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Why do people put 'good-looking' people on a pedestal?

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Reply 20
Original post by Anonymous
Im puzzled. Girls have you ever see a guy who was really this good looking to completely distract you from what your doing and be all over him? I have never seen a girl respond this way to a guy, but of course I have seen some women who can have every man in the room drooling over them but I have never seen women behave this way towards men, maybe I have just never been around a super-attractive guy.


I have seen girls do this, often clubbing
Reply 21
Original post by im so academic
What's so bad about that? If men have their porn movies, why can't women have Twilight?


Didn't say they couldn't, though personally I hate it myself and don't see what's so great about it
Reply 22
I'm not sure why you lot are rationalizing it in such a way. Beauty causes attraction, attraction causes people to get together, people getting together allows the human race to reproduce.

We instinctively feel the most attractive people are the most fertile/most worthy of continuing the human race.
Reply 23
There's a difference between admiring someone's looks in the street and "putting them on a pedestal". I don't start worshipping at the feet of beautiful people I see around, it's just nice to admire them visually, to check out their look and think if I can be similar or how I match up to them, or if it's a guy, to think if I would like to be seen with him and what he might be like. The absolute moment you get to know someone at all, looks tend to go on a back burner and personality comes to the front.
Reply 24
Original post by tesmifami
I can not imagine I man that good looking i doubt even the best looking celebrities girls talk about would get that sort of attention , well they would now because their famous but I mean they wouldn't get that sort of attention if they were not famous based on their looks at least I don't think so even models, i'm a guy so I don't know who's a really attractive dude. My point is I think your over estimating peoples reactions to your friend unless he actually is the most attractive man on the planet literally which I doubt.


The thing which is sort of cool about this world is that no matter what you look like there will always be some people who think your attractive for some guys it 99 percent of girls for others its 5 percent but as long as you are not a prick and maybe try a little bit to stay in decent shape there will be some people who like they way you look.


It happens. Trust me. You would be amazed how shallow these girls are.
Original post by Soph(:
Generally when a guy is TOO good looking I think they probably are cocky or have **** personalities, it's bad to assume that but I do :s
I really don't know why some girl's do that it baffles me


To be honest, you aren't alone :smile:

I think the general opinion is a correlation between good looks and arrogance. Which is certainly true for some, but not for all.

As with most things, it comes down to prior experience in terms of the extent to which one makes that link.
Reply 26
Original post by Miss_Scarlett
To be honest, you aren't alone :smile:

I think the general opinion is a correlation between good looks and arrogance. Which is certainly true for some, but not for all.

As with most things, it comes down to prior experience in terms of the extent to which one makes that link.


Not all beautiful people are vain and arrogant, but I agree it often seems that way. A stunning-looking person will be used to people gazing at them admiringly, facilitating their every comfort and generally fawning on them, so it can be hard to not get vain about if for them. On the other hand, people's attitudes can be peculiar, I think very good-looking people get quite a lot of jealousy and bitterness directed at them in odd ways.
Original post by SoNottingH
Not all beautiful people are vain and arrogant, but I agree it often seems that way. A stunning-looking person will be used to people gazing at them admiringly, facilitating their every comfort and generally fawning on them, so it can be hard to not get vain about if for them. On the other hand, people's attitudes can be peculiar, I think very good-looking people get quite a lot of jealousy and bitterness directed at them in odd ways.


Agreed.
well attraction is a part of being human so it's normal to be attracted to and look at people you find good looking :s-smilie: i don't really get what you're asking. why people like good looking people? it's like a peacock with his big feathers or whatever.

is it fair? probably not... but what are you gonna do about it.
Original post by Soph(:
Generally when a guy is TOO good looking I think they probably are cocky or have **** personalities, it's bad to assume that but I do :s
I really don't know why some girl's do that it baffles me


i guess i do that but it depends on their attitude that goes with it. i know a lot of good looking guys that are very nice people even though they can be cocky (i guess they can't really help it) if you look past that.
Reply 30
My friend is good looking and you wouldn't believe some of the attention he gets. Girls he is dating immediately falls in love after about a week and I just think :rolleyes: .All of a sudden he's the most amazing, kind hearted, sweetest guy even though he treats them like ****.

