[jblackmoustache]

Plenty Of Fish is like searching a dump for gold. Searching for something good and settling for the best you can find

[Anonymous]

(Original post by pinkangelgirl)
I am good girlfriend material thanks. In fact thats probably the only thing i am good at

And of the guys i met off a dating site 75% of them asked me to be their girlfriend.

Lol, just reread my post and realised how it came across. I wasn't trying to imply that you aren't girlfriend material (don't even know you) - I was just explaining why for most girls, 'dating site guys' will seem to be just after sex. They can only meet girls they're not that into.

Why do you say the guys you met were only after one thing, if they wanted you to be their girlfriend?

[pinkangelgirl]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Lol, just reread my post and realised how it came across. I wasn't trying to imply that you aren't girlfriend material (don't even know you) - I was just explaining why for most girls, 'dating site guys' will seem to be just after sex. They can only meet girls they're not that into.

Why do you say the guys you met were only after one thing, if they wanted you to be their girlfriend?

because after id said 'no' or take our time...theyd be pushing for things- kissing, touching, sex whatever. Like yeh, i know that comes as part of a relationship, but when theyre calling you ''dull'' and ''boring'' for not getting naked the 2nd time you meet them its just like

[Chumbaniya]

(Original post by pinkangelgirl)
because after id said 'no' or take our time...theyd be pushing for things- kissing, touching, sex whatever. Like yeh, i know that comes as part of a relationship, but when theyre calling you ''dull'' and ''boring'' for not getting naked the 2nd time you meet them its just like

Calling you 'boring' is probably pushing it a bit far, but I think you've got yourself too invested in the idea that everyone should want things at the same speed that you do, and if they don't they're "only after one thing". There's probably a trend towards men wanting to take things quicker, and men should probably bear that in mind in terms of what they expect, but the fact that you don't want something on the first or second date doesn't mean it's wrong. Part of this is an age thing, but on a first date, assuming it was a 'proper' date and not just a meet-up in an I'm-not-sure kind of way, if I didn't want to kiss the woman I was with that would be a sign that I'm just not that interested.

Then there's the fact that wanting sex doesn't mean not wanting an emotional connection. But I think that's somewhere I differ from most men (and women, in fact) and is a whole different issue.

[pinkangelgirl]

(Original post by Chumbaniya)
Calling you 'boring' is probably pushing it a bit far, but I think you've got yourself too invested in the idea that everyone should want things at the same speed that you do, and if they don't they're "only after one thing". There's probably a trend towards men wanting to take things quicker, and men should probably bear that in mind in terms of what they expect, but the fact that you don't want something on the first or second date doesn't mean it's wrong. Part of this is an age thing, but on a first date, assuming it was a 'proper' date and not just a meet-up in an I'm-not-sure kind of way, if I didn't want to kiss the woman I was with that would be a sign that I'm just not that interested.

Then there's the fact that wanting sex doesn't mean not wanting an emotional connection. But I think that's somewhere I differ from most men (and women, in fact) and is a whole different issue.

Im not saying that at all, but i think after a first or second date pushing for things is not appropriate.

And yeh i agree on most things you put, but i always find the whole 'kissing on the first date' thing difficult. Because i understand what you mean if theres no kiss theres no interest? But i have been on dates where im just like ''what am i thinking, im not attracted to this guy at all'' and then when a guy goes in for a kiss, as easy as it is for you to say, it is not always easy to say no.

[Lucia.]

(Original post by Chumbaniya)
Also thrown into the pit are anyone who self-describes as 'bubbly' and anyone who writes something in their profile that suggests they see being ordinary or average as positives. And anyone who says they are 'fun loving', because everybody enjoys fun, you idiots.

haha "I'm just an average guy/girl"

I can think of more profile clichés:

- "I'm not good at describing myself..." and variations on that theme
- "I like to work hard and play hard"
- "I'm an easygoing/down-to-earth guy" - something I see in almost every man's profile
- "I like the odd night out but I also like to stay in"
- "I'm shy at first but I open up once you get to know me"
- "If you're looking for someone who knows how to treat a woman..." etc
- Don't like game players etc
Under the section "What I'm doing with my life"
- "Living it", "Living my life to the fullest" etc - people who say that usually aren't

[Anonymous]

(Original post by pinkangelgirl)
because after id said 'no' or take our time...theyd be pushing for things- kissing, touching, sex whatever. Like yeh, i know that comes as part of a relationship, but when theyre calling you ''dull'' and ''boring'' for not getting naked the 2nd time you meet them its just like

Well they probably got all hot and bothered about you being female. Gotta say though it's a little weird asking to be bf/gf before you've even kissed. Do you reckon they actually meant it or were just saying so because they thought it would help drop your pants faster?

