Attitudes towards older virgins (21-26)

Isn't it possible that someone who lost their virginity at a young age did find someone special, and it did have meaning? You seem to be saying that it can't have meaning unless you've waited ages for it.

Noones saying that its' IMPOSSIBLE but you grow up a hell of a lot between say 16 (before which its illegal remember) and 21, and really, any younger than that is often to young to really know your heart.

If you find "the one" when you're young thats fantastic. I was 16 when i first got with my bf but was 17, nearly 18 when we first made love. We had the chance before then, but we chose to pass it up. The fact we're long distance doesnt exactly help, but it was a perfect moment for the waiting. Mostly, people arent with their bf of when your 14/15/16 because you inevitably grow apart as you grow as a person.

If a guy was a virgin at that age to be honest it would really freak me out, and definately put me off, I have never slept with a virgin and never will but that's just me. With girls it's a bit different as they have a lower sex drive usually anyway but I would think it is a bit odd if a girl was still a virgin at 26 in this day and age unless it was a religious thing.

what do you think of people in this agre range and older who are virgins.

Sorry, but you, as everyone, are overlooking the reason for a lot of guys being virgins: shyness. If I had to guess, I'd say that the 'OP' was a guy in the age range stated, who was shy, and, hence, unable to approach women easily. There are more male virgins in this age range, than female virgins, because it's men that are still expected to initiate things, and to do the approaching. Any woman who goes to a club is going to be able to get sex, and will be approached by several men with little else on their minds, but, for a man, it is an entirely different story. I know of guys in this age range (actually, even above it) who are virgins, or who lost it within this age range, and it doesn't speak negatively of their looks; only their ability to approach women. In many of the places I go to, the male:female ratio levels are shockingly high; couple this with shyness, as regards approaching women, and, well, there we have it. The implications as to male virginity, compared to female virginity, are different, generally speaking.

Quite disconcerting, seeing such small-minded views on the matter.

Im 20 and still virgin, its not that I want to be but then again I haven't tried either, I don't go out clubbing etc so yeh guess I fall into the geek/loser catagory

Ok 21 wouldn't freak me out too much but 26 definately would. Most guys are just so desperate for it it doesn't matter how shy they are. Don't believe what all these guys you know are telling you, it's probably their line to get you into bed! Don't be so naive. Now don't start saying something like "I know for a fact... " because the bottom line is you don't and you never will, you haven't been with them every second of their lives and people lie. I'm not saying no blokes are virgins at 26 but it certainly isn't the norm.

Sorry, but you, as everyone, are overlooking the reason for a lot of guys being virgins: shyness. If I had to guess, I'd say that the 'OP' was a guy in the age range stated, who was shy, and, hence, unable to approach women easily. There are more male virgins in this age range, than female virgins, because it's men that are still expected to initiate things, and to do the approaching. Any woman who goes to a club is going to be able to get sex, and will be approached by several men with little else on their minds, but, for a man, it is an entirely different story. I know of guys in this age range (actually, even above it) who are virgins, or who lost it within this age range, and it doesn't speak negatively of their looks; only their ability to approach women. In many of the places I go to, the male:female ratio levels are shockingly high; couple this with shyness, as regards approaching women, and, well, there we have it. The implications as to male virginity, compared to female virginity, are different, generally speaking.

Quite disconcerting, seeing such small-minded views on the matter.

Can people please define the terms 'sad' and 'loser', for me, please? Seem like very unfair, shallow labels to apply to someone, to me; amazing as to how many supposedly moralistic people use them.

May I ask what it is that would freak you out, about a 26-year-old male virgin? Seriously, I'm interested to know as to the thinking behind this stigma concerning male virginity.