[Anonymous]

I got married young, 23 divorced six months later its not an ideal thing in Asian communities to be divorced. I I'm now nearly 25 I don't particularly want to consider remarriage, I would rather die alone than go through that again.
I thought about going to uni as I never went after a levels I calculated it would be a 4 year course, the however my trail of thought worries me the most, I calculated that I will be 29 when I leave, but and then I thought that I won't have much left to live and what else can I do to chip off a few years from my life (in a when will it end kind of thing), I my mum died at 47

I maintain a very good veneer of happiness and confidence with those around me, as I don't want to let anyone down however inside I feel very sad, lonely and down.
Can you believe some people have told me that I seem so happy go lucky and cheerful, and unfortunately that isn't the case.
I simply can't let my family know about this as it won't help them in the slightest

Thanks for reading

[Guybrush Sheepgood]

Is what normal?

Getting married at 23 and then getting divorced 6 months later is not that common but it's not the end of the world and it's over now, so just try to move on and don't assume that because one relationship failed when you were 23 and moved way too fast that all the rest are going to fail. It was one person.

Going to uni later than usual (although you're not even going that much later, some people go to uni when they're 30, 40 etc.) is perfectly normal. There are plenty of people who do it.

I'm really sorry that your mum died at 47, but that is very unusual. You will hopefully live to at least 70, 80 or later if you are healthy. You will be 29 when you leave uni... you have plenty of time to live, you are being silly. Don't worry about that. If you want to go to uni now, do it.

Yes it is normal for people to misunderstand what is going on in someone's head. They can't see inside your mind. Lots of people are unhappy on the inside even though they might appear superficially to be happy.

It sounds like you're depressed. You could try getting counselling or booking a point with a psychologist. I hope things improve

[Shomberlon]

I'd go with guybrush's advice.
As for uni finishing at 29 isn't old at all, I'm starting in September and I'll be 31 when I do so you've got all the time in the world.


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