[Nov Rain]

I have been kind of seeing a guy over the past year. Thing is he already has a long term partner. He lives with her. There’s no kids involved. He told me it was over between them and he is waiting for the right time to leave her.

I am or was mad about him. Cant stop thinking about him. He said the same thing about me too. I would like to believe him and I gave him a chance. But he’s not doing anything and I don’t think he ever will. Which is killing me and making me realise that I was used.

He never wants to go out with me. I have tried so many times to ask him for a drink. I booked a dinner a few months ago thinking he might as it was booked. He didn’t and I had to cancel. But he can sleep with me? If I meant anything to him, surely we could do something and going out of town so no one sees us? But that has never happened.


We see each other every few weeks which is always on his terms and still no proper date. Im being hidden and being fed bull crap.
This has been making me pissed off with him and he knows how I feel about it. But he doesn’t care how I feel.


We see each other, i get pissed off, stop seeing him but it always happens again.


Right now im being fed more crap and i sersiously cannot take it anymore. He wanted to see me a few weeks ago but im not having it. It been seven weeks which is the longest. And i have no interest in seeing the low life piece of crap. He has hurt me over and over and over again. By just staying with her. He sees me as a hole and nothing more.

His plan at christmas was to get a morgage and get his own place. Six months later, he's still living with her.

Getting a place can take ages. Im not sure how long but can anyone answer me and give me a time frame to just how long it can take to apply for a morgage and get a place. He still didn't have a morgage sorted back in march. I dont know if he does now. I dont want to ask. Just asking how many more months could i add to March 2012.

March 2012 + months/weeks it takes to get a place = ?????

He was never givien me a time frame. Can anyone answer the above equation for me? He isn't. I just want some kind of indication. He wasn't happy with my suggestion of renting. Telling me he wasn't going to move into a dump, he has loads of stuff to move. Am i right in thinking renting is only a short term option, until he gets a place of his own? He can have a place by next week if he was to rent. Am i correct to think this?

But he's not doing any of it and continues to live with her. And he knows how much its been killing me.

I realise i am a fool, so please dont tell me i am. I haven't seen him in weeks and dont intend to either. If he cant walk away now, im done with him.


Not sure what kind of advice I want. But its like being stabbed. With his lies. He never had any intention of ever leaving her. Why was I such a fool to believe him?

Does it really take time to leave someone?

[kat91s]

(Original post by Nov Rain)
I have been kind of seeing a guy over the past year. Thing is he already has a long term partner. He lives with her. There’s no kids involved. He told me it was over between them and he is waiting for the right time to leave her.

I didn't have to read past this part. You've been with him for a year and he still won't break up with his partner? You say he never takes you out, and he isn't keeping his promises of moving out. Whether he plans to or not, you have been strung along for a long time.

I think it's time to move on and find someone who deserves you, and stop being second-best.

[ijb57611]

(Original post by kat91s)
I didn't have to read past this part. You've been with him for a year and he still won't break up with his partner? You say he never takes you out, and he isn't keeping his promises of moving out. Whether he plans to or not, you have been strung along for a long time.

I think it's time to move on and find someone who deserves you, and stop being second-best.

Took the words right out of my mouth.
Genuinely though, I hope you find somebody who deserves you.

[Zara<3]

What goes around comes around..you stayed with this guy knowing he has a partner..thinking he will leave everything for you..and now you're the one that's hurting..next time..the moment you hear someone's taken..do what you're supposed to do..and that's walk the opposite direction