[Evvvva]

So I have been seeing this guy for 2 months & the sex is great - apart from one thing...I can't orgasam.
It is frustrating for both myself & him. He is not selfish in bed; infact it is more the other way but no matter what it still doesn't happen.

Any tips/previous experiences the same?

[Persephone9]

Get a bullet.

[Joinedup]

But you were ok with your previous bf?

[Arekkusu]

If you can orgasm in other ways you are nervous. It is, of course, a vicious circle; more nervousness creates a bad experience which creates more nervousness. This is tough to overcome and sometimes you just have to accept you and your partner may not be "compatible", that is, not comfortable enough with each other that you can relax.

Sometimes it may be down to him doing different things to you than what you do to masturbate. Try to incorporate your technique into your sex life or otherwise try going cold turkey on masturbating till you learn to get off on what he's doing to you (caution: may not work as well if you're a girl)

Above all you must tell him your concerns: good communication (plus the odd routine-smashing date) are the best vehicles for getting you to loosen up.

[Hermione_moo]

Lots of women can't through sex. Foreplay tuns of it. Ailing that, Anne summersfor some DIY x

[Anonymous]

Only about 5-10% women can orgasm through intercourse, the rest either don't at all or will orgasm through manual/oral sex, clitoral stimulation etc.
If you haven't ever had an orgasm, I'd suggest trying on your own, so that you can then advise him better. If you've had one before, how did you have it? Tell him what feels good, where to touch etc.
It's unlikely that you'll be able to orgasm through intercourse if you haven't already discovered you're one of the lucky few, but make sure both you and he understand that there's nothing wrong with either of you, it's just nature.
I've been with my bf for nearly 2 years, and haven't orgasmed through sex. But I'm able to not care any more, the sex still feels great, and I can still have some amazing orgasms with him.

[Anonymous]

(Original post by Evvvva)
So I have been seeing this guy for 2 months & the sex is great - apart from one thing...I can't orgasam.
It is frustrating for both myself & him. He is not selfish in bed; infact it is more the other way but no matter what it still doesn't happen.

Any tips/previous experiences the same?

Loads of ppl are like that it's pretty common. For me personally I only had an orgasm through sex alone once, the rest of the time it comes from foreplay etc, or foreplay combined with sex.
So one tip is to play around with foreplay - whatever you would normally do on yourself get him to do that to you, and then see if you can work it into your sex.
Also you could try sex toys.
The thing is you have to be really open with each other, don't fake it or anything just be comfortable enough with each other that you can communicate what you want in bed

[Tahooper]

Some women find it harder than others to orgasm.

You could try new positions to see if you can find your G-spot.

[Happydude]

Just have loads of foreplay. Seriously, for girls it seems to make finishing easier. Don't masturbate. Just stop completely and build up that sexual energy!

[Jimbo1234]

(Original post by Evvvva)
So I have been seeing this guy for 2 months & the sex is great - apart from one thing...I can't orgasam.
It is frustrating for both myself & him. He is not selfish in bed; infact it is more the other way but no matter what it still doesn't happen.

Any tips/previous experiences the same?

De-stress as most reasons why women can't orgasm are down to emotional issues from simple stress, uncomfortable with your partner, or deeper insecurities.
But don't worry, sadly it is not uncommon at all.

Also, what experience does you bf have because sometimes it can just be tricky to make a girl orgasm.