[TheLouisVuittonDon]

POF sucks now. They took away the ability to copy and paste the same message over and over again. They actually expect guys to type out a completely individual message when girls barely ever reply anyway.

[repoman]

(Original post by drexon104)
Most people on POF don't care about your profile. All I had to do was make my profile shorter and upload a good set of pictures = SUCCESS.

What happens if you are average/below average looking? Or you have terrible photos, but also have hardly any friends to take photos with (or you do have friends, but always make excuses to go with you)

Photos unfortunately mean a lot on dating sites. Guys will get ignored 99% of the time, if the woman does not like the profile pic, she wont even click on it to view their whole profile

[pinkangelgirl]

(Original post by Anonymous)
This is a really really awkward story, but about 4 months ago I joined POF to try make some friends since someone on here said it wasn't just for dating (and oh god they were so so wrong.)

I started talking to guy who was into extreme sports and stuff like that. We got on okay, but he looked really dodgy, like the kind of guy you'd cross over the road to avoid. Anyway he suggested meeting up, and I said no thanks, and that I wasn't ready for that as it had only been 3 days of talking which for me wasn't enough to justify meeting when his appearance genuinely frightened me. Anyway I kept it for about a month before deciding it was actually scaring me. I started to get paranoid people would recognise me in the street for whatever reason, I don't know. Here's the twist - I was at a film festival a few nights ago, and this guy walks past - IT WAS HIM. The awkwardness when he noticed me was unreal. I genuinely wanted to be sick because I was that frightened. We didn't even live in the same town according to POF, it was just freaky.

Also, I exchanged numbers with 2 guys, one of them mysteriously stopped texting after he suggested meeting up, so I'm not sure what happened there, and the other I still text every now and then whenever he's back from being in the army. I doubt I'll ever meet up with him, but it's nice to just catch up and stuff when he's back in England.

i had this guy who id spoken to several times on the phone and then he would never actually arrange to meet up properly, but would always ask to come over to my house etc, and id be like.....uhh, no! then he kept saying ''i saw you in mcdonalds today'' when i wasnt even in mcdonalds, or ''i saw you in town'' and its like, no, you didnt!

then 1 day he just randomly stopped texting and deleted me off facebook!! Gutted hahaa

[Bleak Lemming]

I've met a few girls from online dating websites over the years, many who I've dated for quite a while..

My list girlfriend I met on that zoosk website (which is a load of rubbish), pretty girl but in the end after about 6 months it didn't work out.

A couple of months ago I joined that PoF website which is a bit of a nightmare in my opinion. There's a serious lack of educated women & a lot of people who seem to be messing about & playing games.

I've met one girl off that website and it was my worse meet-up experience ever. She looked nothing like her pictures & had a massive nose, also a bit chavy which she didn't seem at all from what I had interpreted. I had no interests in getting to know her or anything so 5 mins into the date I said that I'm just gonna go home & never talked to her again.

There was another girl who I talked to quite a bit on the phone and whatnot but she was 'shy' and didn't really want to meet straight away which was fine, after about a month this was still going on so I just deleted their number cos I wasn't interested in someone who I just seem to be txting / calling.

There are a few others who I have talked to on the site but I've really struggled to find the right balance between education / looks. It seems like a lot of the decent looking people by the sounds of it get tonnes of messages and half the time don't reply or have a terrible education which is something I take into consideration. On the flip side the majority of people on there with a good education who I've talked to, aren't very pretty. Sounds bad, and I'm not after a stunner in particular but there needs to be some sort of balance. Got talking quite heavily with one lass who's a doctor but they just aren't good looking at all tbh and at the end of the day you got to be attracted to them!

I haven't been on it for ages now because I'd given up hope.. I'll give it another bash in a month or so maybe..

[Anonymous]

I think it's common knowledge that women prefer older guys.
Im a 26 year old guy and Im not attracted to older women in general.

Would it feel odd that I should only be messaging women for my age range which is about 18-26? Or is for example 18 too much of an age gap?

[EffieFlowers]

(Original post by Anonymous)
about 2 years ago I signed up to OkCupid and PoF, I went on about 5 dates (3 OkCupid, 2 PoF)

First one - Everything was going really well, he did leave out quite a huge detail which was that he had a son, but told me before we actually went on a date. Everything went really well, and then he just didn't text me and that was it, never heard of spoke to him again.

Second one - Met up, went out for a day together but it just wasn't there, he was a really lovely but there was just nothing between us.

Third guy - Seemed a really nice guy, more forward than the others and I liked that as I'm quite shy, we met up a few times and then it just became really obvious he was trying to get me into bed and when it wasn't working he stood me up, I did confront him about a week later and he just said "well what did you expect from a dating site?".

Fourth Guy - He was closer to my age than the other guys were and we had more common interests, but when we met up there was just nothing at all between us.

On the train home from that date I decided I wasn't going to do this anymore, but then I got a text. I forgot completely I'd given my number to this guy, but he didn't seem all that interested and I didn't think anything of it and assumed after the short text conversation we had that that was going to be it, but then he text me and asked me to go out with him.

