Prom - Won't wear a dress
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Re: Prom - Won't wear a dressA smart playsuit? That's a first!(Original post by Bibs_x)
Does she like wearing playsuits? Maybe a really smart one, in pale orange or peach coloured silk with beige/gold heels and a navy blue suit jacket on top, I think would be slightly more feminine than a trouser suit, unless she's a tomboy?
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Re: Prom - Won't wear a dressWhat the actual ****? You think people should conform to what a bunch of chavvy bullies in her year will say? I'd have more respect for someone in a trouser-suit, than a stupid bimbo wearing a dress that barely covers her arse with a spray tan whose only motivation in life is drinking with her equally common friends.(Original post by CollateralElement)
Yeah. Going to prom at her age with a trouser suit isn't going to do much for her rep. "The Possibly - Gay one"
I know a girl who did that in Year 6. She's in year 12 now and she's still called the possibly gay one by some of her friends
Teasing of course but it's obvious that's what everyone thought anyway. She's young, you're older. Make a deal with her of some sort so she wears a dress or a playsuit or something - Or she'll end up regretting the trouser suit later on.
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Re: Prom - Won't wear a dressOh. Dear. I expected someone to say this.(Original post by Iron Lady)
What the actual ****? You think people should conform to what a bunch of chavvy bullies in her year will say? I'd have more respect for someone in a trouser-suit, than a stupid bimbo wearing a dress that barely covers her arse with a spray tan whose only motivation in life is drinking with her equally common friends.
Look. I'm not trying to convince you. It's hardly like you're going to be standing there applauding the young girl as she goes to her prom in her trouser suit. Let her do it if she really wants to, I don't care, it's not up to me. My advice here was just that - advice.
She's young so she doesn't know how her life and emotions and her own "identity" is just yet. I didn't. Most of us don't.
I mean, rather than a trouser suit - I agree with some of the others - let her wear a funky playsuit or shorts with a really cute blouse. Or make a deal with her like... I don't know...
I'm the eldest in my family, sister, 8yrs and bro, 13yrs, I would do the same for them.
She isn't conforming, she's compromising. Swearing, shouting, spray tan and arse-baring will only get you so far in life.Last edited by CollateralElement; 09-06-2012 at 19:10. Reason: A little too long, too much to share. -
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Re: Prom - Won't wear a dressSounds good and she does sound stubborn. Is it really a strict formal event?(Original post by Aula)
Yeah, she'll get in. I imagine her friends would be more surprised if she turned up in a dress tbh.
A playsuit may be an option. There is pretty much no way we'll get her into heels though I'd imagine.
I think the best deal I'll be able to get will be some kind of feminine suit, and possibly a feminine blouse.
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Re: Prom - Won't wear a dresswhy does nobody get this. the big sickness in our society is people fretting about what others think of them.(Original post by Retro.spex)
I can't believe people are actually suggesting she should care so much about what other people think.
If she doesn't want to wear something she shouldn't, simple as that.
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Re: Prom - Won't wear a dressJumpsuit, most definitely!(Original post by Aula)
So my sister has got her year 11 ball coming up, but she hates wearing dresses. Her opinion of prom was 'I don't even want to go, but my friends are forcing me'.
We're thinking perhaps a trouser suit of some kind.
She's getting pretty tall and is very slim, and adores the colour orange. Are there any ideas or suggestions?
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Re: Prom - Won't wear a dressIt's a sad part of life that a young girl cannot wear what she wants due to the fear of being ridiculed for wearing a trouser suit.(Original post by CollateralElement)
Oh. Dear. I expected someone to say this.
Look. I'm not trying to convince you. It's hardly like you're going to be standing there applauding the young girl as she goes to her prom in her trouser suit. Let her do it if she really wants to, I don't care, it's not up to me. My advice here was just that - advice.
She's young so she doesn't know how her life and emotions and her own "identity" is just yet. I didn't. Most of us don't.
I mean, rather than a trouser suit - I agree with some of the others - let her wear a funky playsuit or shorts with a really cute blouse. Or make a deal with her like... I don't know...
I'm the eldest in my family, sister, 8yrs and bro, 13yrs, I would do the same for them.
She isn't conforming, she's compromising. Swearing, shouting, spray tan and arse-baring will only get you so far in life.
What's so ridiculous about wearing a trouser suit? Why is it so bad to be different? Teenage years really are the worst years of someone's life; the bitchiness, the insecurity, the shallowness.
Where do you draw the line? People shouldn't have to compromise, in a free world we have the freedom to do as we please. If a chavvy girl laughs people should have the confidence to realise she won't go anywhere in life.
The action people take shouldn't be to deter them from wearing what they want, it should be to instill confidence. We shouldn't have to step on egg-shells to appease people we will never see again.
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Re: Prom - Won't wear a dressOMFG - this! Why should we have to "compromise" or dumb ourselves down to appease a bunch of shallow morons who we will not see in the near future?(Original post by SnoochToTheBooch)
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Re: Prom - Won't wear a dressHow does she sound stubborn?(Original post by CollateralElement)
Sounds good and she does sound stubborn. Is it really a strict formal event?
