[Simone739]

aww, this is so cute.
I know for a fact it'll end up like some fairytale, who knows, you might probably meet your perfect princess soon, good things come to those who wait :')

[Lucia.]

..let your personality overpower whatever insecurities you have.. if you look like a pig, accept it and embrace it ..learn to love yourself

Best advice. Fact is some people will like you, and some people won't no matter how objectively hot you are. So make the most of what you have and believe that you can be attractive because someone out there will find you attractive.

(Original post by Anonymous)
Typical story, 24, never had a girlfriend, never been on a date etc.

It's not impossible. In fact, it's very possible that you'll find that.

(Original post by Anonymous)
Maybe its because I'm not cool enough or handsome enough...

There might be women who have liked you in the past but they've been less obvious to you. It may also be your approach. It takes experience to learn how best to flirt with the opposite sex. The high school hierarchy stuff means nothing in the real world.

(Original post by Anonymous)
I just feel as though girls will always choose the good looking guys because they have the opportunity to pick and choose from the guys that approach them. A lot of girls these days just are too shallow (boys too). Even the ugly girls reject me and often get with the good looking guys (sometimes even when they know that these guys are just after sex).

Are these "shallow" women, those that you approached on a night out? You're getting your contexts confused. Outside of a club environment you'll find women who aren't scoping for men in that way. Many women in clubs can punch above their weight and they know that so they go for better-looking men because that's achievable. Some of these women project these standards into dating, which is a different scene. If you're looking for something romantic, then personality counts for a lot.

(Original post by Anonymous)
I have a mate who is considered really good looking. He gets preferential treatment wherever he goes. I know its not his fault but it just sickens me the way these girls fall at his feet only because of his looks.

Don't worry about him. It's easy to be jealous of better-looking people. However if you ask your friend more, he might wish that women didn't only go for him because of his looks. Some good looking people feel like they have something to prove about themselves, because they are always perceived to be getting by with their looks. Well good looking people do get ahead but it doesn't mean you can't still be successful. Having charisma is important for attracting women.

(Original post by Anonymous)
Sometimes I consider visiting prostitutes. Sometimes I consider taking my life. I try and focus my attention of doing other things rather than just thinking about girls but the loneliness just eats me up inside. Especially when it seems like every girl these days has a boyfriend/f buddy. I also hate seeing couples because that also eats me up inside.

I know how you feel. It's hard when you haven't had it before. But you can take it from couples that relationships aren't everything. They are hard work. Finding focus on your life on your own is important. Think of a relationship as something that will add something to your life, and not something that is necessary to you feeling fulfilled.

(Original post by Anonymous)
I know there are people living worse lives than me in this world but it seems that in this country there are only a minority that are like me. Nearly everyone has had a relationship, had one night stands, go to parties, meet members of the opposite sex etc. but not me. I feel ostracised, shunned, laughed at...almost like a monster. Why does life have to be like this?

I don't think people will ostracise you because of this. They are too busy focussing on what they're doing. If you care less about this stuff, it will come together better. It's not about waiting for someone to come along (because they won't just come along); it's about making sure you're in a position where you're happy whether you have a girlfriend or not.

[im so academic]

(Original post by Lucia.)
I know how you feel. It's hard when you haven't had it before. But you can take it from couples that relationships aren't everything. They are hard work. Finding focus on your life on your own is important. Think of a relationship as something that will add something to your life, and not something that is necessary to you feeling fulfilled.

That isn't true though. I know I need a relationship in order to be ever be fulfilled.

OP: I completely get where you are coming from. It's hard living whilst being ugly.

[Cheech23]

(Original post by im so academic)
That isn't true though. I know I need a relationship in order to be ever be fulfilled.

OP: I completely get where you are coming from. It's hard living whilst being ugly.

Well aren't you a barrel of laughs.

[im so academic]

(Original post by Cheech23)
Well aren't you a barrel of laughs.

A guy wants a girl who is a barrel of laughs AND beautiful.

[Cheech23]

(Original post by im so academic)
A guy wants a girl who is a barrel of laughs AND beautiful.

How can someone be so arrogant & egotistical yet have no self confidence what so ever?


Notice I was being sarcastic, with my first comment, i weren't being complimentary. Just thought I'd clear that up.

[im so academic]

(Original post by Cheech23)
How can someone be so arrogant & egotistical yet have no self confidence what so ever?


Notice I was being sarcastic, with my first comment, i weren't being complimentary. Just thought I'd clear that up.

I know you were being sarcastic. I was just saying men like girls who are a barrel of laughs AND beautiful.

[systeric]

(Original post by im so academic)
I know you were being sarcastic. I was just saying men like girls who are a barrel of laughs AND beautiful.

Stop moaning ffs. You do realise that any girl above a 4/10 can get a ONS with a handsome guy if she puts her mind to it?

...And that probably 90% of the female population are 4/10 or higher.

[im so academic]

(Original post by midlandsman)
Stop moaning ffs. You do realise that any girl above a 4/10 can get a ONS with a handsome guy if she puts her mind to it?

...And that probably 90% of the female population are 4/10 or higher.

I'm 0/10.

[Cheech23]

(Original post by im so academic)
I'm 0/10.

Bull****.

