Friends aren't really friends.
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Friends aren't really friends.Hi.
Well i have a small group of friends from university and we hang out all the time at uni and get on ok i guess. But the thing is i don't ever see them outside of uni. They never want to do anything and when i invite them to do something they all without fail back out. I'm really frustrated now because i don't do anything on the weekends or nights because i do't have any friends to do them with. Should i just ditch them and try and get a more active group of friends? And even that's easier said than done for someone like me who finds making deep friendships quite difficult. -
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Re: Friends aren't really friends.Im in the exact same situation, however my friends will hang out after uni only near to uni to grab a bite to eat or maybe once in a while to go watch a movie. If friends were at home they would not bother coming out.
Dont ditch your friends, you may need them at some point. I guess you could look for new friends, but like you said its difficult, i have tried and havent succeeded.
I wish i could just call my mates up and ask to just hang out on the weekend somewhere..but no. -
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Re: Friends aren't really friends.How well do you get along with them in uni? You said "ok i guess" which could mean that you're friends but not strong friends. Are you friends because you get along with them well or because they're there to talk to in uni? (e.g. you usually sit with them in lectures) I've worded it badly, but it's very difficult to determine how close to them you are.
From the info I've been given, I wouldn't say ditch them completely. I assume you still count them as friends, after all. Why not try to make friends alongside the ones you have? -
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Re: Friends aren't really friends.Are you living at home, or did you move away for uni?
I had a similar situation, but then we all joined the same society so I saw them more often and on socials.
If I were you I would join societies then you could make more friends and go out with them on socials.
