[Anonymous]

I know we are friends and such but it's weird. We've been together for 2 years and our status is pretty secure. Yet he told me he finds it hard having family meeting me, his 'friend' and talks about our 'friendship'. Never our relationship. Just our 'friendship'.

But we've been together for 2 years and it's not like we're in a state of limbo or anything. I'm a bit confused really. It does hurt me a little but he's socially awkward so I just wonder if he finds it a bit embarrassing with family.

It still hurts a bit anyway. I want to mention it but I don't want to make me feel more awkward.

[CookieGhoul]

Give him some time, I'd say. It's a difficult thing, introducing his girlfriend to his parents. You aren't really sure how his parents are would react to it.

Maybe he doesn't want to spoil whatever is between you two. Maybe he had an ex who he introduced to his parents and that did not turn out very good ? Whatever it is, give him some time and most importantly, talk to him about it.

[silverbolt]

(Original post by CookieGhoul)
Give him some time, I'd say. It's a difficult thing, introducing his girlfriend to his parents. You aren't really sure how his parents are would react to it.

Maybe he doesn't want to spoil whatever is between you two. Maybe he had an ex who he introduced to his parents and that did not turn out very good ? Whatever it is, give him some time and most importantly, talk to him about it.

after two years? Shes given him enough time.

Tell him to man up. You are a couple as well as friends

[Sazzy890]

Just tell him that that hurts you as you see your relationship as far more than friends and you don't know why he can't just tell his family that. You've been together two years! It's not an unreasonable request.

[CookieGhoul]

Ok maybe I should retarct that statement about giving him some time. I think what everyone agrees upon is telling him how much you care about him and that your relationship is much more than being mere friends and that he needs to accept that, and he needs to be able to tell his family.

[Studentus-anonymous]

(Original post by Anonymous)
I know we are friends and such but it's weird. We've been together for 2 years and our status is pretty secure. Yet he told me he finds it hard having family meeting me, his 'friend' and talks about our 'friendship'. Never our relationship. Just our 'friendship'.

But we've been together for 2 years and it's not like we're in a state of limbo or anything. I'm a bit confused really. It does hurt me a little but he's socially awkward so I just wonder if he finds it a bit embarrassing with family.

It still hurts a bit anyway. I want to mention it but I don't want to make me feel more awkward.

One of my ex's was foreign, when introduced to her grandpa and uncle she was brought to tears by their racist nonsense.

By the time I was introduced to her grandma on her mum's side, I was just an 'exchange student'.

OP, talk to your boyfriend about why he isn't keen on referring to you as his girlfriend to his family, if he doesn't have a good reason you guys should work on it because let's be honest, a duck is a duck and a **** is a...well.

You guys are going out in a relationship. You're more than friends so you deserve to have the relationship recognised by him if he doesn't have a basis for the deception.

[Anonymous]

Thanks for alll the replies. I'm scared of actually admitting to him that it bothers me because I don't want him to be made to feel awkward. It's just weird because we are a couple. But yet he is very anti-PDA (which i dont really mind, I dont want full on) and I don't even know if his parents know. Yet he knows my parents know and such.

I will need to explain to him sometime but not sure how to approach it. I don't want to make an awkward situation

[iamsuperwoman]

(Original post by Anonymous)
I know we are friends and such but it's weird. We've been together for 2 years and our status is pretty secure. Yet he told me he finds it hard having family meeting me, his 'friend' and talks about our 'friendship'. Never our relationship. Just our 'friendship'.

But we've been together for 2 years and it's not like we're in a state of limbo or anything. I'm a bit confused really. It does hurt me a little but he's socially awkward so I just wonder if he finds it a bit embarrassing with family.

It still hurts a bit anyway. I want to mention it but I don't want to make me feel more awkward.

Well haven't you wasted 2 years of your life? You need to end this your 'relationship' because by the tone of your post it is very much one person relationship and benefits for your supposed other half.

You need to come clean of how you feel and your 'relationship'.


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[Anonymous]

(Original post by iamsuperwoman)
Well haven't you wasted 2 years of your life? You need to end this your 'relationship' because by the tone of your post it is very much one person relationship and benefits for your supposed other half.

You need to come clean of how you feel and your 'relationship'.


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But we've very much said we're together, me and him are together and this is something that is acknowledged in alot of situations eg. our friends know, my parents know. But yet somehow his family doesn't and I just find it a bit odd being called his friend.

I'm even wondering if this is more a problem with me.

Also, put this in context of someone who has social anxiety and depression - perhaps he's shy of admitting he's having a romantic relationship as it shows he's a human, a human with emotion. Families often mock this as they think its playful. What's playful could really make him feel stupid.