[TheInformer]

(Original post by Lucia.)
haha "I'm just an average guy/girl"

I can think of more profile clichés:

- "I'm not good at describing myself..." and variations on that theme
- "I like to work hard and play hard"
- "I'm an easygoing/down-to-earth guy" - something I see in almost every man's profile
- "I like the odd night out but I also like to stay in"
- "I'm shy at first but I open up once you get to know me"
- "If you're looking for someone who knows how to treat a woman..." etc
- Don't like game players etc
Under the section "What I'm doing with my life"
- "Living it", "Living my life to the fullest" etc - people who say that usually aren't

Makes you realise just how similar people really are. At least put something funny/different in your profile jeez.

[Chumbaniya]

(Original post by Lucia.)
haha "I'm just an average guy/girl"

I can think of more profile clichés:

- "I'm not good at describing myself..." and variations on that theme

And stating this at the start of your profile made the description so much better!

- "I like to work hard and play hard"
- "I'm an easygoing/down-to-earth guy" - something I see in almost every man's profile

Well that's good, I sure don't want to date someone who's utterly tedious and lives in space.

- "I like the odd night out but I also like to stay in"

Oh so, you like both of a pair of mutually exclusive options that cover all possibilities? How discerning of you.

- "I'm shy at first but I open up once you get to know me"

That's unusual. It's not as though that's exactly what shy means.

- "If you're looking for someone who knows how to treat a woman..." etc

What does this one mean? You know where it goes in? Well done!

- Don't like game players etc
Under the section "What I'm doing with my life"
- "Living it", "Living my life to the fullest" etc - people who say that usually aren't

Sarcastic responses in line.

[pinkangelgirl]

(Original post by Anonymous)
Well they probably got all hot and bothered about you being female. Gotta say though it's a little weird asking to be bf/gf before you've even kissed. Do you reckon they actually meant it or were just saying so because they thought it would help drop your pants faster?

i dont know and will never know the logic of males? or lack of!

ive given up caring now

[Lucia.]

What does your profile look like, Mr Chumbaniya? Do you defy all online dating clichés?

[Chumbaniya]

(Original post by Lucia.)
What does your profile look like, Mr Chumbaniya? Do you defy all online dating clichés?

Some stuff about liking arguments, having dry humour, a few boring things about my life and what I like to do, wrapped up in a pretty intimidating format. I trust all of the "MANDATORY" answers on OkCupid to questions on grammar, logic, and basic understanding of the world will keep out the usual crowd.

[TheInformer]

(Original post by Chumbaniya)
Some stuff about liking arguments, having dry humour, a few boring things about my life and what I like to do, wrapped up in a pretty intimidating format. I trust all of the "MANDATORY" answers on OkCupid to questions on grammar, logic, and basic understanding of the world will keep out the usual crowd.

I recommend coming up with something more original - every man and their dog has a similar profile to that. You'd have more success with an extremely over-the-top cocky profile.

[Chumbaniya]

(Original post by TheInformer)
I recommend coming up with something more original - every man and their dog has a similar profile to that. You'd have more success with an extremely over-the-top cocky profile.

I'd like to meet these dogs, they sound impressive.

[TheInformer]

(Original post by Chumbaniya)
I'd like to meet these dogs, they sound impressive.

If you're on PoF you soon will.

[dgeorge]

(Original post by pinkangelgirl)
im sure it is. But i met several guys on there who were 'decent' just like the so called 'nice' guys in real life. But they are all still after one thing. Ok, not all, sorry, but the majority.

There are nice guys out there, but i cba to weed my way through all the germs to find them.

TBH, you only pointed out going out with two "nice" guys, only one of which was really pushy.

