(Original post by Herr)
Lately several people close to me has been saying I'm being rather unreasonable / unfair.
My partner who I've been with for awhile, when we first met she said she never wanted any children at all but was fine that I had some and was fine even if any of them came to live with us. 2 of the kids now live with us permanently and suddenly she changed her stance and wants to have one or two of her own.
Her reasoning :-
i) She claims it is very normal to change stances on such issues.
ii) Claims looking after the 2 is making her want kids even more.
iii) We can afford it.
iv) She thinks she can be a very good mother.
v) She just wants one.
My objections to her having a baby :-
i) I already have 3 and I don't particularly like any of them.
I don't quite want to pay for another one as it would mess my economic and financial planning goals.
ii) I am of the stance that once you make a promise or stand you should keep to it.
iii) I have no doubt she can be a good mother, hence I have essentially outsourced childcare/child-raising to her 100% and yes she is indeed doing a very good job, but the worry remains is if she has one that is biologically her own that she might begin practising favouritism.
iv) She once asked me how long I planned on remaining in Switzerland, I told her I'll remain for as long as it is economically viable to do so, I'm starting to wonder if I might be able to make more money elsewhere and starting to get tired of living in Switzerland. She thought I was just pulling her leg when I told her.
v) End of the day, I make a great manager or boss / big boss (as evidenced by me not losing a single employee since starting my businesses) but I generally make for a crap dad..... just ask my eldest brat
and the 2 who lives with me, they prefer my OH (who isn't their biological mother) over me.
Just to clarify, my OH doesn't quite see this as a reason to split up, but she is of the opinion that I should at least be fair and reasonable on such things. I told her I don't want to discuss, this topic does tend to come up every so often to which I usually tell her that I have work to do and show her where the door is. She usually goes on the no worries she has time.
Does anyone else think I'm being unfair or unreasonable? All opinions / criticism will be welcomed