So Number Five - He was almost 6 years older than I was, older than I'd ever thought I'd date, but we had a fantastic date and I didn't want it to end and neither did he, so we met up then next day and had another great day, and then the day after I ended up staying the night at his and we spent the day after together too and then that was it, my friends love him, my parents love him and I love him. we were a couple. Two years later we're engaged and trying to decided where we're going to buy our house.

I know there aren't many like stories more like that but it did work out for me, I didn't have much hope but it did go well and I'm really happy that I met him and I know we wouldn't actually have met without it.

One in a million! How lucky you were to find each other


This was posted from The Student Room's Android App on my HTC Wildfire S A510e

[Antifazian]

(Original post by Anonymous)
I think it's common knowledge that women prefer older guys.
Im a 26 year old guy and Im not attracted to older women in general.

Would it feel odd that I should only be messaging women for my age range which is about 18-26? Or is for example 18 too much of an age gap?

I don't think it's that odd or unusual, i'm 19 but I would go as old as 26 - It depends on the maturity of the two people really.

[Chumbaniya]

(Original post by Foo.mp3)
Attractive face? Tapable bod? Reasonable height? Not a psycho/gold digger? Boom. We’re in business

You see, I can't bring myself to do this. No matter how attractive someone is, if they're obviously just incapable of writing a couple of sentences in a language recognisably similar to English I'd feel like I was betraying all of literate-kind in messaging them. There's no reason this needs to be a criterion, as I'm not looking for someone to have a serious relationship with, but the idea of going on a date with a woman who, when asked to summarise her existence, states that she is "Lovin life" fills me with dread.

(Original post by TheLouisVuittonDon)
POF sucks now. They took away the ability to copy and paste the same message over and over again. They actually expect guys to type out a completely individual message when girls barely ever reply anyway.

On the reasonable assumption that a woman getting above a certain number of messages will respond to a set number rather than proportion of them, if you drop the number of messages each woman receives, you up the proportion they respond to. It doesn't make it harder for guys, it just forces them to be a bit more selective.

[gemmam]

(Original post by TheLouisVuittonDon)
POF sucks now. They took away the ability to copy and paste the same message over and over again. They actually expect guys to type out a completely individual message when girls barely ever reply anyway.

Most women won't reply to form letters anyway, believe me its very easy to tell if a message has been copied and pasted or not.

[Foo.mp3]

(Original post by Chumbaniya)
if they're obviously just incapable of writing a couple of sentences in a language recognisably similar to English I'd feel like I was betraying all of literate-kind in messaging them

Granted I've never really communicated properly/seriously with just such a floozy but that is not to say I wouldn't necessarily, in the name of clunge

If you use free online dating sites expecting a high (all round) calibre of woman (to be on there in the first place, never mind to chose you) then I fear you may not get much use out of them

(Original post by Chumbaniya)
The idea of going on a date with a woman who, when asked to summarise her existence, states that she is "Lovin life" fills me with dread

Aye, I know what you mean, I wouldn't have the first clue how to relate to that type of girl but after a bottle of wine or two, and where there's a will, I can imagine one or two 'ways'

[TheLouisVuittonDon]

(Original post by Foo.mp3)

Aye, I know what you mean, I wouldn't have the first clue how to relate to that type of girl but after a bottle of wine or two, and where there's a will, I can imagine one or two 'ways'

So essentially you are going on these dates to just have sex with girls?

[Foo.mp3]

(Original post by TheLouisVuittonDon)
So essentially you are going on these dates to just have sex with girls?

I've never been in a dating situation with a girl I thought of as a one trick pony (although I'd be lying if I said the select few girls I've dated from online dating sites have been particularly interesting/charming) but yes, if, hypothetically, I encountered a smoking air head, it'd be rude not to..

[pinkangelgirl]

ive just joined PoF for the purposes of this (also it wouldnt let me delete my account as id been on less than 24 hours?) haha!

so far i have encountered the usual can i suck your toes, can i **** you etc.

but ive also spoken to some seemingly okay guys. This time im not making the mistake of talking to anyone i dont find attractive.

Oh, and im not joking, one guy ive got talking to and it started nice n friendly....then all of a sudden hes just criticising how i look- i need more make up, a change in hair style, my boobs need uplifting, i need a tan, he doesnt like white girls....im just like and he thinks i want him to be my boyfriend even though ive only spoke to him today and im not even looking for a relationship lol!!

ah well

[Bleak Lemming]

(Original post by pinkangelgirl)
This time im not making the mistake of talking to anyone i dont find attractive.

Yep.. Keep making that one (but with women)! Not gonna talk to the absolute trolls [no offence to anybody] but the ones who I talk to who are, meh OK looking but have decent education / interests I'll send a few message and they turn out to be really nice people... And then I end up feeling bad cos I don't really find them attractive so just end up letting the convo fizz

Same goes with people who are pretty but are thick as a 2x4 plank but I don't feel bad then, haha.

