[nash_4_lyf]

(Original post by Anonymous)
OK - so my plan is, call the surgery tomorrow, ask to speak to the consultant (I don't have a direct line for him) and just explain everything.

Thank you for all being so helpful, feeling much better about it now!

And to anon above - I hope you don't get any hate for that because that was really honest of you and reassuring for me.

Did it all go okay??

[Anonymous]

(Original post by nash_4_lyf)
Did it all go okay??

Not exactly! I was put through to a receptionist who said the doctor was in surgery and doesn't normally do phone consultations. I said it was urgent and she told me he might call me back later in the day. He didn't. I called the next day, as had already been arranged, to get results from my most recent blood tests, and reached a voicemail saying that both the doctor and his receptionist are away until the 11th of June?!

I don't think I could possibly be having worse luck with this right now!

[Anonymous]

Thank you for asking though!

[nash_4_lyf]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Thank you for asking though!

Honestly, speaking from experience, keep ringing them. Its your health, so your allowed to be annoying

[salty_candy]

Phone the doctor, ask them not to tell your Mum, they can't tell her anything anyway, but even if they could I doubt they'd be bothered.

[brunettegirl92]

he won't tell any one because legally it is none of anyone elses buisiness. any way if it wasn't totally confidential people wouldn't admit it because they would be scared of the consequences. they may recommend therapy, but if you've been clean for 9 months they won't do anything. He won't let it slip, but if you're worried, go to appointements without your mum.

[fairysdad]

I don't want to be horrible or anything so please don't take it that way, but may I ask why, if you're 17, your mum was in your appointment with you? As I said, I'm not trying to be horrible, I'm just curious to know.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by fairysdad)
I don't want to be horrible or anything so please don't take it that way, but may I ask why, if you're 17, your mum was in your appointment with you? As I said, I'm not trying to be horrible, I'm just curious to know.

A number of reasons. Firstly because I've been to various hospitals that are all a fair distance away, and she needs to take me there.

She started coming in the appointments just for support really - we never really knew if I was going to be getting bad news while I was in there etc.

Also she's had various questions to ask the doctors mainly concerning if certain tests were best done privately or on the nhs. These aren't things that I know anything about really, and we don't tend to have a chance to see the doctors outside of the consultations.

The problem is that now I'm happy to see the doctors alone, she sort of just follows me in there without asking. She's a big worrier and I know it's helpful for her to hear it from them directly rather than through me, although to be honest, it's not really helpful - as this whole thread has demonstrated :/

[Goody2Shoes-x]

Call the doctor and explain, and ask for this information to be kept confidential from your mother, they will respect this.

[fairysdad]

(Original post by Anonymous)
A number of reasons. Firstly because I've been to various hospitals that are all a fair distance away, and she needs to take me there.

She started coming in the appointments just for support really - we never really knew if I was going to be getting bad news while I was in there etc.

Also she's had various questions to ask the doctors mainly concerning if certain tests were best done privately or on the nhs. These aren't things that I know anything about really, and we don't tend to have a chance to see the doctors outside of the consultations.

The problem is that now I'm happy to see the doctors alone, she sort of just follows me in there without asking. She's a big worrier and I know it's helpful for her to hear it from them directly rather than through me, although to be honest, it's not really helpful - as this whole thread has demonstrated :/

Ah, okay fair enough I know you mentioned the distance and that she needs to take you, just wondered why she was going into the actual appointment

Hope it all gets sorted for you.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by nash_4_lyf)
Honestly, speaking from experience, keep ringing them. Its your health, so your allowed to be annoying

(Original post by salty_candy)
Phone the doctor, ask them not to tell your Mum, they can't tell her anything anyway, but even if they could I doubt they'd be bothered.

(Original post by brunettegirl92)
he won't tell any one because legally it is none of anyone elses buisiness. any way if it wasn't totally confidential people wouldn't admit it because they would be scared of the consequences. they may recommend therapy, but if you've been clean for 9 months they won't do anything. He won't let it slip, but if you're worried, go to appointements without your mum.

