[Sapphire33]

i feel like i've hit a brick wall. i have no passion, no motivation to do things. my low self esteem contributes to this as i hate going out because of the way i look. i want to be a doctor and hopefully study medicine. i feel like i won't be able to achieve this because of my laziness and lack of motivation to study. i didn't do too well in my GCSEs and i ended up getting only 4 GCSEs grades ranging from A-C. i went to sixth form to study subjects i don't even enjoy (sociology, politics, business) and now i feel like dropping out now exams are over and start again. i currently want to biology, chemistry and maths A Level privately (self study) and i'll be able to complete these A Levels within 1 year. i have no friends, i've lost contact with friends from high school as everyone has parted ways. things at home are pretty bad (my younger sister is violent and got excluded from school in year 9, she now doesn't attend school and just sleeps during the day) which also contributed to my low attendance and poor performance at high school. i just feel so overwhelmed and sad at the fact i have so many resources and opportunities to change my life for the better. i feel like im wasting these opportunities. im so confused i don't know what to do anymore. i have hopes and dreams just like everybody else. i want to move out and go to university, make new friends and live my life. i really am stuck. please help.

[TitanicTeutonicPhil]

Yup, that sounds pretty bad. Get a sugar daddy and don't worry about life.

[MasterYoda]

Do or do not....there is no try.

[Pseudo-truth]

Pick yourself up, stop blaming your lack of success on external factors, and just do it. We're all rooting for you, you just have to start rooting for yourself. And trying.

Your negativity makes failure inevitable.

[senator88]

If you do what you've always done, you'll get what you've always got!
Stop seeing changing things as such a mission...it's not. Write a list of all the things you want to do, even things you're not sure about and then go about thinking about how to achieve them and the steps you need to take. Nothing will be handed to you on a plate, but it's only you who can change your attitude and outlook. Good luck, and cheer up!

[A.J10]

If it's really that bad, go see a doctor and see if you can get happy pills.

we've all hit that massive wall of "why the **** am I even doing this" at some point, it'll pass one way or another.

[sil3nt_cha0s]

(Original post by TitanicTeutonicPhil)
Yup, that sounds pretty bad. Get a sugar daddy and don't worry about life.

haha were you watching the report on the news tonight? (Channel 4 news specifically)

[whiteing]

ahaha sounds alot like me 2 years ago :P i had no motivation what so ever at GCSE was predicted straight *s and got no As a load of BC and Ds :') went to do A levels picked whatever everyone else was doing and whether i liked the teacher. Did "poo" as i didnt have a clue what i wanted to do, only that i didnt what to continue ,
It took me a year out of lazying around till about 2 months ago to realise what i wanted to do and what my plan was, I'm also going to do self study 2or3 A levels next year

My advice is find out what you more or less want to do, aim high, and work your "bum" off for the next year and abit

[AtomSmasher]

(Original post by Sapphire33)
i feel like i've hit a brick wall. i have no passion, no motivation to do things. my low self esteem contributes to this as i hate going out because of the way i look. i want to be a doctor and hopefully study medicine. i feel like i won't be able to achieve this because of my laziness and lack of motivation to study. i didn't do too well in my GCSEs and i ended up getting only 4 GCSEs grades ranging from A-C. i went to sixth form to study subjects i don't even enjoy (sociology, politics, business) and now i feel like dropping out now exams are over and start again. i currently want to biology, chemistry and maths A Level privately (self study) and i'll be able to complete these A Levels within 1 year. i have no friends, i've lost contact with friends from high school as everyone has parted ways. things at home are pretty bad (my younger sister is violent and got excluded from school in year 9, she now doesn't attend school and just sleeps during the day) which also contributed to my low attendance and poor performance at high school. i just feel so overwhelmed and sad at the fact i have so many resources and opportunities to change my life for the better. i feel like im wasting these opportunities. im so confused i don't know what to do anymore. i have hopes and dreams just like everybody else. i want to move out and go to university, make new friends and live my life. i really am stuck. please help.

Why did you study completely contrary subjects to the ones you were interested in? If you were planning to go to uni how could that possibly have been a good idea?

First you need to think seriously about what you want to do at uni, considering what you enjoy and what you could get a job (that you would enjoy) in. You should also think seriously about whether it is even necessary for you to go to uni. Now, if you are able to apply with your current A-levels, do it. If not, pursue your plan of doing A-levels for a further year. You might want to move away from home to study, if it's important for you to make new friends. It's an overused phrase, but the world really is your oyster if you want it to be.