[dgeorge]

(Original post by pinkangelgirl)
friendly, kind, caring, sweet, interested in you, not a cheat or a liar.

(and of course not pushy, but thats where every guy falls down).

To be fair, i met 2 seemingly decent guys. But after the first date one of them was like ''oh, you dont kiss on a first date?'' (i had said that, because i didnt feel any chemistry with him and i didnt want him to awkwardly try anything) i did later tell him exactly that <<< and even though what he said wasnt bad, it was how he said it and the way he looked at me, like i was the most shocking person alive to not want to make out on a first date.
and the 2nd one i just wasnt physically attracted to (i say he was decent- i have only met him once)

Another guy was lovely, we had lots of phone chats etc etc and then met up. But he was so manipulative when we werent together. Would ask me why i wouldnt let him kiss me on the first date would i let him on the 2nd. I said we would see how things go. And he just kept saying how i didnt fancy him because i wouldnt let him kiss me. So i was like ''fine! we can bloody kiss'' (i hate preparing things anyway, why couldnt it just have been spontaneous!!) and then he was like ''well not now cos your only saying i can kiss you to please me'' and it was like i just cant win here. Then the 2nd date was great again and we kissed etc. and he was really nice and fun again. And then after he starts texting me about having sex next time we meet, and im like ''uh, i wanna get to know you better'' and hes just like ''your gonna go too slow for me, sorry'' so i was like ''okay'' and then hes texting me later about am i goingto change my mind about not having sex yet.......**** off!!!


Sorry, that was a rant haha!

If a woman came out of the blue and told me that, even if i didn't WANT to kiss her, then I would be definitely ask her a similar question and give her a skeptical look

[DancinBallerina]

(Original post by jblackmoustache)
Plenty Of Fish is like searching a dump for gold. Searching for something good and settling for the best you can find

Agree lol

[Chumbaniya]

To add to my earlier comments about OkC matching me with lots of bisexual vegetarians, it also seems that amongst my absolute top matches (worldwide, just for funzies) a staggering number are in existing open relationships. I almost feel like I'm being told I was living my life wrong up to this point and I should give up meat and become non-monogamous.

[Dark Horse]

(Original post by Helenia)
Cue a lot of bitter guys coming in to whinge that all the girls are way too picky and think far too much of themselves...

Lol well of course. Such things get repeated all the time because they're actually true. Trust me if you browsed POF with a fake male profile and tried messaging a few girls you would see why it is frustrating. We're up against it, we have our work cut out and the sad thing is that 95% of the wenches on the site aren't even worth the challenge.

I'd say that any girl who has a marginal amount of flesh showing in her pictures, is average looking but with no profile content whatsoever will STILL be inundated with messages thanks to the strong male libido. Well I often think to myself how would I feel/react if I was subject to so much attention? Although it's bad attention, it's still attention.

I also believe that the stigma attached to online dating hasn't really gone away. Many people might be signing up for accounts and creating profiles, but I can't help but think that online dating is still thought of as a crutch for people with no social skills and no other means of finding a partner. I couldn't tell you how many profiles contain plausible excuses such as...
"oh my friend told me this site was good"
"just seeing what this is like"
"never thought I'd need a dating site to meet someone but here I am"
"sick of meeting nobs on nights out"

So what is there then? If all of these beautiful and intelligent ladies are receiving nothing but creepy messages and boring one-liners, and also do not really seem to take the whole thing seriously, then why do they even bother logging on? The answer is obvious.

And I often read frustrated men on here complaining that "no one messages them" and they get views but not messages. Well, I get alot of replies and sometimes I even get girls messaging me first. I'm not saying this to brag or make myself look like a stud, but I need to explain this next point.
Most women message you simply to get you to chase them. For example yesterday a girl messaged me with compliments on my pictures and profile and about how she likes "good conversation" (but failed to start one or even try to) and after my neutral replies she said something like "well I like the lad to start it off" and "yeah, so come on". And I could tell by her reaction after I called her out on it that I was bang on the money. Women on POF are game-players, attention seekers and/or single mums. POF is the absolute dregs of the dating world and if anyone has the tenacity to wade through such a sea of garbage in hope of finding someone actually worth the time of day then I take my hat off to them.