You've only just entered your 20s. You're still very young. Don't think you've failed at adult life, there's still a heck of a lot of adult life to go! Besides, many people, whether they have Asperger's or not, leave university in the first year and either return the following year, a few years later, or not at all (and still find a challenging, successful career). Besides, university life isn't real adult life
It can take time to adapt to living independently, especially if away from home, and this is true of people with or without Asperger's. So you aren't alone. You will find something you are good at and you can do, whether that's next week, next year, or some later point.
(Original post by Fail Whale)
I am a 20 year old who was recently diagnosed with Asperger syndrome. I went to a grammar school and got decent enough grades at A-level (ABCD) and was accepted into Leeds uni. Unfortunately I didn't even last one term because the work load and lifestyle was too much for me. I became very depressed and went on medical leave but then I decided I didn't want to go back at all, so I quit. Now I'm back home with my parents and feel like crap because I can't work, am on benefits and have failed at adult life whilst all my old friends from school are about to graduate.
My adviser at the Job Centre recommended a residential college for disabled adults (Finchale college) but I don't think it's suitable, because I don't want to learn plastering or gardening. I want to do something more challenging, but I can't cope with university. I've looked for colleges specifically for autistic adults but they all seem to be for severely autistic adults and are more like care homes.
Do you know of any residential colleges that provide more challenging courses but also support for Asperger's (socialising, planning, eating correctly etc)? Do places like that even exist?
I'm not really an expert on residential colleges, I'm afraid, but is there anything specific about the lifestyle that contributed to your unhappiness? You mention meals, socialising and that sort of thing. Do you think things would be better at a smaller university and city, which isn't quite as intimidating an environment, and perhaps has a collegiate structure to provide additional support with settling in?
Is the Open University not an option? I appreciate it's not the same as studying at a brick university, and you won't have the same independence (combined with support) that you'll find at a residential college, but it will allow you to study for a good degree whilst still receive appropriate academic support. You can live at home, at least initially, so receive parental support. It need not be a solitary experience. If you want to you can meet up with local students and arrange tutorials (and, depending on the course, there can be residential schools and seminars alongside distance learning.
Last edited by River85; 29-05-2012 at 16:46.