[Dee Leigh]

(Original post by Chumbaniya)
There's the odd attempt at a dating initiative but I don't think it works very well. This is a forum and I feel it's not really the sort of thing that should be used deliberately as a dating service - there are plenty of actual online dating services for that. People do meet up, and I had a relationship of over a year with someone I originally met on TSR, but it's usually the sort of thing that develops organically. If you're actively seeking a partner, this probably isn't the best place, as people haven't created profiles here because they're looking for partners. You'll notice that the wall of any woman with a half-decent profile picture is full of messages from men trying to make something happen. The user 'hasan4life' is a pretty good template for how not to behave.

And also 'RainPours'

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[Chumbaniya]

(Original post by Dee Leigh)


And also 'RainPours'

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This is one I've heard about more than seen - but given the number of negative reactions I've come across I'm quite ready to believe he's a bit of a pest. But I will say this for him - I've actually seen profiles of girls with pictures that look passable without posts from him on the wall, unlike hasan4life.

[Dee Leigh]

(Original post by sophisticated)
Nope, no way. But this girl is...

http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/show....php?t=2015713

Lol!!!!

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[Dee Leigh]

(Original post by Anonymous)
ive met someone off here- but its more a fwb situation

Tell us more!

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[Staceycake]

(Original post by Chumbaniya)
Oh I don't worry that I look particularly bad (I'm perfectly happy with how I look), it's more that I feel my current picture is particularly good and I wouldn't like to change to a more recent but less flattering photo. The internet's all about choosing who you're going to present yourself as, after all.

You got me interested now..

[Chumbaniya]

(Original post by Staceycake)
You got me interested now..

An experiment begins. Look how angry I look!

[Foo.mp3]

(Original post by Chumbaniya)
people aren't going to react well to others treating their profiles - which have been set up without dating in mind - as dating profiles

You're smart enough to fathom how one might modify ones language/tack accordingly, given said propensity for adverse reactions to more orthodox tekkers

(Original post by Chumbaniya)
It's all about putting up a 5 year old profile picture from one occasion when I looked half-decent and waiting for PMs from girls to arrive

May pay off on occasion but you're limiting your pool by doing that blud, much as I resent the idea of jumping through hoops/the assumption that the guy need necessarily always be the instigator so far as some lasses are concerned

(Original post by Chumbaniya)
Much better than putting in effort looking through profiles.

I spose if you treated it exclusively as a source of dates it'd get tiresome/laborious, however if you happen to (waste) an awful lot of time on a site like this anyway, all you need do is keep your eyes open and it can prove quite fruitful

[Anonymous]

(Original post by RainPours)
So have been you naughty, that's what I meant

yes

[Chumbaniya]

(Original post by Foo.mp3)
You're smart enough to fathom how one might modify ones language/tack accordingly, given said propensity for adverse reactions to more orthodox tekkers

Well yes, I consider myself a little bit beyond the typically dire and painfully obvious standard of conversation displayed by most men trying to get girls to notice them on TSR. Exclamation marks and superficial interest in your academic choices and smiley faces ahoy!

May pay off on occasion but you're limiting your pool by doing that blud, much as I resent the idea of jumping through hoops/the assumption that the guy need necessarily always be the instigator so far as some lasses are concerned

Objecting, as I usually do, to how everyone else does things, I actually have a pretty substantial mental block on being the instigator - not in the shyness sense as you'll often find, but as a pride thing. I can't wrap my head around the idea of being the one who has to make the effort - I feel like I'm selling myself short if I even so much as hint at chasing someone. Of course this makes no sense, because someone has to do the approaching and I'm sure I miss out pretty regularly because of this.

I spose if you treated it exclusively as a source of dates it'd get tiresome/laborious, however if you happen to (waste) an awful lot of time on a site like this anyway, all you need do is keep your eyes open and it can prove quite fruitful

Looking at it this way, I suppose wasting massive amounts of time on a student forum is slightly less depressing if you at least get to meet a few interesting young women as a result of it.

[Staceycake]

(Original post by Chumbaniya)
An experiment begins. Look how angry I look!

