[Anonymous]

How do I change my personality?

Please don't give me all the "just be who you are and don't care what people think about you" nonsense.

I do care and their current judgements are correct.

[BACTSR2]

You probably only care to a limited degree. I'm guessing you're mostly antisocial but crave conversation with intelligent, perhaps like-minded people?

If this is the case, the average person may always find you to be abrasive.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by BACTSR2)
You probably only care to a limited degree. I'm guessing you're mostly antisocial but crave conversation with intelligent, perhaps like-minded people?

If this is the case, the average person my always find you to be abrasive.

This certainly describes me but it is much more extreme than that. I border on intolerance with other people and lack the social skills to disguise it.

Things have to change. I am virtually friendless because I am unpleasant to be around. I cannot do small talk. I make constant faux pas. etc. etc.

[BACTSR2]

Yeah, you're not alone in that, if you'll excuse the irony. Don't worry about it or take the fools way out. I'm a bit busy atm but if you want after tuesday we can talk on skype. You can get better, just probably pretty slowly and only towards what you actually want to be, not towards being an attention seeker or whatever.

[Sui-Kinxtar_kitty]

PM me I can give you a few tips!!

[sao desi]

Accept that everybody is different, and has their own needs and wants in life.

Maybe it's an issue of not seeking out those who are like you.

[Foo.mp3]

I am a firm believer that your core persona can only change over the very long term, if at all, and that such change is rarely as a consequence of a conscious endeavor. First you must identify which attitudes are responsible for you coming over as unpleasant, and get to the bottom of the issues underlying those attitudes, deal with those, then establish a strategy designed to correct said attitudes

[odkfn]

The fact that you can identify that there is something wrong with you and that you know what faux pas you make is strange to me. If you want to change, and you know what you don't like about yourself - then change. It's not difficult.

I.e. if you normally speak your mind to the point you annoy people then speak your mind less. If you normally don't do small talk - then do some small talk. It's no difficult to be socially accepted.

[Anonymous]

Thank you all for your help.

I wish to remain anonymous but thank you especially Sui-Kinxtar_kitty and BACTSR2 for your offers.