[Anonymous]

I went out last night to some gig/ nightclub thing, its a **** club pretty dressed down get stupidly hot in there so i wore hotpants and a crop top and heels, my boyfriend basically said I only dressed like that becuase i wanted to get with some guys which is clearly bull as if i did i wouldnt be with him. Every single time i go out he gets all touchy about what im wearing saying its to short, to tight, to revealing. Why? surely he knows im not going to go near another man so is it normal for guys to be fussed about what their gfs wear?

[Tedaus]

He probably thinks he's not good enough for you and feels like you are using him until you get someone better. Also, guys look. He probably sees so many guys looking at every part of you and I don't blame him for not liking it. What's wrong with wearing a few more clothes?

[ct2k7]

Most girls that I know that go to clubs aren't the faithful ones

[Palatial Veranda]

I would prefer them not to look like they are attending the 2012 Annual Whore Convention.

[pinkangelgirl]

(Original post by ct2k7)
Most girls that I know that go to clubs aren't the faithful ones

i go clubbing, and im definitely the faithful type.

anyway, OP, no offence, but i dont believe you werent wearing that for another reason. And i think the reason was because you like to be looked at/the attention- thats not a bad thing though!! Most girls like a little bit of attention.

One thing guys dont seem to understand is we're not competing for the male attention (well, not always ) but girls have to dress in a certain way in order to be accepted by the other females! Thats what ive always found anyway

[ct2k7]

(Original post by pinkangelgirl)
i go clubbing, and im definitely the faithful type.

anyway, OP, no offence, but i dont believe you werent wearing that for another reason. And i think the reason was because you like to be looked at/the attention- thats not a bad thing though!! Most girls like a little bit of attention.

One thing guys dont seem to understand is we're not competing for the male attention (well, not always ) but girls have to dress in a certain way in order to be accepted by the other females! Thats what ive always found anyway

You're one of the few, went out to a club, was getting courted by married women and engaged women; wtf.

[MancBoy]

What I dont get is...why do girls still need attention from other guys if they're in a loving relationship?

[For The Love Of Giraffe]

(Original post by Tedaus)
He probably thinks he's not good enough for you and feels like you are using him until you get someone better. Also, guys look. He probably sees so many guys looking at every part of you and I don't blame him for not liking it. What's wrong with wearing a few more clothes?

What's wrong with the girl wearing what she wants to? It's not her fault that guys look. She's not after them to cheat on her boyfriend with.

This is the exact reason why people tend to find things like the hijab oppressive (sorry, I don't mean to offend as I have nothing against the hijab if people want to wear it, as it's their own personal decision and belief, which I respect. It's just a good analogy to my point). People tend to argue, why should women have to cover up to prevent men going after them? Surely the men should refrain themselves and not blame women if they can't keep it in their trousers? It shouldn't be that women have to cover themselves so that men don't have to learn to control their urges.
That is exactly what you're saying basically. You think that the girlfriend should have to cover up so that the boyfriend doesn't feel insecure and so that other guys shouldn't look at her. But why? The boyfriend should trust her if she's not given him reason not to and if guys look, that's their issue.

Personally I wear what I want to when I go out, but I generally don't dress too revealing anyway, but if I wanted to because I wanted to show off my body if I thought it was good enough to, my boyfriend wouldn't tell me I couldn't because it wouldn't be his business. Just like I don't tell him what he can or cannot wear.

[ct2k7]

(Original post by MancBoy)
What I dont get is...why do girls still need attention from other guys if they're in a loving relationship?

Sloots?

They don't get the same attention and fun from their partners, yet they don't even voice it to their partner.

[amyshamblesxx]

He is insecure/doesn't trust you.

[ct2k7]

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[For The Love Of Giraffe]

(Original post by MancBoy)
What I dont get is...why do girls still need attention from other guys if they're in a loving relationship?

Also, where did she say that she did that for attention from other guys? You're all seeing what you want to see. She dressed like that as it was hot, not because she wanted some random guy to feel her up or something.

While it was hot, I saw plenty of guys without tops - it didn't mean they were necessarily after female attention, it just happened that they may have got it though.

