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Never been kissed, dating atm

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    I've recently started dating. I've been asked out before but have always said no as I haven't been comfortable. However, a guy from my course who I've also grown fond of asked me out. He's tried holding my hand and even that's been really difficult. I have a assault history.

    I've never kissed a guy before and I'm not sure whether I should tell him or not (that I've never kissed someone not assault). What shall I do? I really want to move on with my life.
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    no dont tell him, everyone has to start from somewhere so its fine.
    Just be comfortable in whatever you do
    and when it comes down to the business in the bedroom, remember to f**k his brains out.
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    I would probably hold off going into too much detail on the first couple of dates because it's likely to make him feel REALLY awkward and worried that he's going to hurt you.

    Just make him aware that you're pretty inexperienced without making too big a thing of it and make it clear that you want to take things slowly (assuming that you do), build up your confidence and make sure you feel comfortable with what you're doing.

    If you're close and he seems like the right sort of guy then I definitely think you should talk to him about what's happened in the past at some point because if you're going to be serious then it's better that he finds out from you and when you're in the mood to talk about it than it is that he find out during a fight or something, but I would wait until you're comfortable with each other.

    Hope it works out for you, for what it's worth I think it takes a lot of guts to try to start a relationship with someone when your only past experience is so horrific
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    That might not be a bad thing. This is a blog about a guy who was in your boat.
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    If its just kissing, don't tell him, I didn't have my first kiss till I was 16 and was worried about whether it would go wrong but if you like him it just feels natural and you know what to do, and he didnt seem to notice

    Buttt... if you are thinking of going further I would warn him that you were unexperienced


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