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    This is something I just cant get out of my head from the last few days. I notice this all the time. Guys do it but I notice girls doing it more...mainly because my friend is good looking so there is some bias I have to admit.

    My friend is incredibly good looking. Like incredibly. I love him as a brother and I know its not his fault for being good looking but I just find most girls' reactions to him laughable. When were out in public, say shopping I see girls sort of place themselves near my friend so they can get a peek. I see girls turn their heads as he walks past them...even those with boyfriends. I see shop assistants approach my friend and ask him for help and what not (with huge smiles)...while I get nothing as if I'm invisible. In clubs it gets worse. There was one instance where a barmaid actually came form behind the bar to stand next to my friend and actually start speaking to him. Recently there was this one girl who was all over my friend inviting him back to her place within a minute of them talking (seriously). Now she is constantly texting him calling 'cutie' and what not.

    Before the 'confidence' patrol comes. He is very quiet and shy. He has never approached a girl. So what he done to deserve this unconditional love from total strangers?

    You might think I'm jealous of my friend...maybe I am a bit but I am more baffled about these girls responses to him? I could never imagine doing this to a girl that I found pretty. I would never give her this kind of queen-like treatment.

    Why do you think people act this way towards good looking people?
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    i have no idea, but i certainly dont put anyone on a pedestal!
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    Yet, if loads of men were to shower a girl with that type of attention - those men would be outed as perverts.

    We live in a gender-imbalanced world. We also live in a world where looks > everything else.

    Welcome to life.
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    Well it is unfair, but it is true. Appearance is important! It is not the most important but it is important! It is the same thing like "The first impression counts". When you don't know the other person the only thing you can know is how he looks. Of course the "look" is not only the characteristics, the face and the body. I think very important is also the "energy" or the aura of a person.
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    Generally when a guy is TOO good looking I think they probably are cocky or have **** personalities, it's bad to assume that but I do :s
    I really don't know why some girl's do that it baffles me
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    (Original post by Soph(:)
    Generally when a guy is TOO good looking I think they probably are cocky or have **** personalities, it's bad to assume that but I do :s
    I really don't know why some girl's do that it baffles me
    Do you think it is to do with major shallow-ness and competing with other girls? i.e. having a 'trophy' boyfriend?

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    i have no idea, but i certainly dont put anyone on a pedestal!
    Thing is I dont even think girls know they are presenting this sort of behaviour. Sometimes I think its subconscious. It might be easy for you to say you wont but when you're caught up in the moment I think you (or any girl) might do the same...I presume? Not sure.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Do you think it is to do with major shallow-ness and competing with other girls? i.e. having a 'trophy' boyfriend?



    Thing is I dont even think girls know they are presenting this sort of behaviour. Sometimes I think its subconscious. It might be easy for you to say you wont but when you're caught up in the moment I think you (or any girl) might do the same...I presume? Not sure.
    Hm, possibly I don't know why though I'd rather have someone on my level so that there's less possibilty of cheating ect.
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    (Original post by Soph(:)
    Hm, possibly I don't know why though I'd rather have someone on my level so that there's less possibilty of cheating ect.
    Lol no offence but I dont think that's the issue here. Its the fact that these girls are falling head over heels over a guy they have never met. This infatuation is solely based on his looks and nothing else. Doesn't that seem a bit wrong?
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    I guess it's the only thing that can fill their empty heads.
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    (Original post by Soph(:)
    Generally when a guy is TOO good looking I think they probably are cocky or have **** personalities, it's bad to assume that but I do :s
    I really don't know why some girl's do that it baffles me
    yeh, same with girls
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Lol no offence but I dont think that's the issue here. Its the fact that these girls are falling head over heels over a guy they have never met. This infatuation is solely based on his looks and nothing else. Doesn't that seem a bit wrong?
    Yeah it's annoying probably due to all of these ****ty films like Twilight
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    (Original post by Soph(:)
    Yeah it's annoying probably due to all of these ****ty films like Twilight
    What's so bad about that? If men have their porn movies, why can't women have Twilight?
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    I can not imagine I man that good looking i doubt even the best looking celebrities girls talk about would get that sort of attention , well they would now because their famous but I mean they wouldn't get that sort of attention if they were not famous based on their looks at least I don't think so even models, i'm a guy so I don't know who's a really attractive dude. My point is I think your over estimating peoples reactions to your friend unless he actually is the most attractive man on the planet literally which I doubt.


    The thing which is sort of cool about this world is that no matter what you look like there will always be some people who think your attractive for some guys it 99 percent of girls for others its 5 percent but as long as you are not a prick and maybe try a little bit to stay in decent shape there will be some people who like they way you look.
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    (Original post by im so academic)
    What's so bad about that? If men have their porn movies, why can't women have Twilight?
    So women don't watch porn... hmm..

