[nash_4_lyf]

Okay, so heres the deal.

Im 19, a woman, asian and I deleted FB last September because my parents were really nosy. Yes it went to the extreme of deleting them, because my mum asked for my password and hacked in to my account. A lot of you will say dont give it to her, but my parents arent your usual mum and dad, they pry until they find TABU information that they can slap you in the face with.

So in September Im planning to create a new account, and instead of giving them my password, I am going to add them as freinds instead.

Few questions:
1) Can I block them from viewing pictures that mates tag me in, without untagging them myself? I dont want them to not be able to see all pics coz suspicions will arise.
2) Can I block them from seeing some friends? Like an unapproved ex for example. Again not all friends, coz suspicions will arise
3) Can I block them from viewing my wall?

Grr, I hate this, I am really starting to get so angry with them.

[firebolt]

(Original post by nash_4_lyf)
Okay, so heres the deal.

Im 19, a woman, asian and I deleted FB last September because my parents were really nosy. Yes it went to the extreme of deleting them, because my mum asked for my password and hacked in to my account. A lot of you will say dont give it to her, but my parents arent your usual mum and dad, they pry until they find TABU information that they can slap you in the face with.

So in September Im planning to create a new account, and instead of giving them my password, I am going to add them as freinds instead.

Few questions:
1) Can I block them from viewing pictures that mates tag me in, without untagging them myself? I dont want them to not be able to see all pics coz suspicions will arise.
2) Can I block them from seeing some friends? Like an unapproved ex for example. Again not all friends, coz suspicions will arise
3) Can I block them from viewing my wall?

Grr, I hate this, I am really starting to get so angry with them.

yes when you go onto privacy settings choose custom and you can type thier names in and they are blocked from seeing whatever you dont want them to see

[green.tea]

When they ask for your password send them this.

[Double Agent]

How about making 2 accounts, one they know about and one they dont?

[neom]

(Original post by nash_4_lyf)
Okay, so heres the deal.

Im 19, a woman, asian and I deleted FB last September because my parents were really nosy. Yes it went to the extreme of deleting them, because my mum asked for my password and hacked in to my account. A lot of you will say dont give it to her, but my parents arent your usual mum and dad, they pry until they find TABU information that they can slap you in the face with.

So in September Im planning to create a new account, and instead of giving them my password, I am going to add them as freinds instead.

Few questions:
1) Can I block them from viewing pictures that mates tag me in, without untagging them myself? I dont want them to not be able to see all pics coz suspicions will arise.
2) Can I block them from seeing some friends? Like an unapproved ex for example. Again not all friends, coz suspicions will arise
3) Can I block them from viewing my wall?

Grr, I hate this, I am really starting to get so angry with them.

I've never tried that soo i'm not sure BUT.. you could tinker with the settings use 'view as..' to see what they can and can't see. then proceed to alter it as you wish from there until it's perfect.

If you don't want to add your parent's yet, do it with a friend instead until you figure out the perfect settings, reverse the settings on your friend, add your parents then apply those settings to them.

[nash_4_lyf]

(Original post by Double Agent)
How about making 2 accounts, one they know about and one they dont?

Argh trust me those two are like detectives, they dig until they find it. The idea is fab though and thankyou, but I guarantee they'll find out..... its so annoying. honestly, not bein melodramatic sometimes I scream at how little trust they have in me.

and i havent even done anything to betray that trust.

the only thing i did was wen i was 13 i stole 15quid out of the family kitty, thats it. since then i havent done anything. 6 year straight record, what more do they want.

[nash_4_lyf]

(Original post by neom)
I've never tried that soo i'm not sure BUT.. you could tinker with the settings use 'view as..' to see what they can and can't see. then proceed to alter it as you wish from there until it's perfect.

If you don't want to add your parent's yet, do it with a friend instead until you figure out the perfect settings, reverse the settings on your friend, add your parents then apply those settings to them.

Oh thankyou, thats a great idea. x

[nash_4_lyf]

(Original post by firebolt)
yes when you go onto privacy settings choose custom and you can type thier names in and they are blocked from seeing whatever you dont want them to see

OH THANK FLYING ****.

So you mean I can select which photos I want them to not see ? Or is it like they can see all photos or none of them???

[MancStudent098]

(Original post by nash_4_lyf)
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You can block them completely so they won't even know that you have a fbook profile. Just go to their profiles as soon as you've made an account and chose the block option.

[noodles!]

Make a profile under a fake name, block your parents and go unsearchable. Then add trusted friends, telling them who you really are, and get them to not refer to you by name (in case your folks look for their profiles).

Thats a partial idea which would stop most basic searches for you. but to be honest the best thing you can do is just not be on facebook as you can't control what privacy levels your friends have pictures at.

[JessicaUk]

(Original post by MancStudent098)
You can block them completely so they won't even know that you have a fbook profile. Just go to their profiles as soon as you've made an account and chose the block option.

