[tooti]

xxx

[amime]

Have you tried making some milkshakes?

[tooti]

(Original post by amime)
Have you tried making some milkshakes?

Haha not a bad idea!

[RichyFrench]

(Original post by tooti)
I just finished 1st year at uni, i'm quite shy and I live at home and travel in everyday so its been quite difficult to make friends. I think i've only spoke to about 3 guys in all my classes

I have a small group of friends outside of uni and its through them I met my first bf but that finished a year ago and i've had almost no male interest since, I used to go clubbing nearly every week but i've given it a rest as I really didn't enjoy it, waste of money and I just knew I wouldn't meet the right people there.

So, where can I meet men? It seems as though all my friends met guys who just came up to them for a chat but that never happens to me, even talking to guys first usually just ends in an awkward conversation lol. I don't really want to try internet dating and i'm not desperate for a boyfriend but it would be nice to have some decent male company sometimes .

Well, I don't know about in real life, but online I've seen your picture and I have to say, giving the V doesn't make you look cool. If you simply smiled and refrained from hand gestures you'd give a much better impression of yourself and people would probably have more of an inclination to talk to you. You're pretty but the gesture is completely off-putting to me personally. Maybe you're not giving out great signals and that's why you don't really get approached like your friends have been?

It won't do you any harm if you approach guys yourself. Just ask a few questions and they'll be happy chatting with you. We don't get chatted up often so we'll savour the moment. After a couple of mins chatting, just say that you'd love to chat some more but you've gotta get going, so give me your number or your email so I can find you on facebook. Or you can just take up loads of hobbies but I can't imagine you doing that just to get a boyfriend.

[tooti]

(Original post by RichyFrench)
Well, I don't know about in real life, but online I've seen your picture and I have to say, giving the V doesn't make you look cool. If you simply smiled and refrained from hand gestures you'd give a much better impression of yourself and people would probably have more of an inclination to talk to you. You're pretty but the gesture is completely off-putting to me personally. Maybe you're not giving out great signals and that's why you don't really get approached like your friends have been?

It won't do you any harm if you approach guys yourself. Just ask a few questions and they'll be happy chatting with you. We don't get chatted up often so we'll savour the moment. After a couple of mins chatting, just say that you'd love to chat some more but you've gotta get going, so give me your number or your email so I can find you on facebook. Or you can just take up loads of hobbies but I can't imagine you doing that just to get a boyfriend.

Haha I don't often walk about throwing around hand gestures, I only put that photo up cos I think its the nicest one I have of myself usually I just smile!

I do try to approach guys but hanging around places just makes me feel awkward, and then when I actually do talk to someone they usually don't try to make much conversation which is quite embarrassing Probably just not interested lol

[amime]

(Original post by tooti)
Haha I don't often walk about throwing around hand gestures.

[tooti]

(Original post by amime)

Okay maybe I use a few hand gestures but only at the rude men haha

[Mr.Zen]

(Original post by tooti)
I just finished 1st year at uni, i'm quite shy and I live at home and travel in everyday so its been quite difficult to make friends. I think i've only spoke to about 3 guys in all my classes

I have a small group of friends outside of uni and its through them I met my first bf but that finished a year ago and i've had almost no male interest since, I used to go clubbing nearly every week but i've given it a rest as I really didn't enjoy it, waste of money and I just knew I wouldn't meet the right people there.

So, where can I meet men? It seems as though all my friends met guys who just came up to them for a chat but that never happens to me, even talking to guys first usually just ends in an awkward conversation lol. I don't really want to try internet dating and i'm not desperate for a boyfriend but it would be nice to have some decent male company sometimes .

It can be hard to find potential partners and people to date if your established social circle isn't fairly big and/or has the opposite sex in it. It can be especially hard if you buckle up when it comes to approaching a girl/guy ! However, by the sounds of it, you do not have that problem lol.

How about asking your friends if they know any single guys who they think you might get along with, and to invite them to the next social event you guys go to? I'm sure something will pop up when you least expect it, anyway, good luck lass.

[tooti]

(Original post by Mr.Zen)
It can be hard to find potential partners and people to date if your established social circle isn't fairly big and/or has the opposite sex in it. It can be especially hard if you buckle up when it comes to approaching a girl/guy ! However, by the sounds of it, you do not have that problem lol.

How about asking your friends if they know any single guys who they think you might get along with, and to invite them to the next social event you guys go to? I'm sure something will pop up when you least expect it, anyway, good luck lass.

Yeah all my friends are girls and most of their friends are girls so not too many guys around unfortunately :P. I met my first bf because he was friends with my friends bf so I think thats probably the best way to go, I don't think men are used to being chatted up while sober so approaching in the day time seems useless lol.

[jam277]

(Original post by tooti)
Yeah all my friends are girls and most of their friends are girls so not too many guys around unfortunately :P. I met my first bf because he was friends with my friends bf so I think thats probably the best way to go, I don't think men are used to being chatted up while sober so approaching in the day time seems useless lol.

Ask your girls to bring guys if they can. Then get a convo going at least, talk to them and befriend them.

[Bambinobambina]

Awww don't worry .... Don't look and you may just find them strange concept I know just relax about it x


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[tooti]

I don't think my friends know any single men our age But yeah i'm sure someone will be along as soon as I stop looking that always seems to happen!

[Carpediemxx]

(Original post by tooti)
Yeah all my friends are girls and most of their friends are girls so not too many guys around unfortunately :P. I met my first bf because he was friends with my friends bf so I think thats probably the best way to go, I don't think men are used to being chatted up while sober so approaching in the day time seems useless lol.

Pfft, so not true. I imagine loads of men would be very happy to be talked to be a single lady while they are sober. I know i would

[dgeorge]

(Original post by tooti)
I just finished 1st year at uni, i'm quite shy and I live at home and travel in everyday so its been quite difficult to make friends. I think i've only spoke to about 3 guys in all my classes

I have a small group of friends outside of uni and its through them I met my first bf but that finished a year ago and i've had almost no male interest since, I used to go clubbing nearly every week but i've given it a rest as I really didn't enjoy it, waste of money and I just knew I wouldn't meet the right people there.

So, where can I meet men? It seems as though all my friends met guys who just came up to them for a chat but that never happens to me, even talking to guys first usually just ends in an awkward conversation lol. I don't really want to try internet dating and i'm not desperate for a boyfriend but it would be nice to have some decent male company sometimes .

think i've only spoke to about 3 guys in all my classes

There we go. You have classes every day, I'm pretty sure, with lots of people your age with a similar mindset, yet you've only talked to about 3 of them for the past year. If you're friendly and talk to a lot of people, more people will see this and then come and talk to you. Even if you're surrounded by guys, if you come across as overly shy/unfriendly then it will be harder for them to bridge that gap.

Second piece of advice is, don't worry about meeting men! Do things that you enjoy that allow you to also interact with others, and then the guys will follow

[BACTSR2]

OKcupid?


I've met most of my ex gf's as through friends, but they've been acquaintances of the friends, not good friends with them.

[tooti]

I think trying to make friends with people would help even if I don't want to date them, I can be shy but I tried to make an effort but I have another 3 years so i'll make one friend surely!

Nah i'd rather not try internet dating, going by what some of the men on this website have said about it and how they talk about women, i'd rather try to avoid those kind of people at all costs!