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Re: Is anyone else treated like a child when they come home from uni for the summer?I'm an only child too but my parents are not as extreme to the extent that they question which knives i use. However, when they speak of me in 3rd person, i'm known as "Our little boy".(Original post by Sparkle8)
I love my parents, and I love coming home from uni for the summer, don't get me wrong, but I find it annoying how I'm suddenly a child in their eyes as soon as I walk through the door.
Yesterday I was cutting up some chicken and was quickly advised 'not to use that knife as it's very sharp' (I think they forget that I cook for myself every single day I'm away.)
I was also asked whether it was 'safe' to go for a bike ride on a bank holiday Monday in case there was 'lots of cars on the roads.'
I find it hard not to shout and get angry, but I know my parents only care. I just don't think I'll ever be a grown up in their eyes. I'm an only child, so perhaps that's the problem. However, I'm really mature, and just want them to see this too!!
I just want to know if anyone experiences the same thing, and how they deal with it?
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Re: Is anyone else treated like a child when they come home from uni for the summer?I think this is fine.
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I'm 24 years old, a pilot and have been away from home since I was about 16. My family still want me to call them when I leave after a visit to "make sure I've arrived home safely". My father still gives me "advice" for when I'm driving on the roads. My aunt still tells me that it's (apparently) bad for your hair to wash it every day, completely missing the irony in the fact that she smokes. My gran still thinks that having a bacon roll with a coffee will give me Cancer. My mum still thinks I should be careful when I drink a glass of water after having been out for a run in case it "freezes [my] stomach" (whatever that means).
Sure it might be because they care, but they shouldn't bother giving me advice and I tell them that frequently. I know how to look after myself.
You should tell them the same.
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Re: Is anyone else treated like a child when they come home from uni for the summer?(Original post by yunghamz)
I'm an only child too but my parents are not as extreme to the extent that they question which knives i use. However, when they speak of me in 3rd person, i'm known as "Our little boy".
Grinds my tits when i hear that .
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Re: Is anyone else treated like a child when they come home from uni for the summer?I feel sorry for you that you don't have parents that care.(Original post by Dislocator)
I feel so sorry for you babe x -
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Re: Is anyone else treated like a child when they come home from uni for the summer?This 100%. Enjoy the luxury of being waited upon while you still can.(Original post by McNicholl)
Let your parents do that. Hand them the knife and tell them to cook the dinner if they're worried.
Mum's cooked dinner. Nothing better. Everyone wins!
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Re: Is anyone else treated like a child when they come home from uni for the summer?Not what you want to hear, but we refer to our cat as that - our little boy.(Original post by yunghamz)
I'm an only child too but my parents are not as extreme to the extent that they question which knives i use. However, when they speak of me in 3rd person, i'm known as "Our little boy".
Grinds my tits when i hear that .
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Re: Is anyone else treated like a child when they come home from uni for the summer?You've got to be patient with grandparents, they love to provide good hospitality. The dark side of this is it's because they don't get much companionship.(Original post by TheSownRose)
How did you get her to give in!?
My grandmother is 86 and arthritic, and even now won't let me wash up or throw things away...
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Re: Is anyone else treated like a child when they come home from uni for the summer?To be fair, you are still at the stage where you are dependent on them to house and feed you over the summer so you are effectively a child.
The dynamic will probably fade away once you are entirely responsible for yourself.
If you were that mature you would take it on the chin and not get a rise from it. Every time I see my mum, she always asks me to text when I get home so she knows I got there safely. I know full well that it is stupid and I could get knocked down by a bus any other day of the month or year and it is silly that I text her just so she knows I don't get hurt coming back from hers but you know what? I suck it up and just do it to make the old girl happy. No point letting little things like that annoy you.Last edited by Jake22; 07-06-2012 at 17:47. -
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Re: Is anyone else treated like a child when they come home from uni for the summer?Whiskey. Tango. Foxtrot.(Original post by Pi!)
My sister gets stuffed both ends when she comes home.
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Re: Is anyone else treated like a child when they come home from uni for the summer?haha, that makes me smile. my parents did basically the exact same thing when i came home for the summer for the first time, and i was living abroad and everything. it got less and less each summer, but it did cause some friction. you just have to work extra hard to act mature and not slip into the role of child that is open for you, because it can happen. if found myself doing it a few times. in an extreme example, my uncle is 65 and has a kid, and when he visits his parents he still manages to slip into the role of a child, because he doesn't fight it.(Original post by Sparkle8)
I love my parents, and I love coming home from uni for the summer, don't get me wrong, but I find it annoying how I'm suddenly a child in their eyes as soon as I walk through the door.