[pinkangelgirl]

(Original post by Bleak Lemming)
Yep.. Keep making that one (but with women)! Not gonna talk to the absolute trolls [no offence to anybody] but the ones who I talk to who are, meh OK looking but have decent education / interests I'll send a few message and they turn out to be really nice people... And then I end up feeling bad cos I don't really find them attractive so just end up letting the convo fizz

Same goes with people who are pretty but are thick as a 2x4 plank but I don't feel bad then, haha.

gs yeh i hate that...i always had people make an effort with their messages, then id reply, then theyd ask to meet and after the amount of convo we had i thought it would be rude so id end up meeting and the whole time im like ''what the hell is wrong with me, why cant i just tell someone!''

so from now on i only reply to people i think i could find attractive.

but i really cant believe this guy is telling me to dress better, do my hair etc and hes not even hot lmao

[Lucia.]

Well my recent dating experiences are nothing to shout about. Had some flirtatious conversations and talked to some nice guys, but they weren't on the same page as me. I got freaked out by their clingy-ness. I'm at a stage in my mind where I'm thinking that a relationship would be all right (I like to just let it happen) but I'm not exactly looking for one. I just want to date and see how that goes.

A lot of people on the site don't think of it in that way. They're all very eager. This stuff is hard to navigate.

I'm also one for meeting in person before I even think about anything serious. I have to experience chemistry in person to know - not sure I could do the internet romance stuff.

(Original post by Bleak Lemming)
Yep.. Keep making that one (but with women)! Not gonna talk to the absolute trolls [no offence to anybody] but the ones who I talk to who are, meh OK looking but have decent education / interests I'll send a few message and they turn out to be really nice people... And then I end up feeling bad cos I don't really find them attractive so just end up letting the convo fizz

That's what I end up doing. It's not because I'm shallow. I have to get a good vibe. At least for me finding someone attractive is about their demeanour. Sometimes men are mediocre looking and I find them really hot because of their sexual energy...not sure how that can come across online but whatever. I've figured out my type finally and it's not that hardcore - just what I know I find hot. Does this stuff make sense?

[Bleak Lemming]

(Original post by Lucia.)
That's what I end up doing. It's not because I'm shallow. I have to get a good vibe. At least for me finding someone attractive is about their demeanour. Sometimes men are mediocre looking and I find them really hot because of their sexual energy...not sure how that can come across online but whatever. I've figured out my type finally and it's not that hardcore - just what I know I find hot. Does this stuff make sense?

Aye, see I'm not just after someone to bang tbh.. I'm sure because I put 'Looking for a relationship' on my profile people are put off! Haha, obviously not gonna be together after just meeting a couple of times.. But not gonna put 'Hang Out', can't see the point can do that on a night out. Just after someone with a bit of ambition for gods sake, seems like 90% of people on this site are in dead end jobs and have hobbies which involve 'the weekends' and 'the gym' (the gym is not a hobby, it's a necessity). Then out of the 10% who are decent, maybe 3% are active / message back and then only 1% of them are attractive to my standards (which aren't off the scale, just no mingers! [no offence to anyone!!!])

Bah life! Rant - over.

Edit: Love how my hardcore revision session has turned into PoF chat + PoF rants.. + American dad.

Edit 2: Not being funny like but haway.. I don't want these people messaging me!!

http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=39760757
http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=32992907
http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=34388538

Do these people actually think I'm gonna message them back??? Hahaha. Honestly this isn't meant to be offensive - I just get sickened.

Edit 3: I gather it was a 'BBW' who has neg repped me :P

[Bleak Lemming]

Oh look another one messaging me... It's never a fitty is it? Haha

http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=39818932

I tell you what like, if one of these people who use this website just to 'bang lasses' had a bit of common sense they'd just put a normal pic / profile up and pretended they wanted a lass then they'd have no problem!

[Lucia.]

(Original post by Bleak Lemming)
Aye, see I'm not just after someone to bang tbh..

Oh me neither. I hope you know what I meant. Just like to feel chemistry with someone.

[pinkangelgirl]

(Original post by Bleak Lemming)
Aye, see I'm not just after someone to bang tbh.. I'm sure because I put 'Looking for a relationship' on my profile people are put off! Haha, obviously not gonna be together after just meeting a couple of times.. But not gonna put 'Hang Out', can't see the point can do that on a night out. Just after someone with a bit of ambition for gods sake, seems like 90% of people on this site are in dead end jobs and have hobbies which involve 'the weekends' and 'the gym' (the gym is not a hobby, it's a necessity). Then out of the 10% who are decent, maybe 3% are active / message back and then only 1% of them are attractive to my standards (which aren't off the scale, just no mingers! [no offence to anyone!!!])

Bah life! Rant - over.

Edit: Love how my hardcore revision session has turned into PoF chat + PoF rants.. + American dad.

Edit 2: Not being funny like but haway.. I don't want these people messaging me!!

http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=39760757
http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=32992907
http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=34388538

Do these people actually think I'm gonna message them back??? Hahaha. Honestly this isn't meant to be offensive - I just get sickened.

send me a link to your profile and ill message you

though then i might end up with you linking everyone to my profile haha!