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Re: Prom - Won't wear a dressPrincess dresses are for chavs. Let me guess, they had the tiara and fake tan. Haha, bloody gypsies.(Original post by Accalia)
I'd suggest really thinking about this - I went to prom in a normal every-day dress (budget) and was the only one not wearing the more princess-y dresses. I got a few comments from people and disappointed looks from teachers. The difference with a suit would be even greater.
HOWEVER, if she wants to go in a suit, she should. I think it could look very nice. You just have to accept that in high school, people are still immature and petty.
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Re: Prom - Won't wear a dressI have my senior prom coming up (year 13) and was chatting to a few friends about the dresses at last years prom to get an idea of what I should get. Almost all of them agreed that their favourite outfit was a girl who wore a playsuit - so I second everyone who has suggested playsuit on this post! Everyone agreed that she stood out from the crowd, in a good way. And playsuits really suit tall people as they show off long legs! You can pick up some really nice ones on the High Street - Topshop, Miss Selfridge, etc. Peach or coral colours are basically soft orange so that's always a possibility? Otherwise, you could accessorise a more neutral coloured playsuit, e.g. a black playsuit with bright heels. There are bright heels everywhere at the moment - try New Look and Next
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Re: Prom - Won't wear a dressI didn't go to my prom because I knew I couldn't wear a dress and I didn't want to be seen as "different" by everyone else. So I really admire your sister for wearing what SHE feels comfortable in, not what other people dictate she should wear.
As a lot of people have said, a playsuit would look lovely, but there's nothing wrong with a nice trouser suit if she would feel more comfortable in that! And if other people make comments then so what? She's leaving anyway! -
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You should really be arguing against OP's sister going in the first place then.(Original post by Iron Lady)
It's a sad part of life that a young girl cannot wear what she wants due to the fear of being ridiculed for wearing a trouser suit.
What's so ridiculous about wearing a trouser suit? Why is it so bad to be different? Teenage years really are the worst years of someone's life; the bitchiness, the insecurity, the shallowness.
Where do you draw the line? People shouldn't have to compromise, in a free world we have the freedom to do as we please. If a chavvy girl laughs people should have the confidence to realise she won't go anywhere in life.
The action people take shouldn't be to deter them from wearing what they want, it should be to instill confidence. We shouldn't have to step on egg-shells to appease people we will never see again.
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Re: Prom - Won't wear a dressIt doesn't have to be a super girly cinderella prom dress. I personally think they look ridiculous, so I went to my prom in a tight red bodycon backless dress. WAY MORE FLATTERING, and a lot more grown up than looking like a cupcake. So maybe just find a dress that is just more sophisticated and less classically prom-esque?
Failing that, a really cool jumpsuit with killer heels. Don't go the 70s style wideleg trousers though.
Something more like this: http://www.asos.com/ASOS/ASOS-Jumpsu...t=-1&clr=Black
or this: http://www.asos.com/ASOS/ASOS-Wrap-B...rt=-1&clr=Nude
If you did wanna go for the trouser suit idea, it's a really hot look to wear just the jacket and trousers with some heels. Think 10x more classy than Abbey Clancy at the glamour magazine awards (google it). -
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Re: Prom - Won't wear a dresshttp://www.asos.com/Miss-Sixty/Miss-...=-1&clr=Orange
I know it's expensive but if she could pull that off then she'll look stunning. If she's tall and slim that would look really nice with some high heel.. Plus it's orange.
Make sure you jazz it up abit with jewellery and make up too. Best of luck! -
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Re: Prom - Won't wear a dress(Original post by Aula)
So my sister has got her year 11 ball coming up, but she hates wearing dresses. Her opinion of prom was 'I don't even want to go, but my friends are forcing me'.
We're thinking perhaps a trouser suit of some kind.
She's getting pretty tall and is very slim, and adores the colour orange. Are there any ideas or suggestions?
If she can pull it off it could be quite nice. She should try to make sure it's not too manly though
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Re: Prom - Won't wear a dressJesus. I can't believe the pos to neg rep ratio for this post.(Original post by CollateralElement)
Yeah. Going to prom at her age with a trouser suit isn't going to do much for her rep. "The Possibly - Gay one"
I know a girl who did that in Year 6. She's in year 12 now and she's still called the possibly gay one by some of her friends Teasing of course but it's obvious that's what everyone thought anyway. She's young, you're older. Make a deal with her of some sort so she wears a dress or a playsuit or something - Or she'll end up regretting the trouser suit later on.
One girl wore a white trouser suit to our prom. She looked good and everyone obviously commented because it was unusual. The next day everyone moved on with their lives and no one speculated on her sexuality.
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Re: Prom - Won't wear a dressi think youre missing out how cruel kids can be about others dress sense, after all a 15/16year old girl going to her prom in a suit is going to attract a lot of unwanted attention on the matter ... things may well have chaned or she knows nicer people than i did but i always found if you deviate from the flow to much it ends up going wrong(Original post by Retro.spex)
I can't believe people are actually suggesting she should care so much about what other people think. If she doesn't want to wear something she shouldn't, simple as that.
Teasing of course but it's obvious that's what everyone thought anyway. She's young, you're older. Make a deal with her of some sort so she wears a dress or a playsuit or something - Or she'll end up regretting the trouser suit later on.