Yesterday I was cutting up some chicken and was quickly advised 'not to use that knife as it's very sharp' (I think they forget that I cook for myself every single day I'm away.)
I was also asked whether it was 'safe' to go for a bike ride on a bank holiday Monday in case there was 'lots of cars on the roads.'
I find it hard not to shout and get angry, but I know my parents only care. I just don't think I'll ever be a grown up in their eyes. I'm an only child, so perhaps that's the problem. However, I'm really mature, and just want them to see this too!!
I just want to know if anyone experiences the same thing, and how they deal with it?
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Re: Is anyone else treated like a child when they come home from uni for the summer?I'm 26 and in a very similar position (without kids!). I think it depends on the parents: some will treat you like children no matter how old you get, and uni won't change that.(Original post by PinkMobilePhone)
I'm 28, I'm married, and have three kids. I haven't lived with my mother for the past 10 years. Despite this, she still sees fit to ring me up almost daily to tell me what I should and shouldn't be eating, and to advise me on whether or not she thinks the weather is too bad for me to be driving in it, and to tell me to wrap up warmly.
I still get the "You'll always be a child to me" thing too.
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Re: Is anyone else treated like a child when they come home from uni for the summer?In my grandparent's eyes, my Dad is still a child, even though he's 51!!
Fortunately, both my parents rebelled against their parents attitudes and left me pretty much to my own devices since I was about 14 (I'm now 26), for which I'm eternally grateful.
As has already been mentioned, in some parents' eyes, you'll always be a helpless child, depending on them to protect you. Sad, but true. -
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Re: Is anyone else treated like a child when they come home from uni for the summer?LOL, loads of parents are like yours OP! My mother fusses over me from the moment I set foot in the door and my father texts me regularly at college and asks if I have enough money, if I'm with a boy, what's he like, am I tired, do I need anything, haha. TBH, I would enjoy some of it - if your mum cooks for you and stuff, that's nice. I certainly don't object to love and attention from my parents if I benefit from it materially and if it reminds me that they love me. I am nice to them too.
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Re: Is anyone else treated like a child when they come home from uni for the summer?Hell yeah!
My mum doesn't really tell me watch the sharp knife or whatever, it's more in a emotional way that she makes me feel like a child.
Although she has been nagging me to get a job for next year after I graduate (I'm pretty sure I'm aware i need a job!)Last edited by RowingGoose; 07-06-2012 at 18:22. -
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Re: Is anyone else treated like a child when they come home from uni for the summer?I'm sure your cat wants to be treated like a respectable cat in the cat community rather than a kitten. I bet all the other cats laugh behind his back(Original post by TheSownRose)
Not what you want to hear, but we refer to our cat as that - our little boy.
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Re: Is anyone else treated like a child when they come home from uni for the summer?Kind of the same with me. I went to boarding school at 14, and I get treated more like a child by my parents now than i did before. It's just cause they care.(Original post by Sparkle8)
I love my parents, and I love coming home from uni for the summer, don't get me wrong, but I find it annoying how I'm suddenly a child in their eyes as soon as I walk through the door.
Yesterday I was cutting up some chicken and was quickly advised 'not to use that knife as it's very sharp' (I think they forget that I cook for myself every single day I'm away.)
I was also asked whether it was 'safe' to go for a bike ride on a bank holiday Monday in case there was 'lots of cars on the roads.'
I find it hard not to shout and get angry, but I know my parents only care. I just don't think I'll ever be a grown up in their eyes. I'm an only child, so perhaps that's the problem. However, I'm really mature, and just want them to see this too!!
I just want to know if anyone experiences the same thing, and how they deal with it?
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Re: Is anyone else treated like a child when they come home from uni for the summer?Haha like others on this thread, I'm 26 and my parents treat me like a child when I'm at their house.
Most of the time its great, because they spoil me rotten like a kid, but its a bit annoying as well, when they tell me things like how to catch a bus (I get a bus to work and back pretty much every day, but I evidently don't know that I should have the correct change and tell the driver where I want to go) and how to cook pasta (what do you know, you boil the stuff? Who'd have thought it
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I fully sympathise with your problem, but at least you only have to put up with it for a few weeks until you're back at uni, and they're only doing it because they care. They're probably thrilled to have you back for a short while.
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