[organizedchaos]

So I've had so many interviews for jobs until I go to uni in September at Falmouth in Cornwall which is ages away from me (London). All have declined me I think on the basis that I will not be permenant there as I will be going away - obviously they only want to train one person for the job instead of several.

So I'm really desperate for money so in an interview for a clothes store the other day (my mum suggested this btw) I said I applied to go uni in september but its local (in London where I also applied and got in but is really my second choice).
She said oh okay would you be able to work after that so I was like 'depends on the workload/days' (obviously I can't because I'll be in falmouth)

I honestly didnt think I would get it but today the woman phoned me back and basically offered me the job so I got an introdution day tomorrow.

However I looked at my CV that I gave the woman it said I was going to Falmouth I think - she didn't look at it but I can say I changed it on UCAs anyway if I do.

But now I'm regretting this thinking forward. How about if I make friends with people I work with and add them on facebook and they see that I've added falmouth under education so someone from my old class asks me how its going in falmouth?
How about if I get a job down falmouth and need to get references and then I have to get a refernce from this woman and it will say that this job is in falmouth - she'll know I've lied.

I don't know what to do? Am I getting too worked up over this?

[mkhan]

Dude!..chill!
its a job!, and just a small white lie you told
work there then quit..its life..everyone does it
don't get so worked up about it

[ColourDog]

I think you're worrying about it too much Doesn't sound like she read your CV in depth if what you said contradicted it and she still offered you the job....
Just say you changed your mind because the course they offer at Falmouth is better They'll understand that you don't want to spend forever in retail

[Pawsies]

Don't add work colleagues. You won't ever be able to use this woman as a reference as you've lied and you won't have been there long enough anyway.

But saying that loads of people do this. From an employers view it's a load of hassle as you hire someone to have to then hire someone else a few months later. I'll be honest and say it's selfish but I suppose that's the way to get to the top sometimes.

[aftrglw]

So, she hasn't even said anything to you and you're already freaking out? Relax, I doubt she'll care that much, it's not like she hired you to be the new store manager or something that's really going to cause her trouble. Even if you make friends at work and they know you're going off to the middle of nowhere in three months, I doubt they'll be so entranced by you to talk about it in front of her or try and rat you out. No offence, but I just can't imagine you're that important...

[Aneesa.x]

As long as you make sure you haven't signed any contract or anything saying you'l work for a specific amount on months, it will be fine! When you're due to start uni all you got to do is explain to the lady that you changed your mind and you think the university in Falmouth would be better for you! Stop worrying you're gonna give yourself grey hairs! Who knows, if you work hard enough and give them a good impression, if they have a store near to where you'l be moving they might even offer to transfer you.

[ufo2012]

Although it's never good to lie, at least you have found work, will have some money for yourself and in the end when it is time, just quit.

You won't have lost anything in the process, meanwhile the employer has only lost a little bit of time because they have to find/interview someone else when you go.

So what? Their loss (obviously) - happens all the time.

You are thinking with way too much of an honest head on your shoulders - be aware that employers are out for their own best interests - so likewise, be out for your own as the (now) employee.

[PeterOkenla11]

Stupid cow

[aberdeenchick]

I recently got offered a job which ended up being more hours than I wanted and far more inconvenient than I'd expected; when they rang me it sounded like I'd accepted the job though I never said it explicitly and they tried to set up an intro day. I freaked out majorly because I now didn't want the job but I rang back and told them I didn't want it and I'd rather not mess them around.

As far as I'm aware you don't have to put a job you were offered on your CV so don't worry about that! I've never known anyone put jobs they were offered down - people are only ever interested in what you've actually done.

So I'd say your options are a) say you've changed your mind about unis, b) say you've changed your mind about the job and don't want to mess them around or c) ring and say you were offered another job and it was more convenient travel wise / better pay - you get the idea. But whatever you do, if you do decide to decline it, don't leave it ages before you let them know because it will look bad then.

[katyness]

(Original post by mkhan)
Dude!..chill!
its a job!, and just a small white lie you told
work there then quit..its life..everyone does it
don't get so worked up about it

This. I like to believe everyone tells a small white lie to get a job especially nowadays when it's so hard to get one.
As long as you're always on time and your performance is flawless, you'll never have a problem

[meow444]

To be honest it's pretty normal for people to do this kind of thing. Especially for people to say that they are available to work for longer than they can.

Seriously don't worry about it. The person that interviewed you might not even have much contact with you after this.

And yeah, don't add your work colleagues on FB, it's just generally a bad idea. Tell them you only add family and super close friends, or you don't have it if they ask (although they might not anyway).

[pinkangelgirl]

i did the exact same thing just before i came to uni..

i got a job at tesco for the summer and told them i wasnt going to uni.

suffice to say it was awkward when i handed my notice in 3 months later

[ufo2012]

good on you pinkangelgirl

awkward maybe for a minute or two but surely the money you got outweighed that one awkward moment

(Original post by aberdeenchick)
I recently got offered a job which ended up being more hours than I wanted and far more inconvenient than I'd expected; when they rang me it sounded like I'd accepted the job though I never said it explicitly and they tried to set up an intro day. I freaked out majorly because I now didn't want the job but I rang back and told them I didn't want it and I'd rather not mess them around.

Again an example of employer suiting themselves, so you were right to suit yourself and say no. Really they should have made the hours clear in the first place.

And yeah, don't add your work colleagues on FB, it's just generally a bad idea. Tell them you only add family and super close friends, or you don't have it if they ask (although they might not anyway).

NEVER add work colleagues on Facebook - you are just asking for trouble!

[threeportdrift]

(Original post by organizedchaos)
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You really only have two choices - continue the live the lie for the summer and face a probably uncomfortable resignation and risk not getting a reference, or tell the truth and risk the job. At the end of the test day (having done a good job and looked useful) say to the employer that you think you ought to tell her that you are seriously considering taking a university offer you have for Falmouth. Then see what they say.

A lot of people have said there is no problem here, take the money, resign and don't worry about it. That's a route you could take. However the fact that 18/19 year olds do this so often is one of the key reasons why they are collectively, finding it so difficult to find work. Employers know that if they employ an 18/19 year old with GCSEs and 3 A levels, they will almost certainly quit and go to university, whatever they say at interview.

[x Danny]

Think of it another way, the employer doesnt care as much about you as you are doing about them, right? Quit when you feel it's necessary and if it gets brought up, say you changed your mind; it's not like its your career.

[StacFace]

If anyone asks just tell them that it doesn't look like you're going to get the grades for Falmouth so chances are you will end up at [insurance choice uni in London], which is why you told them that was where you were going in September. If any friends then post anything like 'good luck for Falmouth' or 'congrats on getting into Falmouth' it is then explained as you doing much better than you thought you would in your exams. If friends insist you will get in then that is them trying to reassure you etc.

[ufo2012]

(Original post by x Danny)
Think of it another way, the employer doesnt care as much about you as you are doing about them, right? Quit when you feel it's necessary and if it gets brought up, say you changed your mind; it's not like its your career.

This is the attitude to take for definite.

Just accept it

[razzmatazz rach]

I did the same last year and the once it came round to August I told them I didn't get in to my local uni and got in somewhere through clearing and had to move away and quit the job.

[milienhaus]

If it ever comes up, why not say that London is your firm and Falmouth your insurance, and then just 'miss your offer'? That would probably explain the Facebook messages if that happens.

[GeorgiaFashion]

IDEA - Say that Falmouth is your second choice, and then when august comes around say that you didn;t get into your first choice (which you say is london) and that you're very sorry but will have to leave to go in september. I am going to Falmouth also!