This wasn't what the OP was wanting to do, she knows she can block them but this is not the problem here.

[firebolt]

(Original post by nash_4_lyf)
OH THANK FLYING ****.

So you mean I can select which photos I want them to not see ? Or is it like they can see all photos or none of them???

I dont know about specific photos but i know you can block them from seeing tagged photos and your own uploaded photos separately

[nash_4_lyf]

(Original post by JessicaUk)
This wasn't what the OP was wanting to do, she knows she can block them but this is not the problem here.

Yeah you get my point exactly...

[nash_4_lyf]

The thing is guy, that if I block them they will know because they'll know I have FB. I cant lie to them, just because the consequences will be too much for me to handle. When I stole money when I was 13, I lied like no tommorow and I got my phone taken away for not a week or something, 6 months.
They take disciplinary action too far, and the fact that Im 19 scares them that much more tbh....

I am going to uni in september, hence why the account is being made then.

I bluntly told my mum she cant have my hotmail password, but she drilled it out of me last week claimin she wont check my emails but she just wants to know...yeah right.

Thankyou for all the suggestions though, its all majorly helpful. xx

[someonesomewherexx]

I'm sorry but why do your parents have so much control over your life?. How about a simple NO and walking away when they ask for your login details, if you're about to start uni and they still do this don't expect it to stop anytime soon.

It's possible to change your passwords and keep it to yourself you know, but if you keep living with the mentality that they will find out everything then they will.

Keep saying NO to them, maybe they'll take you seriously over time. In the mean time a shouting match about how they can't control your life will do some good.

[nash_4_lyf]

(Original post by someonesomewherexx)
I'm sorry but why do your parents have so much control over your life?. How about a simple NO and walking away when they ask for your login details, if you're about to start uni and they still do this don't expect it to stop anytime soon.

It's possible to change your passwords and keep it to yourself you know, but if you keep living with the mentality that they will find out everything then they will.

Keep saying NO to them, maybe they'll take you seriously over time. In the mean time a shouting match about how they can't control your life will do some good.

I know its so bloody pathetic, how I let them have this hold over me, but its really complicated. Coming from an Indian background Im not really meant to scream and shout at them...I do but its wrong. Its so ****ing stupid. If I was to say they dont have control over me that is Im immediately a WESTERNISED GIRL.

I cant win, all I can do is be sneaky. Theres no point outwardly rebelling coz it wont work in my favour!

[xoxAngel_Kxox]

Can't you just add them as friends and then change the settings so they can't see anything? My parents were a nightmare when they first got it. Every time someone posted on my wall they had to know who they were, how I knew them, whether I fancied them.. it got completely ridiculous. When I went on a night out they'd shout at me for being drunk, despite the fact I was 18 and never THAT drunk. Every time I had a photo taken with a guy they gave me a lecture about being faithful to my boyfriend.. Also my friends and I have a private group where we can post that nobody else sees, and I was laughing at it one day and she asked me what it was, I told her, and she threw a hissy fit demanding to see it. It was at that point everything was made private and they were put on limited profile. They noticed, and I simply said that I was an adult and allowed a private life. I guess it's hard for parents to see their children for what they really are instead of just who they pretend to be at home!

[nash_4_lyf]

(Original post by xoxAngel_Kxox)
Can't you just add them as friends and then change the settings so they can't see anything? My parents were a nightmare when they first got it. Every time someone posted on my wall they had to know who they were, how I knew them, whether I fancied them.. it got completely ridiculous. When I went on a night out they'd shout at me for being drunk, despite the fact I was 18 and never THAT drunk. Every time I had a photo taken with a guy they gave me a lecture about being faithful to my boyfriend.. Also my friends and I have a private group where we can post that nobody else sees, and I was laughing at it one day and she asked me what it was, I told her, and she threw a hissy fit demanding to see it. It was at that point everything was made private and they were put on limited profile. They noticed, and I simply said that I was an adult and allowed a private life. I guess it's hard for parents to see their children for what they really are instead of just who they pretend to be at home!

Yeah thats exactly what they used to be like when I had FB. For example: If I had one photo, where I had a bit of extra make up applied my mum would say I look like a tart, or a short skirt meant i look like a slut. If Im posing with a guy, my mum would actually cry at how westernised that was. Now I dress the way she wants me to dress and thats why she doesnt comment.

Im just gonna add them, and put them on limited like you said.

Im worried when the day comes that they ask for my password, which before you say DONT GIVE IT TO THEM, I'll end up having to.

[nash_4_lyf]

What have other people done to handle snooping parents?

[CheekiiMonkii]

(Original post by nash_4_lyf)
What have other people done to handle snooping parents?

I do understand your problem... but don't you think this is a bit extreme?

I have no FB.. but my bro did... and well he kept it secret til 18 then just told my parents.

My parents were fine with it since he's 18 but even then... he's 18... an adult....

Have you tried telling your parents that you want your privacy?? x