Girls are so daft when it comes to good looking guys. I have never met a girl who treats a good looking guy as their equal. They immediately drop to their knees. Shallow society is shallow.
Original post by SoNottingH
Not all beautiful people are vain and arrogant, but I agree it often seems that way. A stunning-looking person will be used to people gazing at them admiringly, facilitating their every comfort and generally fawning on them, so it can be hard to not get vain about if for them. On the other hand, people's attitudes can be peculiar, I think very good-looking people get quite a lot of jealousy and bitterness directed at them in odd ways.


I think that is a factor, but jealousy is also another factor that leads people to believe good looking people are arrogant. If someone gets attention from people you like because of their looks while you get overlooked, it's natural to feel like you want to bring them down a peg, and it's very easy when you're in that negative mindset to interpret the greater ease with which they get on with people due to their looks as arrogance. So it's partly natural that good looking people take things for granted and become more arrogant than most, and partly other people assuming they're arrogant when they aren't.

In my experience, it seems that women in particular don't actually have a great time if they're really good looking - they get a lot of undeserved negativity directed at them by other women, and a lot of men try to latch onto them and won't take a hint.
Reply 32
Original post by Chumbaniya
In my experience, it seems that women in particular don't actually have a great time if they're really good looking - they get a lot of undeserved negativity directed at them by other women, and a lot of men try to latch onto them and won't take a hint.


That's true. I can't speak for myself because I don't fit into that description :p:. I know women who do and I never hate on them; I avoid getting caught up in that crap. Some attractive people feel more of a need to prove themselves so people can see that there's more to them than how they look.

Women see attractive women as a threat, especially if they have boyfriends (well, some women).

Most attractive people don't want others fawning over their looks. They won't want to date someone like that, unless they're really shallow. In most cases, they want to date someone who doesn't overestimate a person's appearance.

Anyway, everybody is a winner. More often than not, we end up dating people we personally find attractive and are probably the same degree of attractiveness as ourselves. So people should worry about their looks less. At the very least, they need to stop obsessing over how others look.
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why are good-looking people put on a pedestal?
well, because they are good looking

the people who like looks will just see your friend and go for him.
Those who find personality to be more important wouldn't approach him, they would wait to get to know him first before making said move.
because randomers don't know his personality, the only ones approaching him will be after looks.
so it seems like he gets more attentention, but it isn't really him getting it. it's his looks.
they stick around for the personality though.
If he was an arse he would still be approached by just as many strangers, but they would ditch soon after.

just remember, to someone who loves you, even if the rest of the world thinks your as ugly as sin, they will still think you the most beautiful person on earth, and thats all what really matters when looks are concerned.
Reply 34
Original post by brunettegirl92
why are good-looking people put on a pedestal?
well, because they are good looking

the people who like looks will just see your friend and go for him.
Those who find personality to be more important wouldn't approach him, they would wait to get to know him first before making said move.
because randomers don't know his personality, the only ones approaching him will be after looks.
so it seems like he gets more attentention, but it isn't really him getting it. it's his looks.
they stick around for the personality though.
If he was an arse he would still be approached by just as many strangers, but they would ditch soon after.

just remember, to someone who loves you, even if the rest of the world thinks your as ugly as sin, they will still think you the most beautiful person on earth, and thats all what really matters when looks are concerned.


Not really because girls will overlook his bad personality in order to maintain having a 'trophy boyfriend' which is what's happening with my friend right now.
Original post by Anonymous
Not really because girls will overlook his bad personality in order to maintain having a 'trophy boyfriend' which is what's happening with my friend right now.


well, this is a particular breed of girl- you can get male versions as well- called superficial morons.
Reply 36
Original post by brunettegirl92
well, this is a particular breed of girl- you can get male versions as well- called superficial morons.


Good point but do you not think a lot of people are like this in this day and age?
Original post by Anonymous
Good point but do you not think a lot of people are like this in this day and age?


i live in essex, so i see a lot of this every day.
as for the rest of the world - well, i think a lot of people are not like this, but still a lot of people are. and some people are like this to different degrees. :smile:
I really wish this wasn't the case. All it does is give them an ego boost and everyone else unnecessary insecurities.
Reply 39
Original post by Freak Out
I really wish this wasn't the case. All it does is give them an ego boost and everyone else unnecessary insecurities.


But it is the case and it is rife in today's society. I also wish these people wouldn't act like doormats for a person solely because of their looks. I may be bias but its girls do this a LOT and it makes me pity them. Just even hanging with my good looking mate this type of behaviour is very evident and it sad. I blame media and society.

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