[Anonymous]

It's a very complicated thing. He lives in London and I in Scotland. I'm the kind of person that really takes to older men when under the influence of most drugs but when sober I have no feelings for anyone.


I feel attracted to him but I don't know how much is him and how much is his £400 million. I've stayed at his mansion and rode in his Ferrari. I feel really scared of just going for it (he says that once we have sex then that is us in a relationship - I'm a virgin).

Should I just go for it? I feel worried being in public with him as it just makes me feel so cheap and awful (as if I am with him for his money) and being introduced to his friends (I met Dustin Hoffman at his house and the Thai Prime Minister).

Another bad thing is I am too scared to tell anyone. I sneak down to London every two weeks. Now that summer is here he is pressing me to make a decision. I know that if I am attracted to him I should just go for it. I definitely feel a physical attraction and I don't for one second feel I'm missing out on younger men or don't want to be with him. But at the same time in his presence I feel like a whore. He doesn't do anything to make me feel that way other than constantly complimenting me and trying to purchase things for me. I have not accepted a single thing from him yet as it destroys me the dynamics of a rich old man and me his 19 year old floozy.


I actually turned 20 this week but I haven't met him since being 20 (last week) so for all intent and purposes I'm 19.

[Anonymous]

I feel guilty for enjoying his company and I feel so dirty that for being attracted to him and not some 20 year old guy from uni

[CountvonCount]

(Original post by Anonymous)
But at the same time in his presence I feel like a whore. He doesn't do anything to make me feel that way other than constantly complimenting me and trying to purchase things for me. I have not accepted a single thing from him yet as it destroys me the dynamics of a rich old man and me his 19 year old floozy.

That's exactly what it is for him; why do you think rich old men have young girls on their arms. They are trophy girlfriends/wives. There are a lot of young women that are attracted to money, and there are plenty of rich older men that want to impress they're mates.

It's pretty clear that he is trying to buy you, he has essentially said that if you sleep with him you get a Ferrari. Why do think Heidi Klum had a kid with Flavio Briatore of all people, Ronnie Wood has 19 year olds hanging off him. These girls are gritting their teeth for the financial gain. Luckily you haven't quite gone past the point of no return.

Keep your dignity and find someone that doesn't need to buy your affection.

[UPPSY]

be a floozy enjoy the money and enjoy shagging your dad (not literally but you get my drift)

[Anonymous]

(Original post by CountvonCount)
That's exactly what it is for him; why do you think rich old men have young girls on their arms. They are trophy girlfriends/wives. There are a lot of young women that are attracted to money, and there are plenty of rich older men that want to impress they're mates.

It's pretty clear that he is trying to buy you, he has essentially said that if you sleep with him you get a Ferrari. Why do think Heidi Klum had a kid with Flavio Briatore of all people, Ronnie Wood has 19 year olds hanging off him. These girls are gritting their teeth for the financial gain. Luckily you haven't quite gone past the point of no return.

Keep your dignity and find someone that doesn't need to buy your affection.

If ever I want to be in a relationship I want to be attracted to the person (which I am to him) but at the same time I want to feel equal (which I don't), I want to feel valued, I want to feel like I'm bringing something to the table.

It almost makes me feel guilty and ashamed for being attracted to him as all I think about is the fact that he is both rich and old, if he was just old then I think I would manage that fine but the money ****s it up. Thanks for the advice, you really have put into perspective the trade off between feeling inferior and the meaning of what a relationship should be and how it shoudl ma

[g_star_raw_1989]

Its obvious he is trying to buy your affection but if you don't mind that then go for it. Although, he might get bored of you after awhile and decide to replace you in which case you're dignity and self-respect will be destroyed. Depends which you value more, I guess.

[snozzle]

If it make you happy go for it, but you're just an object to him.

[Anonymous]

I don't understand why girls lower themselves to this sort of thing.

Girl - leave 'grab-a-grandad' alone, get some dignity and find someone your own age, or near abouts!

Urgh!

[j0hn]

Let's not pretend like you're not attracted to his money, you said yourself you're only attracted to older men 'under the influence of most drugs'. Apart from that, why else would you go out with a fifty year old man? Yes people will think you are his floozy, because actually that's what you will be. It's your choice, he's effectively buying you like any other commodity and if you want your life legacy to be that of a sponger then go for it. Just remember that money doesnt make you happy and neither does a loveless relationship, so you need to ask yourself if this would be such a dilemma if he wasn't loaded.

[meow444]

Avoid him.

I had a rich older man go after me when I was 17. He was a nasty guy.

Just keep away from men like that.

[Anonymous]

Feeling inferior in a relationship could really destroy you. My last relationship was with a much older man who I always felt inferior to. He was a professor of mine, so there was that, but he also just didn't do enough to make me feel confident and good about myself. Even though I am a very strong and independent person, after two years with him, I was suffering from anxieties, and breaking up with him was a great relief.
Now I am with an older man again, who is also a professor, but somehow the dynamics are very different, and he really makes me feel that he is with me because he is fascinated by me. And the relationship feels very healthy and makes me feel really good.
What I want to say is, if you think you are going to feel inferior, and like you are not bringing anything to the table, then don't do it. It's not that I am categorically against this sort of thing, but he should be giving you the feeling that you are worth any effort on his part, and he is onviously not.

[jam277]

I smell it. I guess he might be a fun guy though. But really it's the money, lets be serious.

[Fruitcake_OX]

Go for it, not many girls can say that they have met all these interesting people and done all of these interesting things. Who cares what people think when they see you, what matters is how you feel.

To be honest, just milk it really, while you can because you may aswell

[Studentus-anonymous]

Don't worry, there is no danger of a relationship with this guy, from what I've read, you're just bought sex to him.

[iPodTunes]

How did you meet this guy?

[Anonymous]

As you're a virgin and seem so unsure, i'd say steer well clear.

However, if it was me, I would milk it to be honest. As long as there was at least some physical attraction.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by iPodTunes)
How did you meet this guy?

He is the patron of the football association I play with (it was born from a charitable institution to get kids off the street and into safe past times. I've been playing for them since I was 11 but never met him till I was 19).

[un-jardin-sur-le-nil]

if he's rich and trying to buy you things why are you saying no, you genuinely do like this guy so i see no harm in accepting them?!

[Aoide]

Don't worry about what people think.
If he makes you feel too uncomfortable ditch him.
If being with the rich guy makes you happy do it- many people may disaprove but even if you are there for the money, if you're both happy where is the problem.

[Fires]

It's summer time and the trollin' is easy.