[throughthemonsoon]

Well, next year I'm living in a house with 5 other people. We're paying an average-ish price but there is literally no space in the house considering how many of us there are. We rushed into signing our lease and stuff and although I didn't particularly like the house then, I'd only known my housemates for a few months so didn't really want to be annoying. I also thought that it would maybe grow on me, since they all loved it
Also, over time I've found that they're not very clean in the kitchen, making me really scared to live there. I'm worried I'm gonna get annoyed with the mess and the lack of space in the house after a few week/months and want to move out, although I'm not sure how/if this would work :/
Anyone else in this position/have any advice?

[me, myself and I]

Hmm, this is a tough one. I'm in a sort of similar situation but a year later. This year I shared with 4 of my friends (2 guys, 2 girls + 1 guy's girlfriend who is always round, so basically 6 of us) and stayed in a flat in private halls. The halls themselves are VERY rowdy anyway, almost like being in first year all over again. Rowdiness is fun during freshers but it can get tiresome after another year, let me tell you.
Anyway, my friends themselves, whilst I still absolutely love them to bits, have been very difficult for me to live with. They are all very loud and stay awake till the early hours almost every night. This is fair enough a couple of times a week when we'd go out or whatever, but almost every night, and for no reason, it was just a bit ridiculous. I have a very heavy timetable and I was in basically every morning at uni at 10am so found this hard, and ended up sleeping through a lot of morning lectures as i'd had a bad nights sleep
They don't purposely mean to annoy me/wake me up obviously but as I'm such a light sleeper even them having a conversation in the corridor is very disturbing because the walls here are basically made of cardboard. The boys playfight and pretend-wrestle etc all the time...
Exam time has been particularly difficult. I have the longest exam period out of them all (they all finish this week, i finish next week) so I am absolutely dreading the week where they'll be messing around enjoying post-exam life and i'll be stressing over my last one! I have an exam today for example, and got woken up last night at 2am as one of them had friends round. I went out and told them to be quiet and said I had an exam but tbh I've told my flatmates SO many times to be quiet this year that I just feel like a fusspot now.

I haven't ever let on just how unhappy I have been this year to them as I don't want to ruin our friendship, and am not a very firm person as it is, but next year I'm living with different friends, in a house. And just 3 of us girls, so that should be much better for finals

Anyway, personal ramblings all aside, your friends would need to find a replacement tenant for you if you were to leave. I don't really know if your signing the lease means you can actually back out (check with the letting agency on this) but you would probably lose any deposit money you paid in anyway.
Have you thought about where you would live instead? As I'm guessing most people have sorted houses by now, right?
I hope you get something sorted though. The reason I told you my story is that I've found this year very very difficult and i'd like to think it hasn't affected my friendships with them, but it just goes to show that being friends with people and living with them are two entirely different stories altogether, and you have every right to think twice!
Good luck with whatever you decide xx

[throughthemonsoon]

(Original post by me, myself and I)
Hmm, this is a tough one. I'm in a sort of similar situation but a year later. This year I shared with 4 of my friends (2 guys, 2 girls + 1 guy's girlfriend who is always round, so basically 6 of us) and stayed in a flat in private halls. The halls themselves are VERY rowdy anyway, almost like being in first year all over again. Rowdiness is fun during freshers but it can get tiresome after another year, let me tell you.
Anyway, my friends themselves, whilst I still absolutely love them to bits, have been very difficult for me to live with. They are all very loud and stay awake till the early hours almost every night. This is fair enough a couple of times a week when we'd go out or whatever, but almost every night, and for no reason, it was just a bit ridiculous. I have a very heavy timetable and I was in basically every morning at uni at 10am so found this hard, and ended up sleeping through a lot of morning lectures as i'd had a bad nights sleep
They don't purposely mean to annoy me/wake me up obviously but as I'm such a light sleeper even them having a conversation in the corridor is very disturbing because the walls here are basically made of cardboard. The boys playfight and pretend-wrestle etc all the time...
Exam time has been particularly difficult. I have the longest exam period out of them all (they all finish this week, i finish next week) so I am absolutely dreading the week where they'll be messing around enjoying post-exam life and i'll be stressing over my last one! I have an exam today for example, and got woken up last night at 2am as one of them had friends round. I went out and told them to be quiet and said I had an exam but tbh I've told my flatmates SO many times to be quiet this year that I just feel like a fusspot now.

I haven't ever let on just how unhappy I have been this year to them as I don't want to ruin our friendship, and am not a very firm person as it is, but next year I'm living with different friends, in a house. And just 3 of us girls, so that should be much better for finals

Anyway, personal ramblings all aside, your friends would need to find a replacement tenant for you if you were to leave. I don't really know if your signing the lease means you can actually back out (check with the letting agency on this) but you would probably lose any deposit money you paid in anyway.
Have you thought about where you would live instead? As I'm guessing most people have sorted houses by now, right?
I hope you get something sorted though. The reason I told you my story is that I've found this year very very difficult and i'd like to think it hasn't affected my friendships with them, but it just goes to show that being friends with people and living with them are two entirely different stories altogether, and you have every right to think twice!
Good luck with whatever you decide xx

thanks for your story, the difference is I live with them this year in halls, so I already know what they're like. and we have a cleaner this year but obviously we won't next year so it'll probably be left to me :/ and I think it's more the house that I don't like, rather than the people being a problem. Is it likely to grow on me if I hate it now?

[me, myself and I]

(Original post by throughthemonsoon)
thanks for your story, the difference is I live with them this year in halls, so I already know what they're like. and we have a cleaner this year but obviously we won't next year so it'll probably be left to me :/ and I think it's more the house that I don't like, rather than the people being a problem. Is it likely to grow on me if I hate it now?

Oh, when you said that the mess annoyed you that's what I was trying to relate to. Little niggling things like that can build up sometimes! With me we all had our own rooms in halls in first year, and it was catered so didn't have the whole cleanliness issue, so I didn't really know what they'd be like to live with until this year.

You never know, it might not turn out to be that bad. If you explain to them and say you don't like mess then hopefully they'll take it into consideration, and if they still persist then (unlike me) be a bit firmer. When you live together you have to compromise and they'll understand this hopefully
It's a chance you have to take, but that's down to you. If you decided not to live with them, where would you stay? Would that really be better?

[BVahid]

It's simple - if you want to get out you need to do two things (assuming the contract is still ongoing)

1) find a new place to live or a temporary sofa

2) find someone to replace you & get them to give you the deposit/one month's rent.

3) break the news to your flatmates, then point out that you aren't screwing them over - present new person.

4) move out and be happy.

[BVahid]

Ah - I just understood from your other post - you're all currently in halls but you already signed for a new place?

Could be sneaky, speak to the Landlord/Landlady and get confirmation that you can swap in someone else.

[throughthemonsoon]

Hopefully it won't be as bad as I think. fingers crossed. and if i moved out I'd hopefully find a spare room in student accommodation although that could be a bit depressing, being alone with just first years. Or I could just sleep on a friends sofa haha