[Anonymous]

I told a girl i'm interested in her the other day and she said she was interested but she seems a bit apprehensive.

I'm thinking she's very shy, like she's ok meeting guys when it comes to friendships but i think she's been single for a long time and has very little experience so she's just being careful???

Do you think a real softly softly approach is best with this sort of girl? Like not being too forward, not mentioning 'us' or relationships too much, or should i talk to her about relationshippy type stuff to help put her mind at ease?

Note: We've not known each other long but we've talked a lot online and we have loads in common, we're kinda at the early friendship stage at the mo. And honestly i'm inexperienced at this sort of thing too!

Advice is welcome

[foolscap]

I would say yes go softly softly, if you jump on her she'll probably get scared, or be unsure of what to do.
If you've told her you're interested then you're already half way there, just take your time and everything should just fall into place

[Anonymous]

ok thx

[kim92]

if she's shy then she just wants you to do all the talking so dont wait around because she is not going to make a move or suddenly decide that she wants to tell you how she feels. just be ask her out on a specific day and she'll probably say yes if she likes you and she wont say no if she's really shy because that's even more awkward than saying yes!

[Anonymous]

(Original post by kim92)
if she's shy then she just wants you to do all the talking so dont wait around because she is not going to make a move or suddenly decide that she wants to tell you how she feels. just be ask her out on a specific day and she'll probably say yes if she likes you and she wont say no if she's really shy because that's even more awkward than saying yes!

You confuse me. She'll say yes even if she means no, because she'll be too shy to say no?!

[.Missy]

Since it is the early stage of friendship you should talk to her more and get to know her better. When you do I'm sure she'll be comfortable around you and wont be shy.

I dont think you should be to forward yet, get to know her

You could just go places as friends or in a group of friends. Its better then talking online cause some people act differently. Not saying she does or anything

[Anonymous]

(Original post by .Missy)
Since it is the early stage of friendship you should talk to her more and get to know her better. When you do I'm sure she'll be comfortable around you and wont be shy.

I dont think you should be to forward yet, get to know her

You could just go places as friends or in a group of friends. Its better then talking online cause some people act differently. Not saying she does or anything

She doesn't go out much and none of my friends are close. I definitely wanna meet up and see her and spend time with her...honestly there's so many things we could do and so many places we could go, it's crazy. I don't even have friends with so many things in common as i do this girl, it's why i'm so worried about f**king things up with her and why i already care about it more than i should. She's real different online to real life for sure.

[.Missy]

(Original post by Anonymous)
She doesn't go out much and none of my friends are close. I definitely wanna meet up and see her and spend time with her...honestly there's so many things we could do and so many places we could go, it's crazy. I don't even have friends with so many things in common as i do this girl, it's why i'm so worried about f**king things up with her and why i already care about it more than i should. She's real different online to real life for sure.

Just ask her to go out with you.. I dont see what the problem is