[ct2k7]

(Original post by amyshamblesxx)
He is insecure/doesn't trust you.

He might be, because he knows what could happen. In a way, it could be seen as preservation.

[ct2k7]

(Original post by Midnight-Sky-Blue)
Also, where did she say that she did that for attention from other guys? You're all seeing what you want to see. She dressed like that as it was hot, not because she wanted some random guy to feel her up or something.

While it was hot, I saw plenty of guys without tops - it didn't mean they were necessarily after female attention, it just happened that they may have got it though.

Probably question was aimed more at the club rather than this specific girl.

[MancBoy]

(Original post by Midnight-Sky-Blue)
Also, where did she say that she did that for attention from other guys? You're all seeing what you want to see. She dressed like that as it was hot, not because she wanted some random guy to feel her up or something.

While it was hot, I saw plenty of guys without tops - it didn't mean they were necessarily after female attention, it just happened that they may have got it though.

I didn't mean it in the case of OP. I just meant it in general. I hear about loads of women 'dressing to impress' on a night out even if they're in relationships. Why is there this need to impress other guys?

[Wilfred Little]

(Original post by ct2k7)
He might be, because he knows what could happen. In a way, it could be seen as preservation.

I don't buy the "insecure" line. Fair enough if say, she has a male friend and spends time with him and for no reason whatsoever you disapprove, that would be insecure. But no, I wouldn't want my girlfriend out half-naked.

[Tedaus]

(Original post by Midnight-Sky-Blue)
What's wrong with the girl wearing what she wants to? It's not her fault that guys look. She's not after them to cheat on her boyfriend with.

This is the exact reason why people tend to find things like the hijab oppressive (sorry, I don't mean to offend as I have nothing against the hijab if people want to wear it, as it's their own personal decision and belief, which I respect. It's just a good analogy to my point). People tend to argue, why should women have to cover up to prevent men going after them? Surely the men should refrain themselves and not blame women if they can't keep it in their trousers? It shouldn't be that women have to cover themselves so that men don't have to learn to control their urges.
That is exactly what you're saying basically. You think that the girlfriend should have to cover up so that the boyfriend doesn't feel insecure and so that other guys shouldn't look at her. But why? The boyfriend should trust her if she's not given him reason not to and if guys look, that's their issue.

Personally I wear what I want to when I go out, but I generally don't dress too revealing anyway, but if I wanted to because I wanted to show off my body if I thought it was good enough to, my boyfriend wouldn't tell me I couldn't because it wouldn't be his business. Just like I don't tell him what he can or cannot wear.

I can understand that, and I'm never one to place any blame on a girl for being raped if she's wearing something revealing.

All I'm saying is that when guys are drunk and horny, they'll go for girls who wear something revealing because they look like an easy shag since they automatically assume they're putting it all up for grabs basically. This obviously isn't the case here, but if a girl kept looking at your boyfriend and started talking to him with clear intentions, you'd be pissed off.

Again, I'm trying not to place any blame on her, since she's not at fault, but guys clubbing are normally those who think they're God's gift and can get any girl they want, so the boyfriend is obviously jealous/insecure. I don't blame him to be honest, but my point stands; why not wear some more clothes to make him happier? Is it really that hard?

[pinkangelgirl]

(Original post by MancBoy)
I didn't mean it in the case of OP. I just meant it in general. I hear about loads of women 'dressing to impress' on a night out even if they're in relationships. Why is there this need to impress other guys?

guys dont understand!!

Sometimes girls HAVE to dress this way because its not about impressing men as such, but about competing with the other females. Not for the men....but to be the best. Its all done on a subconcious level!

[Loat]

I wouldn't give a flying **** if my girlfriend went out in her underwear provided I thought I could trust her. Which is an entirely different issue to the clothes.

[ct2k7]

(Original post by Loat)
I wouldn't give a flying **** if my girlfriend went out in her underwear provided I thought I could trust her. Which is an entirely different issue to the clothes.

Girl + alcohol + guy talking her up != trustable situation