You don't look angry O.o And you lookin' good ;

[Foo.mp3]

(Original post by Chumbaniya)
Well yes, I consider myself a little bit beyond the typically dire and painfully obvious standard of conversation displayed by most men trying to get girls to notice them on TSR. Exclamation marks and superficial interest in your academic choices and smiley faces ahoy!

Hey! I'll have you know that smiley faces are an integral part of a debonair approach!

(Original post by Chumbaniya)
as a pride thing

Pride is a vice

(Original post by Chumbaniya)
I feel like I'm selling myself short if I even so much as hint at chasing someone

I used to feel that way, but mostly through arrogance rather than on principal Problem is, women like to be chased, and in demand women expect it, in most scenarios

The art is in 'engaging' (I won't say chasing, because in truth I rarely 'chase') in a way that satisfies her desire for attention/engagement but puts distance between you in your role as James Bond and you in your role as her pet bitch

(Original post by Chumbaniya)
I'm sure I miss out pretty regularly because of this

Aye.. there's nothing better than the realisation that on a good day, in the right circumstances, you can pull certain things off with just a little application (mainly referring to real but just as true online, though less so on dating sites as they're full of drones/attention whores)

(Original post by Chumbaniya)
Looking at it this way, I suppose wasting massive amounts of time on a student forum is slightly less depressing if you at least get to meet a few interesting young women as a result of it

Now we're on the same page

[Chumbaniya]

(Original post by Staceycake)
You don't look angry O.o And you lookin' good ;

Sample size one, experiment currently 100% successful.

(Original post by Foo.mp3)
Hey! I'll have you know that smiley faces are an integral part of a debonair approach!

Much like in real life, smiling can show people that you're friendly and approachable, but when it accompanies everything you say it starts to get a little bit weird.

The art is in 'engaging' (I won't say chasing, because in truth I rarely 'chase') in a way that satisfies her desire for attention/engagement but puts distance between you in your role as James Bond and you in your role as her pet bitch

Yeah I realised after the event that 'chase' wasn't the word I really wanted to use either - no matter what, I'm never going to be the sort to really chase someone. I think I get it into my head that by approaching someone I'm somehow handing over power to them, but this isn't particularly rational as unless you're being weird about it it's just choosing to talk to another person, and that's a pretty neutral action.

[Staceycake]

(Original post by Chumbaniya)
Sample size one, experiment currently 100% successful.

[Kerr Avon]

Ooh, do like this thread...

[RainPours]

(Original post by Chumbaniya)
This is one I've heard about more than seen - but given the number of negative reactions I've come across I'm quite ready to believe he's a bit of a pest. But I will say this for him - I've actually seen profiles of girls with pictures that look passable without posts from him on the wall, unlike hasan4life.

You think it's funny to belittle people on here?

[damilola]

there's a Facebook group called TSR Singles, it's was a failed attempt to do a dating site sort of thing but we only got about 20 ppl on it I don't think a TSR dating site will ever work out unless there are loads of people on it .

[Chumbaniya]

(Original post by RainPours)
You think it's funny to belittle people on here?

Almost invariably, yes.

[Foo.mp3]

(Original post by Chumbaniya)
when it accompanies everything you say it starts to get a little bit weird

Aye, and/or childish, but I'm not too bothered, as long as the accompanying text demonstrates a modicum of maturity .."on occasion"

(Original post by Chumbaniya)
this isn't particularly rational as unless you're being weird about it it's just choosing to talk to another person, and that's a pretty neutral action

Aye, particularly if you have in your mind the notion that they're not obliged to welcome your approach, nor can they know at first glance how fantabulous you are, in fact, so, should they shun your advances, really they aren't to know any better, and, ultimately it's their loss (unless it isn't)

As for chirpsing to gals on sites such as this, there's really no need to go about it in an uncompromisingly direct/determined manner anyway, indeed such a tack would seldom be welcome

[angelstie16]

(Original post by sophisticated)
Nope, no way. But this girl is...

http://www.thestudentroom.co.uk/show....php?t=2015713

but you 'lied and cheated on her' and you were 'posting horrible things about her such as her being too clingy'.... i dont see how that makes u her bf

[Chumbaniya]

(Original post by Foo.mp3)
chirpsing

What now? What do you think I am, some kind of bird?

I honestly don't know what this word means