(Original post by Goody2Shoes-x)
Call the doctor and explain, and ask for this information to be kept confidential from your mother, they will respect this.

Yeah I guess so! I think I'll ring back tomorrow to find out about blood tests and then ask when/how I'd be able to get hold of the doctor soonest!

(Original post by fairysdad)
Ah, okay fair enough I know you mentioned the distance and that she needs to take you, just wondered why she was going into the actual appointment

Hope it all gets sorted for you.

Yeah - long and short of it is it just sort of became habit!

Thanks a lot, to everyone!

[cl_steele]

not being a doctor and all and since it was so long ago i doubt it has any bearing on your current complaint but best to give your doctor a ring and tell him just incase.

[That Bearded Man]

(Original post by OSharp)
this is not true there is no age limit on confidentiality its called fraiser competence and it is not a black and white scale. a 10 year old could be competent in the eyes of the law but a 15 year old may not, the OP certainly would seem competent to me




They cannot inform anyone without your permission unless they believe you to be at severe risk to yourself or others, the fact your admitting drug use would suggest that your aware of what your doing.

Your liver is basically what cleans all of the drugs out of your body so it is definitely relevant medical information and you should contact the doctor at first convenience.

Considering she clearly understands her actions and the consequence of said actions then she's clearly competent.

Oh and isn't your term actually "Gillick competent"

[Foghorn Leghorn]

I'm going to go out on a limb here, and i'm no medical professional, but i agree with the perosn that said the drug you took 9 months ago will be well and truly out of your system by now. They will be no negative drug interactions between you and the prescribed medication due to the illegal drugs you took ages ago. Also I highly doubt they are the cause of your ailment. But that's merely just my two pence worth.

As for your predicament just do the phone call thing or take a trip up to your GP yourself and tell him/her. Also you could get a lift and ask your mum not to go into the consultation with you. I sometimes get a lift with my parent if i need to see the gp and i never let them in, but i'm weird like that, i don't want anyone to know what's wrong unless they have to.

[OneEyed]

(Original post by That Bearded Man)
Oh and isn't your term actually "Gillick competent"

It is indeed ...or Fraser guidelines.

For original poster, I recommend from this point forward that you find a way to obtain some privacy when it comes to visiting the GP; who knows what you might get asked next time?!

[danny111]

You've taken coke once and that will affect your medical diagnosis?

No need to tell the doc anything. You just seem to want to "fess up" to relieve your conscience.

[Brevillemonkey]

I've watched enough House to know that you should confess.

[Darth Stewie]

If they ask again then tell them but a bit of weed, some MDMA and a line of coke 9 months ago is not going to be relevant here.

Don't worry about it.

[OSharp]

(Original post by That Bearded Man)
Considering she clearly understands her actions and the consequence of said actions then she's clearly competent.

Oh and isn't your term actually "Gillick competent"

There's actually quite a lot of argument over this, supposedly Gillick Competence specifically refers to contraception for minors stemming from the case of gillick vs local authority wheras Fraser was one of the high court judges who voted against her. his guidelines are more general and are therfire the ones that are legally binding in England wales and Northern Ireland. its quite a common misconception, or at least that's one argument most people use the terms interchangably. there was also the argument that Mrs Gillick didn't want to be attributed to it, whether this is true or not i think its a fair point. I mean why would you name child competency guidelines from someone who was trying to counteract them.

I will however accept i spelt 'fraser incorrectly'

(Original post by Darth Stewie)
If they ask again then tell them but a bit of weed, some MDMA and a line of coke 9 months ago is not going to be relevant here.

I't might be. I fail to see how this would be any different from mentioning the cannabis. if they cut the drugs with something nasty then there is a possibility that's whats done it. the slimest chance is still a chance and I really doubt this will make a difference to how the doctor reacts.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by danny111)
You've taken coke once and that will affect your medical diagnosis?

No need to tell the doc anything. You just seem to want to "fess up" to relieve your conscience.

It's not just the coke i'm worried about. But because of the nature of the problem - and I have googled this in the meantime - even the sort of drug use that I've dabbled in could have had an impact. Although you are right - I do also feel bad about lying.