My male flat mate tries to hit me (female)
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Re: My male flat mate tries to hit me (female)She clearly isn't that frightened if she is going to talk to him.(Original post by SquaredCircle)
why are you ****ting on a frightened girl. what is wrong with you.
It also shows that she doesn't listen to advice because I don't believe any of the numerous people that have replied on this thread have told her to talk to someone that has tried to hurt her. -
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Re: My male flat mate tries to hit me (female)what does it matter.(Original post by DorianGrayism)
She clearly isn't that frightened if she is going to talk to him.
It also shows that she doesn't listen to advice because I don't believe any of the numerous people that have replied on this thread have told her to talk to someone that has tried to hurt her. -
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Re: My male flat mate tries to hit me (female)I don't know what you are talking about. If it doesn't matter then I don't know why you are on this thread.(Original post by SquaredCircle)
what does it matter. -
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Re: My male flat mate tries to hit me (female)what does it matter that this person is being a bit silly, why point it out and be mean when your actions will do nothing but antagonize her. why so mean guy, why so mean.(Original post by DorianGrayism)
I don't know what you are talking about. If it doesn't matter then I don't know why you are on this thread. -
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Re: My male flat mate tries to hit me (female)Right.. If he threatened you so much over so little, you have reason to be fearful.
Maybe don't lightly slap him. It's quite possibly that you slapped him either harder than you're letting on, or harder than you intended to, and this could have angered him. It could well be that we are not getting his side of the story here - maybe you hit him hard, and he made himself look threatening to get you to stop, rather than returning the favour to show why he didn't like it.
I very much apologise if it really was just a light slap, in which case you should not live with him, because you are in danger if he reacts that strongly to minor things.Last edited by lightburns; 10-06-2012 at 18:56. -
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Re: My male flat mate tries to hit me (female)o.O(Original post by DorianGrayism)
I just hope you are trolling when you are writing this.
are you serious? one of my best male friends tried to beat me up so Ive asked for help?!(Original post by ninth2)
My intuition tells me that you are just seeking attention with this thread. People are replying with advice and you're just refuting all of it with a lame sentence/excuse each time.
What exactly are you hoping to hear? You're an idiot if you stay there, he is not your friend, he is on drugs, he is using you, and it's not ok for either of you to hit the other (regardless of whether it hurts or not).
Im hoping for advice it has all helped me so far, im then just letting people know how i feel. -
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Re: My male flat mate tries to hit me (female)o.O(Original post by EonBlueApocalypse)
Obvious troll is obvious. I'll give you 6/10 though fairly believable, that being said, there is definite room for improvement.
really?(Original post by Palatial Veranda)
MDMA is supposed to promote feelings of diminished aggression and hostility.
hm
he isnt drinking right now, (he wasnt actually in anyway) but im not the type of person to walk around being scared of him. He deserves a chance to explain himself and to let me know if he is sorry(Original post by DorianGrayism)
She clearly isn't that frightened if she is going to talk to him.
It also shows that she doesn't listen to advice because I don't believe any of the numerous people that have replied on this thread have told her to talk to someone that has tried to hurt her. -
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Re: My male flat mate tries to hit me (female)okay thanks i see what you mean, but it was a light girly like slap across the chest. it feels wierd even calling it a slap.(Original post by lightburns)
Right.. If he threatened you so much over so little, you have reason to be fearful.
Maybe don't lightly slap him. It's quite possibly that you slapped him either harder than you're letting on, or harder than you intended to, and this could have angered him. It could well be that we are not getting his side of the story here - maybe you hit him hard, and he made himself look threatening to get you to stop, rather than returning the favour to show why he didn't like it.
I very much apologise if it really was just a light slap, in which case you should not live with him, because you are in danger if he reacts that strongly to minor things. -
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Re: My male flat mate tries to hit me (female)If you're in fear for your health and safety, report it, to either the uni warden or the police. With a record of that you will be able to get out of the contract with the landlord for next year somehow. They cannot force the two of you to live together if there is a record of violence/danger. They'd probably be more likely to let you break contract and leave (in advance, so they can find a replacement tenant) rather than break his contract against his will and force him to find somewhere else to live, since that way they won't have him trying to accuse them of any unfairness towards him. Ultimately you need to talk to him if it's safe to do so and if you're not sure it's resolved for good, make the arrangements to find somewhere else to live next year.
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Re: My male flat mate tries to hit me (female)Girlproblems, can you not SEE why people are saying what they are saying?
I understand why you feel the way you feel in terms of not reporting him etc.
Reporting him is not necessary, yet.
In the end, he is NOT your friend if he is willing to constantly threaten you. This is the first time he cornered you, but you even mentioned that he threatens you over the table normally. you've even stated the fact that he doesn't like you all that much (in your original post).
See it for what it is, he is using you for sex, but you are not proper friends.
You cannot live with him next year, what would have happened if B wasn't there? How do you know that this behaviour won't progress or get worse?
If he is still drinking, and if he is still doing the drugs, no matter how occassionally he is definite;y not going to get any nicer any time soon, even he doesn't get worse.
Either way, i don;t see why you are not taking on the advice of trying to move.
Talk to the landlord/estate agents and say that you cannot get live there because you are not safe in that situation.
If you don't think you will be allowed, go and talk to someone at your uni accom office and ask their advice. That is what they are there for.
You are just trying to get people to tell you to stay. Noone here has advised you to, and noone will and so you're getting all bent out of shape for it. Listen. To. The. Advice. -
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Re: My male flat mate tries to hit me (female)(Original post by Anonymous)
we slept together numerous timesI don't understand, why sleep with him if he wasn't nice to you(Original post by Anonymous)
he wasnt very nice to me -
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Re: My male flat mate tries to hit me (female)Hey hey hey, most of us have tried to help you -.- Don't group us together.(Original post by Girlproblems)
Literally cannot believe people are saying that ive made this up. Thanks a lot guys.
