[Judgey]

So, my friends are all back from University and, well... some of them just will not shut up about their experiences and how much they love it and blah blah blah. I've not had the best university experience, I didn't leave home so naturally things will wind me up when I hear about "the could of been!" scenarios, but when I have to listen to things like this:
"Yeah I really don't want to come home, I've made friends for life there it's s*** here!"
"My course finished 2 months ago but I'm not coming back yet I love it here!"
"Yeah omg uni is just so amazing I went out and... got drunk and... then this happened..."

...Yes, it is hugely jealousy, but what can I do to put up with this!?

[OmicronPersei8]

Stop being so "judgey" .

[Iron Lady]

That is life. You're old enough to move on; that attitude is very year 5.

[Artymess]

Why sit here dwelling on 'what could have been' and 'what you could have achieved'? Just go out there and enjoy life and have no regrets

[sammy-lou]

(Original post by Judgey)
So, my friends are all back from University and, well... some of them just will not shut up about their experiences and how much they love it and blah blah blah. I've not had the best university experience, I didn't leave home so naturally things will wind me up when I hear about "the could of been!" scenarios, but when I have to listen to things like this:
"Yeah I really don't want to come home, I've made friends for life there it's s*** here!"
"My course finished 2 months ago but I'm not coming back yet I love it here!"
"Yeah omg uni is just so amazing I went out and... got drunk and... then this happened..."

...Yes, it is hugely jealousy, but what can I do to put up with this!?

Oh that must be horrible for you, sorry to hear that you're experience hasn't gone to plan.

Firstly, I'd give it time in the hope that they calm down after a few days. But I would say, regardless of if they shut up or not, you need to talk to them and let them know how bad it's been for you. Hopefully if they know that you've not been too good then they'll think to quiet down about how great they've had it.

You don't want to come across as bitter though - I know it's so difficult but try to at least pretend that you're a bit happy for them! The last thing you want to do is distance yourself from your friends at home when you're feeling kind of lonely anyway.

All the best

[fbear]

Well I have a fair few regrets in life but all you can do is just look how to improve yourself at the next given opportunity and work towards that. Just focus on your post-grad maybe, living out then and going to the university of your dreams.

(Original post by OmicronPersei8)
Stop being so "judgey" .

Who is that in your sig?

[Judgey]

(Original post by Iron Lady)
That is life. You're old enough to move on; that attitude is very year 5.

Oh yes, it's very year 5 of me to think that my friends are no longer arsed about me and would prefer to be elsewhere.
Your snarky attitude is what's year 5.

Thank you for the advice sammy-lou, I'll keep it in mind.

[Iron Lady]

(Original post by Judgey)
Oh yes, it's very year 5 of me to think that my friends are no longer arsed about me and would prefer to be elsewhere.

Friends are a waste of time anyway, especially if they're from secondary school / sixth form. You should be glad to be rid of them to be honest.

[PeterOkenla11]

Find new friends who you come in contact with more frequently, but still keep relations with your university friends for the sake of the future. ( wedding guests) ect.
Sorry im just obsessed about marriage. :/

[dooglesballsack]

I would just try and get over it, if they're your friends they'll start taking more of an interest in you.
If they don't then try and find some new friends.
At the end of the day you made your choice to stay home, and if the shoe was on the other foot so to speak you'd want your friends to be interested in your new experiences of being away and stuff.

[Iron Lady]

(Original post by PeterOkenla11)
Sorry im just obsessed about marriage. :/

It's good to see someone who values traditional values, instead of the recklessness teenagers / young adults live by. I'm almost impressed.

[OmicronPersei8]

(Original post by fbear)
Well I have a fair few regrets in life but all you can do is just look how to improve yourself at the next given opportunity and work towards that. Just focus on your post-grad maybe, living out then and going to the university of your dreams.



Who is that in your sig?

Alexander Skasgard

[PeterOkenla11]

(Original post by Iron Lady)
It's good to see someone who values traditional values, instead of the recklessness teenagers / young adults live by. I'm almost impressed.

