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Do I try and make it work? Or do I move on?We were best friends before and we got together, things started off bad, his mum hated me because i'm black(and he's white if that even matters?) That led to us sneaking around and such, we then would argue, things became so bad that I became suicidal and he just wasn't there anymore ( a lot of hurtful things were said) we were very on and off but always getting back together because I love him as he says he loves me.
Recently we've been trying to work it out but i'm never happy, despite how much I love him I don't trust him like one time we were getting back on track and then he goes and kisses another girl, (he says it was truth or dare and meant nothing but I had just told him everything I felt and was beginning to open up to him again) but now it just seems when we do get back together I can't tell him how I feel because I don't think he even loves me, i fall down to rock bottom again, i hate myself and i'm a mess. I mean throughout all of this i have not been innocent but i've remained faithful and i've been honest with him, yes i've not been the nicest of people to him but i'm angry and hurt and it just seems like he just wants us to work for his own benefit. I've talked about all of this with him and i've asked him what i'm meant to do and he said stay with him even though i'm unhappy he thinks he can make me happy. The thing is, if I leave him who is going to want me? I'm no good to anyone.
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Re: Do I try and make it work? Or do I move on?He's the thing (cheesy I know, but love's cheesy), if you're not happy with yourself there's no way anyone could do that for you even if they love you. I was in the same position once, I kept holding on because of the words he said to me. A person is defined by their actions. Leave him, if it wasn't good form the start, there's no way that'll happen, that's just relationships for you.
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Thank you, i just want to forget it all(Original post by Stahr1)
He's the thing (cheesy I know, but love's cheesy), if you're not happy with yourself there's no way anyone could do that for you even if they love you. I was in the same position once, I kept holding on because of the words he said to me. A person is defined by their actions. Leave him, if it wasn't good form the start, there's no way that'll happen, that's just relationships for you.
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Re: Do I try and make it work? Or do I move on?(Original post by LoveLoveLove16)
We were best friends before and we got together, things started off bad, his mum hated me because i'm black(and he's white if that even matters?) That led to us sneaking around and such, we then would argue, things became so bad that I became suicidal and he just wasn't there anymore ( a lot of hurtful things were said) we were very on and off but always getting back together because I love him as he says he loves me.
Recently we've been trying to work it out but i'm never happy, despite how much I love him I don't trust him like one time we were getting back on track and then he goes and kisses another girl, (he says it was truth or dare and meant nothing but I had just told him everything I felt and was beginning to open up to him again) but now it just seems when we do get back together I can't tell him how I feel because I don't think he even loves me, i fall down to rock bottom again, i hate myself and i'm a mess. I mean throughout all of this i have not been innocent but i've remained faithful and i've been honest with him, yes i've not been the nicest of people to him but i'm angry and hurt and it just seems like he just wants us to work for his own benefit. I've talked about all of this with him and i've asked him what i'm meant to do and he said stay with him even though i'm unhappy he thinks he can make me happy. The thing is, if I leave him who is going to want me? I'm no good to anyone.
I just don't know what to do, anyone advice please?
first question for ya...why be with someone you are not happy with? who is not treating you the way you should be treated? parents doesn't like you cause of your colour? ...lets say for love? but at the end of the day you must ask your self, is it really worth it? can i do better than this?
Honestly, i sort of can feel where you're coming from but the best thing you can do is take a couple steps back and pick yourself up cause you are heading in a path that will only lead to more pain.
And don't talk down on yourself like that, you will get someone who will love you for who you are and for what you are not. They will appreciate you..you're still young and trust me there are loads of guys out there ...just give it a little bit of time. things will fall into place and you will look back and be like wow.
if you don't take anything i say here, i would really want you to give this a good think about - "The pain it takes to stay in time will become greater than the pain it takes to go"...
leaving him will hurt, yes but time never fails to stop the pain...
P.S - You can contact me for a chat if you like. we could talk x -
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Re: Do I try and make it work? Or do I move on?Thanks a lot, I might just do that(Original post by leukybear)
first question for ya...why be with someone you are not happy with? who is not treating you the way you should be treated? parents doesn't like you cause of your colour? ...lets say for love? but at the end of the day you must ask your self, is it really worth it? can i do better than this?
Honestly, i sort of can feel where you're coming from but the best thing you can do is take a couple steps back and pick yourself up cause you are heading in a path that will only lead to more pain.
And don't talk down on yourself like that, you will get someone who will love you for who you are and for what you are not. They will appreciate you..you're still young and trust me there are loads of guys out there ...just give it a little bit of time. things will fall into place and you will look back and be like wow.
if you don't take anything i say here, i would really want you to give this a good think about - "The pain it takes to stay in time will become greater than the pain it takes to go"...
leaving him will hurt, yes but time never fails to stop the pain...
P.S - You can contact me for a chat if you like. we could talk x
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