    It is true though. One girl I was talking to (my friend) at a club actually just got up mid sentence and floated towards this other guy just because he was attractive. I've also seen a girl grab this guy's hand and pretend to look at his watch for the time and 'accidentally' put his hand on her tit as she was doing it...

    I know you said the confidence thing, but people would put you on a pedestal as well if you were confident. You'd even be better looking to a lot of girls as they would just fall in love with your personality.
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    (Original post by Tedaus)
    So women don't watch porn... hmm..
    I watch porn and I get sad about how I'm not as good looking as those girls.

    It is true though. One girl I was talking to (my friend) at a club actually just got up mid sentence and floated towards this other guy just because he was attractive. I've also seen a girl grab this guy's hand and pretend to look at his watch for the time and 'accidentally' put his hand on her tit as she was doing it...
    Don't guys do the same thing?

    I know you said the confidence thing, but people would put you on a pedestal as well if you were confident. You'd even be better looking to a lot of girls as they would just fall in love with your personality.
    What?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    This is something I just cant get out of my head from the last few days. I notice this all the time. Guys do it but I notice girls doing it more...mainly because my friend is good looking so there is some bias I have to admit.

    My friend is incredibly good looking. Like incredibly. I love him as a brother and I know its not his fault for being good looking but I just find most girls' reactions to him laughable. When were out in public, say shopping I see girls sort of place themselves near my friend so they can get a peek. I see girls turn their heads as he walks past them...even those with boyfriends. I see shop assistants approach my friend and ask him for help and what not (with huge smiles)...while I get nothing as if I'm invisible. In clubs it gets worse. There was one instance where a barmaid actually came form behind the bar to stand next to my friend and actually start speaking to him. Recently there was this one girl who was all over my friend inviting him back to her place within a minute of them talking (seriously). Now she is constantly texting him calling 'cutie' and what not.

    Before the 'confidence' patrol comes. He is very quiet and shy. He has never approached a girl. So what he done to deserve this unconditional love from total strangers?

    You might think I'm jealous of my friend...maybe I am a bit but I am more baffled about these girls responses to him? I could never imagine doing this to a girl that I found pretty. I would never give her this kind of queen-like treatment.

    Why do you think people act this way towards good looking people?
    I kinda agree with you there.

    If I saw a good looking guy, I'd probably turn and look, if I caught his eyes I'd either smile (depending on how drunk I was) or look away (it's usually the latter)!

    But other than that, that would be it. Like someone said, good looking people are probably used to having people fawn all over them - why should I add to the mix?

    I think, people act that way towards good looking people because...they are exactly that - good looking, it's weird to explain. I guess it may be to do with subliminal (or not so much) atttraction to the person. But I know this is probably a sh*t explanation but I think that's part of life!

    A guy at work said something interesting which I though was so true "a pretty girl doesn't have to be interesting...she just has to stand there and look pretty because there will always be someone willing to talk to her"...
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    So it's easier to look at them?

    (Original post by im so academic)
    What's so bad about that? If men have their porn movies, why can't women have Twilight?
    Because porn is at least honest. It's a base form of entertainment and has no higher pretensions. Twilight is on the same level but it pretends to be more sophisticated and wraps itself in a futile facsimile of a plot. If it really were just a two-hour slide show of pictures of Robert Patterson, no one would mind.
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    (Original post by im so academic)
    I watch porn and I get sad about how I'm not as good looking as those girls.
    The girls in porn are nastyyyy.

    But that kind of backs up what the OP was saying really haha.

    Don't guys do the same thing?
    Guys have more of a challenge; they can't just drag a girl they think is good looking away from her friend and put her hand on his dick because she'd assume he was more of a perv. When a girl likes a guy in a club, if she's decent looking, the guy will want anything he can get from her and it will be down to the girl how far he gets (generally).

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    That part of my post was to the OP haha.
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    Im puzzled. Girls have you ever see a guy who was really this good looking to completely distract you from what your doing and be all over him? I have never seen a girl respond this way to a guy, but of course I have seen some women who can have every man in the room drooling over them but I have never seen women behave this way towards men, maybe I have just never been around a super-attractive guy.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
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    Being good-looking is a double-edged sword. If you're a good-looking man you are somehow expected to be alpha in every other aspect of your existence. On top of this, if you boast about yourself even in the most subtle way then you will be dismissed as arrogant/in love with yourself and then you will be up against it. If a girl gets a sniff that your personality isn't up to scratch (and trust me she will sense it) then she will not even notice how good looking you are anymore.

    Being good-looking but with a bad personality is a horrible combination. It will put you below all average-looking men by ALOT. But different things work for both. Your friend is successful because he's a little shy but good-looking, which even things out nicely. If he was all cock-sure he wouldn't get as far, trust me.

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