If i hadn't run out of ratings today, i would have given you a neg.
Im a left-wing revolutionary by the way

[kristol90]

(Original post by Iron Lady)
Friends are a waste of time anyway, especially if they're from secondary school / sixth form. You should be glad to be rid of them to be honest.

You're either a psychopath or trying to justify for your severe lack of social life. Either way, you need professional help. Best of luck.

Or a troll.

[Jimbo1234]

Stop whinning and be happy for your friends? If you can't do that then I am afraid you are just a horrible and bitter person.

[Iron Lady]

(Original post by kristol90)
You're either a psychopath or trying to justify for your severe lack of social life. Either way, you need professional help. Best of luck.

Or a troll.

Ooh, charming! I have a valid point that people you meet during secondary school / sixth form will not be there forever, and quite right too. You meet your true friends at university, through work or when you're older.

Plus, what do you expect, OP - if your friends go away to university they're going to meet new people. Just find your own friends.

Kristol90, you seriously need to get a life. Aggressive punk.

[gemnomnom]

(Original post by PeterOkenla11)
Find new friends who you come in contact with more frequently, but still keep relations with your university friends for the sake of the future. ( wedding guests) ect.
Sorry im just obsessed about marriage. :/

(Original post by Iron Lady)
It's good to see someone who values traditional values, instead of the recklessness teenagers / young adults live by. I'm almost impressed.

Both of you: what, just what...

OP: I think you've done the right thing posting on here. Now you can see this as a release, and can hopefully move on? Focus now on giving yourself the best experience possible. You can't always change the cards you're dealt, but you can change how to play 'em. Anyway, why don't you move out next year - or have you just finished your third year? Think about all the money you've saved: why not put that towards a flat or something?

[hobnob]

(Original post by Judgey)
So, my friends are all back from University and, well... some of them just will not shut up about their experiences and how much they love it and blah blah blah. I've not had the best university experience, I didn't leave home so naturally things will wind me up when I hear about "the could of been!" scenarios, but when I have to listen to things like this:
"Yeah I really don't want to come home, I've made friends for life there it's s*** here!"
"My course finished 2 months ago but I'm not coming back yet I love it here!"
"Yeah omg uni is just so amazing I went out and... got drunk and... then this happened..."

...Yes, it is hugely jealousy, but what can I do to put up with this!?

How can you be so sure that they really do 'have it all'? Those kind of hyped-up stories about how *amazing* the first year is etc. need to be taken with a pinch of salt - especially the 'friends for life' thing, because you can't possibly tell that after having known people for just a few months.

[Architecture-er]

(Original post by kristol90)
You're either a psychopath or trying to justify for your severe lack of social life. Either way, you need professional help. Best of luck.

Or a troll.

Oh look, another person who doesn't understand what 'psychopath' means


Oh and OP, if you spend your life comparing yourself to other people then you'll always be disappointed, because someone will always do better than you in one regard or another. Have a goal and achieve it, and then you'll have value in your achievements because you achieved them, not because somebody else didn't achieve them.

[Architecture-er]

(Original post by Judgey)
So, my friends are all back from University and, well... some of them just will not shut up about their experiences and how much they love it and blah blah blah. I've not had the best university experience, I didn't leave home so naturally things will wind me up when I hear about "the could of been!" scenarios, but when I have to listen to things like this:
"Yeah I really don't want to come home, I've made friends for life there it's s*** here!"
"My course finished 2 months ago but I'm not coming back yet I love it here!"
"Yeah omg uni is just so amazing I went out and... got drunk and... then this happened..."

...Yes, it is hugely jealousy, but what can I do to put up with this!?

Just remember that your friends will be, unconciously, trying to reaffirm their belief that they made the right life choice in going to their universities, so they'll naturally over-hype their experiences in order to convince themselves. For example, if I'm talking to my home friends about uni I won't talk about the cold floors, the crap smells coming from the kitchen vents and the like - because that kinda stops the conversation dead. And if they were negative, would that make you feel better? Or would you just think "if I had got their lucky break, I would've enjoyed it more" and hate them for that instead?