off, I'll never get it back on. She said I'll forget my religion, but I know I won't. They assumed I would. My dad was still angry at me and my brother, so I went up to my room.
I was so upset, I dialed childline and really wanted to tell them what happened. The lady on the phone said hi and asked if I wanted to talk to a Councillor tonight, and I cried on the phone and put it down.
I know it's not a big deal, maybe I'm just sensitive.
My parents went out then, and came back and called my name. I went downstairs and my dad hugged me and said I don't have to wear one if I don't want to, then told me to stay downstairs, but I went back to my room. About 10 minutes later they called my brother down. I heard them talking downstairs and I went and stood by the door and listened. They were talking to my brother and were telling him he should think before he gave advice to me, because I'm just a "kid." My brother said, "But it's her choice." They said no it's not and explained that I can't just take it off and put it on whenever I like.
BUT, the thing is, I wear one to school AND NOWHERE ELSE. I tried to explain that to my mum but she just sighed and shook her head.

The next day my mum came in and woke me up for school like always, only this time she didn't touch me, she hardly stepped foot in my room. Usually she comes in and pulls the blanket off me. I tried to ignore that she hardly spoke to me and got up to change into my uniform for school. When I got downstairs for breakfast my mum was sleeping, but she usually drops me off to school, so she shouldn't have been sleeping... I asked her and she said I'm walking today.
My dad came downstairs and was putting his shoes on, he said: "You look different without your hijab. You look weird."
I ignored him.

The next day I walked to school again because mum wanted me to, only this time she wasn't sleeping.
And now it's the third day without wearing a hijab, and I have no idea what to do.
Maybe my parents will stop being discouraging?
Maybe it'll wear-off?
Please help...

Tell your parents you are still faithful to your religion, but that it's your choice and you just don't want to wear one. They might be a bit miffed for a while but it will definitely wear off. It's normal for people to get angry with each other, but it doesn't last forever

[catastrophe]

I'm not muslim myself, but many of my friends are. Some wear hijabs, some don't. I agree with your brother in saying that it is 100% your choice. You don't need a hijab to define you as a muslim and it doesn't make you any less one. It's simply a case of some people feel it helps them, some don't.

[Riderz]

(Original post by Frequency)
And I will wear a hijab, when I'm ready, not when I'm told to

Luckily you live in the UK, where you have a right - protected by law - to choose your own dress. Nobody can force you to wear it if you dont want to.

God Bless the Queen. Hurrah Hurrah etc etc

[bad8oy]

(Original post by Issy123)
LOL. Generalisation much?

ye but its true the ones that wear 'hijaab' are the ones that wear tight clothes and loadsa makeup with a boyfriend lol. If you ask me there isnt much point in the hijaab, other aspects of religion are more important. for example some of them young girls will wear the hijaab but not pray 5 times a day. which one is worse?

[KJane]

(Original post by Frequency)
And I will wear a hijab, when I'm ready, not when I'm told to

Then there you go. You're parents aren't happy, but I highly doubt it will stay that way. I've had arguments with my parents where they've acted funny for a few days afterwards, let them be for a while and hopefully soon it will be back to normal. When you want to wear it then you do so, but don't go back to wearing it now if you aren't comfortable with it. Your parents can learn to adjust.

[sufyan112]

if your in year 7 im guessing it isnt compulsory to wear a hijab
But ye you should consider it when you get older
at the end of the day, its between you and your parents, there's nothing we can do

[Hood_Man]

(Original post by Frequency)
I can't do that.. My older brother and sister aren't very religious, they focus on school and work, so my parents are depending on me and putting me under pressure

The sooner you nip it in the bud the sooner they'll get used to it.

These things take time but they're your parents, they'll love you no matter what. The fact that your dad hugged you and said you didn't need to wear it tells me he cares more about what makes you happy.

Your mum will come round eventually.

[Issy123]

If you haven't yet 'matured' i don't think its compulsory for you to wear it. If you know what i mean...

[Patrik]

(Original post by Steevee)
Myabe this will help you see how absurd religion can be.

If you're a Muslim, you are required to wear the Hijab. If you're a rational human, then you know that such obligation is absurd, and I welcome you to take a long hard look at your religion.