[king0vdarkness]

(Original post by Sapphire33)
i feel like i've hit a brick wall. i have no passion, no motivation to do things. my low self esteem contributes to this as i hate going out because of the way i look. i want to be a doctor and hopefully study medicine. i feel like i won't be able to achieve this because of my laziness and lack of motivation to study. i didn't do too well in my GCSEs and i ended up getting only 4 GCSEs grades ranging from A-C. i went to sixth form to study subjects i don't even enjoy (sociology, politics, business) and now i feel like dropping out now exams are over and start again. i currently want to biology, chemistry and maths A Level privately (self study) and i'll be able to complete these A Levels within 1 year. i have no friends, i've lost contact with friends from high school as everyone has parted ways. things at home are pretty bad (my younger sister is violent and got excluded from school in year 9, she now doesn't attend school and just sleeps during the day) which also contributed to my low attendance and poor performance at high school. i just feel so overwhelmed and sad at the fact i have so many resources and opportunities to change my life for the better. i feel like im wasting these opportunities. im so confused i don't know what to do anymore. i have hopes and dreams just like everybody else. i want to move out and go to university, make new friends and live my life. i really am stuck. please help.

SNAP! i was in the EXACT position as you, no exaggeration! I was feeling really bad at the end of year 12 and i got bccd. I was having some real family problems and wasn't enjoying school life and my teachers, for the subjects i wanted to do, were really bad. So i left and started a fresh at Richard Challoner school in yr 12 with new subjects that i was actually good at i made new friends went out and had great fun. and know after june exams im on my way to warwick to study mechanical engineering. If you do this to (i.e move school) with your parents' support you'll succeed and inspire your sisiter to work hard too! PS if you dont have a personal study room get one or go to your local library to study. hope this helps!

[Masoudy]

(Original post by Sapphire33)
i feel like i've hit a brick wall. i have no passion, no motivation to do things. my low self esteem contributes to this as i hate going out because of the way i look. i want to be a doctor and hopefully study medicine. i feel like i won't be able to achieve this because of my laziness and lack of motivation to study. i didn't do too well in my GCSEs and i ended up getting only 4 GCSEs grades ranging from A-C. i went to sixth form to study subjects i don't even enjoy (sociology, politics, business) and now i feel like dropping out now exams are over and start again. i currently want to biology, chemistry and maths A Level privately (self study) and i'll be able to complete these A Levels within 1 year. i have no friends, i've lost contact with friends from high school as everyone has parted ways. things at home are pretty bad (my younger sister is violent and got excluded from school in year 9, she now doesn't attend school and just sleeps during the day) which also contributed to my low attendance and poor performance at high school. i just feel so overwhelmed and sad at the fact i have so many resources and opportunities to change my life for the better. i feel like im wasting these opportunities. im so confused i don't know what to do anymore. i have hopes and dreams just like everybody else. i want to move out and go to university, make new friends and live my life. i really am stuck. please help.

Go to the nearest mosque, hear what muslims say and who know? You have your own mind to judge things

peace

[g_star_raw_1989]

There is no use blaming external factors. A good way to think about things when you're in a particularly difficult situation is to act and behave as if you chose to be in it.

[Mangaka]

(Original post by Masoudy)
Go to the nearest mosque, hear what muslims say and who know? You have your own mind to judge things

peace

I agree, instead of trying to change anything, just pray to the magic man in the sky.

[Darkarium]

Props to anyone who wants to do self study. I messed up college and took the time to do it myself and now I have a conditional at Bristol and likely AAA grades, it seems like a mammoth task at first but if you enjoy what you're doing there's very little pressure and it's great working on your own terms.

[katyness]

(Original post by Darkarium)
Props to anyone who wants to do self study. I messed up college and took the time to do it myself and now I have a conditional at Bristol and likely AAA grades, it seems like a mammoth task at first but if you enjoy what you're doing there's very little pressure and it's great working on your own terms.

I'm not sure how I feel about it. I can't say I think you're as prepared for uni as someone who actually went to college. If you like working with very little pressure, how are you going to handle university?

[TitanicTeutonicPhil]

(Original post by sil3nt_cha0s)
haha were you watching the report on the news tonight? (Channel 4 news specifically)

Nope, don't have British TV where I live (Germany). It's just my standard
recommendation to (pretty) girls who suck at life.

[Darkarium]

(Original post by katyness)
I'm not sure how I feel about it. I can't say I think you're as prepared for uni as someone who actually went to college. If you like working with very little pressure, how are you going to handle university?

On the contrary, uni's are more interested in self-study students because to motivate yourself to do it you have to have a genuine interest in the subject and a large part of uni is self-study between lectures anyway. You don't have someone looking over your shoulder all the time in both.

[katyness]

(Original post by Darkarium)
On the contrary, uni's are more interested in self-study students because to motivate yourself to do it you have to have a genuine interest in the subject and a large part of uni is self-study between lectures anyway. You don't have someone looking over your shoulder all the time in both.

Well fair enough then

[Aconcernedparent]

I know how you feel. Lately I've had a bit of the same 'existencial crisis'. Probably because I'm struggling with changing homes, the guy I'm dating is away, and I haven't seen my family in a long time.
Seriously though, you can hit that wall even if things are going well in your life. I'm writing a list of things I want in life and which of those I can work to achieve in 2012. But before that, I'm off to get a bottle of wine.