[Alpharius]

(Original post by Anonymous)
It sucks to be an ugly person, full stop. Yesterday I was stared at and laughed at by a bunch of people, it really broke me down. It never used to be like this for me. I'm a girl by the way. Anyway I used to be slimmer that I am now and I got a lot of complement about my looks, but I've since ballooned to a size sixteen and I'm 5'11 so you can imagine how seriously chubby I am. I get the odd few men still interested (just like any other ugly girls) but I've since experienced being laughed at by strangers and it's horrific and soul destroying. I get stared at and laughed at sometimes nd it hurts.

I'm vowing to starve myself over the holidays so I can go back to being consider attractive, because being a fat laughing stock is killing me. I hate the way I look right now.

Before I talk about the OP, this first.

Do not starve yourself. The best way to get a good figure is to eat well, little and often, and exersize often. No need for a gym, just go running early in the morning. That's all girls usually need to get a slim, healthy figure.

When you have moments where you want to go back to your current lifestyle, use the bolded as a memory that you do not want de ja vu.

Now, OP, I won't tell you that there will be a girl out there for you. The fact is, no-one has a God-given right to a partner. Don't listen to the retards who say; "You will find your soul-mate!" They don't know that.

Looks really aren't everything however, you can compensate for that with other attributes. They include getting rich, getting ripped and developing your character (make yourself interesting).

You sound like a guy that takes rejection badly. That needs to change. It's just a no, that's the worse they can do. It won't kill you. Forget and move on, their loss.

[xxscoobyxx]

Know that feel bro :/

[Ferrus]

Truth be told, good looking or not, life sucks even worse when you are borderline socially unaware or awkward. I speak from experience, whilst not exactly autistic as such, I am not far from that, and I can assure you I am a year older than you and I have never had regular conversations with any girls unless it has been facilitated by the medium of the internet or the phone.

[athousandmiles]

ok, in my opinion confidence is so important. If it's obvious you're not comfortable with the way you look and just look miserable about it, girls aren' going to want to approach you. If it looks like you know how to have fun and are happy in your own skin, you will give off confidence, and that is much more attractive than actual 'good looks' !

[hfreaks]

Dude at least you are at uni right now?

Believe in yourself and be your self, try to treat your self going to movies get new clothes etc enjoy the life and have fun..

If I tell you iam see i homeless?browing laptop from friend? I ain't have a thing.
Never girlfriend as well.

But still Alife and rumble

[DannyJC]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Anon/delete please

Typical story, 24, never had a girlfriend, never been on a date etc.

All my life girls have never been interested in me because of the way I look. I have never had a single girl flirt with me whatsoever even at uni. I have friends and I do go on nights out but still have never had a girl interested in me. I just feel invisible to girls. I have approached girls but it has never went well. They just look away in disgust or politely let me down. No girls wants to hang around with me either. Even as friends. I am confident, I be myself, I say what I like, I have a sense of humour, I am not an overly nice guy, I am polite, I have fun but still it doesn't seem to attract the girls. Maybe its because I'm not cool enough or handsome enough...

I just feel as though girls will always choose the good looking guys because they have the opportunity to pick and choose from the guys that approach them. A lot of girls these days just are too shallow (boys too). Even the ugly girls reject me and often get with the good looking guys (sometimes even when they know that these guys are just after sex).

I have a mate who is considered really good looking. He gets preferential treatment wherever he goes. I know its not his fault but it just sickens me the way these girls fall at his feet only because of his looks.

Sometimes I consider visiting prostitutes. Sometimes I consider taking my life. I try and focus my attention of doing other things rather than just thinking about girls but the loneliness just eats me up inside. Especially when it seems like every girl these days has a boyfriend/f buddy. I also hate seeing couples because that also eats me up inside.

I know there are people living worse lives than me in this world but it seems that in this country there are only a minority that are like me. Nearly everyone has had a relationship, had one night stands, go to parties, meet members of the opposite sex etc. but not me. I feel ostracised, shunned, laughed at...almost like a monster. Why does life have to be like this?

Hey,
This is nothing to end your life over. Unless you have spoke to every girl on the planet, there is still hope. Even if you aren't the best looking in the world, there is always someone who will find you the perfect person for them. Girls who go to nightclubs are different to a lot of girls that may go occasionally, not at all or not even drink. Maybe you are looking in the wrong places.
Also, are you going for girls that suite your tastes more than what your interests may be? If you joined a society or a club where like minded people are taking part in what your doing and enjoying it, im sure you will be more successful. People in clubs are really bored and are looking for the best kind of entertainment to suite them for the night. There is no lasti g relationship prospects there, and many flings are born within the clubs. This can't sustain people forever and looks fade. It's someone who shake like-minded to you that will last.


Do you believe in love at first sight? It's an illusion, I don't care.

[lad-lad]

Best advice I can provide is make yourself interesting, start a hobby and look for people within that circle as you already have a common interest and something to talk about.

[superglow12]

Everything happens for a reason, just think of it this way maybe those girls aren't good enough for you and that theres someone out there waiting to meet a guy like you.
If you keep looking down on yourself how do you expect a girl to like you for you?
And not all girls like guys that are really really goodlooking, i've heard this phrase 'if he can make me laugh then he can do anything' hopefully that helps.
Why would you want to take your life away for that reason? Aren't their other reasons to live?

This was posted from The Student Room's Android App on my E10i

[Medic1992]

Tbh i rather just concentrate on my degree and have a good time at university rather than worrying about getting s girlfriend.