When there is an issue with religion, I find it is usually the humans whom interpret it that are the issue. Examples of this range from Islam being used to justify terrorism(yet there are Muslims who disagree with it), to Christianity hating on homosexuality(yet there are Christians who are ok with it!). It's the people whom are at greater fault, not the religion.

[Steevee]

(Original post by Frequency)
And I will wear a hijab, when I'm ready, not when I'm told to

Not the option within Islam. You wear the Hijab. That's the rule. You don't pick and choose when. You wear it as you are told to by the Quran and Hadith, just ask your Imam.

Now, if that strikes you as a little silly, again, I'd invite you to evaluate your religion

EDIT : Soo, is the neg from the TSR Muslim Rep Brigade, or the liberal TSR'ers who hate me saying that she is required to wear the Hijab by her religion? Who knows?

[roodootoo]

Do all the muslim girls in your year wear one? In my year it is about half and half, so it doesn't really matter to most people. To be honest, and I know I am being risque here, the muslim girls I know who don't wear the hijab stick better to the loving, moral parts of their religion than the girls who do.

My mum is exactly the same after an argument with me... She will probably be moody for a few days but after she sees you aren't giving up your religion or your opinion she will get over it. As they said, it is your choice at the end of the day.

[Steevee]

(Original post by Patrik)
When there is an issue with religion, I find it is usually the humans whom interpret it that are the issue. Examples of this range from Islam being used to justify terrorism(yet there are Muslims who disagree with it), to Christianity hating on homosexuality(yet there are Christians who are ok with it!). It's the people whom are at greater fault, not the religion.

I agree with you to an extent, but Islam is rather clear on this issue.

[Issy123]

(Original post by bad8oy)
ye but its true the ones that wear 'hijaab' are the ones that wear tight clothes and loadsa makeup with a boyfriend lol. If you ask me there isnt much point in the hijaab, other aspects of religion are more important. for example some of them young girls will wear the hijaab but not pray 5 times a day. which one is worse?

Of course praying 5 times a day is the most important aspect of Islam. If you don't pray 5 times a day you're not even regarded as a Muslim so yeah its definitely the most important aspect.

But i don't agree with what you're saying about people who wear the hijab.

However i see where you're getting it from, i've seen quite a few hijabis who wear tight clothes and have boyfriends, but then there's also a lot of non-hijabis who do that too. The only reason why they aren't frowned upon is because they don't wear a hijab so its seen as okay for them to do it

Anyway the hijaab is still important, Its a part of Islam, whether people like it or not.

[Nightstar-27]

The Quran says women have to dress modestly, this is kind of subjective but considering the time it was written this probably means covering your hair, however it is your choice as to whether you want to do this at this particular time. If you find the hijab impractical for school then I would advise you not to wear it, especially as you have almost set it on fire by accident already (did you tell your parents this btw?). At the end of the day, how you follow your religion is your choice. Your parents are probably just a bit mad and upset at the minute, they might be scared you not wearing the hijab means you're turning away from the religion. You might want to compromise with them by saying you'll wear it in the winter and on days when you don't have chemistry or PE. But then again that's up to you.

[Issy123]

(Original post by Steevee)
Not the option within Islam. You wear the Hijab. That's the rule. You don't pick and choose when. You wear it as you are told to by the Quran and Hadith, just ask your Imam.

Now, if that strikes you as a little silly, again, I'd invite you to evaluate your religion

That is true, gotta love the negs you're getting for actually speaking the truth about this.

[brunettegirl92]

(Original post by Riz10)
You say you're muslim> then follow the islamic way of life, its for your own benefit. but at the end of the day its upto you, but if you say you are muslim then you
should wear a hijab regardless of the circumstances!

actually, the hijab isn't islamic; its cultural. however it may be linked to traditional religion.

I'll give you an example from what I know.

I am christian. some circles of christianity condemn sex before marriage in order to remain pure. But there is nothing that says this explicitly in the bible. it is a CULTURAL interpretation of a text, but not actually stated in the text.

It is possible to be a muslim without following asian culture with regards to clothing.