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If girl asks to join me alone on trip is it OK?I often trip outside in the nature alone.
A girl from my former college whom I met again recently asked several times whether she could join me on the trip.
She should know that I am engaged, so, does she have innocent intentions? -
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Re: If girl asks to join me alone on trip is it OK?It is a tad suspicious though(Original post by Scienceisgood)
Why is it if a girl asks to go out camping with you (I love camping myself), it automatically means her intentions are to flirt with you? -
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Re: If girl asks to join me alone on trip is it OK?Stating the obvious and saying that she's the only one who knows for sure what her intentions are, I personally don't assume that asking to go on a trip with you equals her having bad intentions. If she knows you're engaged then surely she just sees it as a camping trip with a friend.(Original post by Polygoof)
I often trip outside in the nature alone.
A girl from my former college whom I met again recently asked several times whether she could join me on the trip.
She should know that I am engaged, so, does she have innocent intentions?
If she says 'your tent or mine' that's when you should begin to wonder... -
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Re: If girl asks to join me alone on trip is it OK?She may well have innocent intentions - I'd happily go camping with a friend of either gender - but she is a bit naiive if she thinks there isn't a chance of you taking it the wrong way.
I'd make sure your fiance is ok with it though - no reason why you should, but it's probably polite and looks less suspicious
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Re: If girl asks to join me alone on trip is it OK?If you truly trust her as a mate then she's innocent and let her come.(Original post by Polygoof)
I often trip outside in the nature alone.
A girl from my former college whom I met again recently asked several times whether she could join me on the trip.
She should know that I am engaged, so, does she have innocent intentions? -
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Re: If girl asks to join me alone on trip is it OK?I just travel around the wild, mountains, forests, etc. in style of my scouting days - but all alone!(Original post by Stasiaxx)
What kind of trip is it anyway? -
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Re: If girl asks to join me alone on trip is it OK?That sounds really lovely,of course she would want to go.(Original post by Polygoof)
I just travel around the wild, mountains, forests, etc. in style of my scouting days - but all alone! -
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Re: If girl asks to join me alone on trip is it OK?Would you share a tent? I know if I was engaged I would be fuming if I found out my guy shared a tent with another woman, all alone... in the wilderness... with only each other to keep warm...
I'd picture up scenes in my head to the point where even if he hadn't done anything he'd never truly be able to convince me otherwise. Thus beginning the slow disintegration of trust in our relationship, causing resentment and maybe even becoming the catalyst for a series of events/issues leading up to our eventual break-up.
Ok, so maybe that's a little melodramatic but you get my drift. I wouldn't do it.Last edited by Beige_Angel; 03-06-2012 at 06:41. -
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Re: If girl asks to join me alone on trip is it OK?Even if she doesn't have innocent intentions, nothing can happen if you don't let it.
Don't share a tent, and maybe check with your girlfriend if you think she might have a problem with it. -
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Re: If girl asks to join me alone on trip is it OK?make sure you first ask your fiance!!!! if i got engaged, and my fiance asked me - i will not be a happy bunny and get suspicious(Original post by Polygoof)
I often trip outside in the nature alone.
A girl from my former college whom I met again recently asked several times whether she could join me on the trip.
She should know that I am engaged, so, does she have innocent intentions?
has the girl tried flirting with you before? if not, i hope she means it as a for "friends" -
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Re: If girl asks to join me alone on trip is it OK?Like others have said I would definitely tell your fiance first. If my other half went away on a trip with another girl without telling me, I wouldn't be happy at all! I also agree it is slighly suspicious, you could maybe ask her why she wants to join you so much?
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Re: If girl asks to join me alone on trip is it OK?Not to be rude or anything, but it seems like your not in a trustful relationship, so it seems like a break up is eventual either way.(Original post by Beige_Angel)
Would you share a tent? I know if I was engaged I would be fuming if I found out my guy shared a tent with another woman, all alone... in the wilderness... with only each other to keep warm...
I'd picture up scenes in my head to the point where even if he hadn't done anything he'd never truly be able to convince me otherwise. Thus beginning the slow disintegration of trust in our relationship, causing resentment and maybe even becoming the catalyst for a series of events/issues leading up to our eventual break-up.
Ok, so maybe that's a little melodramatic but you get my drift. I wouldn't do it.
OP, if nothing will happen, tell your fiancee and go for it. If she trusts you, its a sign of a solid relationship. If she doesn't, then it's best knowing that now. -
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Re: If girl asks to join me alone on trip is it OK?The second part wasn't meant to be serious(Original post by zaliack)
Not to be rude or anything, but it seems like your not in a trustful relationship, so it seems like a break up is eventual either way.
OP, if nothing will happen, tell your fiancee and go for it. If she trusts you, its a sign of a solid relationship. If she doesn't, then it's best knowing that now.
