"You need to get partying out of your system when you're young"
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"You need to get partying out of your system when you're young"this is what a guy i know told me and i was interested to know if people here agree with him. he said that partying and all the things which go with it (alcohol, sleeping around, facebook photos etc.) needs to be got out of your system when you are young, or else you grow up with regrets and in some cases, he said you can grow up to be strange/weird/mentally unstable.
obviously there are exceptions, but he said this is the general rule and in particular as a guy, if you dont experience a bit of sleeping around with girls or getting into short, lustful relationships (which are essentially only based around sex with some intimacy and "fake love") when you're younger, there is the potential to grow up with regrets and to be a bit of a weird individual. he said this is why it is so important to get involved in partying and drinking in sixth form and university, and get it out of your system by the time you hit a full time job.
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Re: "You need to get partying out of your system when you're young"No; I think your friend is trying to define rules where rules cannot reliably determine an outcome.
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Re: "You need to get partying out of your system when you're young"I don't agree that you have to sleep around etc but I do agree that where a person doesn't go out clubbing etc because they have kids early instead of just because they don't enjoy it that it can affect them in later life. I've seen it with my family members, particularly my Uncle who my Dad says used to go round to his girlfriend's every night instead of going out when he was a young teen/early 20s. Now he's nearly 50 and goes out clubbing practically every weekend, and since he's remarried and had kids recently that results in him leaving the kids with his wife to do so. He's told me and my sisters to make sure we get in some good holidays with friends before it's too late in places like Ibiza and Ayia Napa because otherwise we'll regret it.
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Re: "You need to get partying out of your system when you're young"(Original post by A128)
This is rubbish. There is no single right way to live your life.(Original post by Nephilim)
Absolute bull****.can you tell me why you think this?(Original post by WelshBluebird)
What a load of crap.
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Re: "You need to get partying out of your system when you're young"This sort of view only makes sense if you look at being over the age of 30 as equivalent to being dead. I haven't had a wild youth, but at the same time I don't intend for the rest of my life to be dull. Why is it expected that a person must do everything they ever want to in terms of exploring their social and sexual world by the time they're barely a third of the way into their lives? I'd much rather have interesting experiences throughout my life than try to force myself to do everything while I'm young and leave myself burnt out and hopeless later on.
I think in a great many cases, people who view their youth as a rush to get drunk and have sex as many times as possible before giving up on fun completely end up with very dull lives, while people with a more balanced approach to life actually have a far more exciting time socially and sexually well into their later lives.Last edited by Chumbaniya; 14-06-2012 at 18:14. -
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Re: "You need to get partying out of your system when you're young"If you had a key which could get in to any padlock, it would be a good key.(Original post by Just Another Girly)
is a girl sleeps around shes known as a slut if a guy sleeps around he's know as a legend
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Re: "You need to get partying out of your system when you're young"thats true(Original post by Blazinq)
If you had a key which could get in to any padlock, it would be a good key.
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Re: "You need to get partying out of your system when you're young"Some people just don't like doing that type of thing so they really shouldn't feel bad about not getting involved in it when they're young. Plus if it gets you in the habit of being too sexually active and drinking too much, it can have more severe consequences that you'd regret even more when you grow up.
If someone doesn't take advantage of their youth, they may regret it, but clubbing drinking and sleeping around is not the only way to live youthfully, nor is it by any means the best way. -
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Re: "You need to get partying out of your system when you're young"No set rules, but I suppose it's just natural progression - it would be a little bit weird to be sleeping around and clubbing constantly in your 30s, but then again, by that age you probably wouldn't want to anyway.
The 'Dad' brigade on friday / saturday nights in town make me chuckle, matching white shirts that don't fit, revelling in 'being away from the wife' for one night and eyeing up birds who are probably the same age as their eldest daughters. Usually absolutely steaming and telling you to stay young and don't get married haha
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Re: "You need to get partying out of your system when you're young"No i don't agree, i think i'm more likely to regret any sexual things i've done as a teenager when i'm older... Because it didn't mean anything and a lot of it was because i was just lonely and/or too drunk/nice to say no... Might be different for guys though, i think girls are way more likely to overthink and regret things like this.
Also, if someone gets an std from sleeping around and it means they can't do things like have children later in life... Then that's not a youth well spent? -
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Re: "You need to get partying out of your system when you're young"lol @ "facebook photos"(Original post by Movember)
this is what a guy i know told me and i was interested to know if people here agree with him. he said that partying and all the things which go with it (alcohol, sleeping around, facebook photos etc.) needs to be got out of your system when you are young, or else you grow up with regrets and in some cases, he said you can grow up to be strange/weird/mentally unstable.
obviously there are exceptions, but he said this is the general rule and in particular as a guy, if you dont experience a bit of sleeping around with girls or getting into short, lustful relationships (which are essentially only based around sex with some intimacy and "fake love") when you're younger, there is the potential to grow up with regrets and to be a bit of a weird individual. he said this is why it is so important to get involved in partying and drinking in sixth form and university, and get it out of your system by the time you hit a full time job.
do you agree with this viewpoint?
But, yes, there's probably a lot of truth to this. I was basically a total recluse until my early 20's - didn't drink, talk to girls, go to "parties" or anything like that. A lot of youthful social interaction kind of underpins the rest of society and it's all excellent practice for "the real world" of influencing people and getting along with them.
I turned out pretty weird and now I'm 25 and occasionally make embarrassing failed attempts to do things I should have done 10 years ago when it was appropriate. It's very hard to learn those things when you're older, in fact it's basically impossible. I'm not kind of torn between trying to be young for a while, or just giving up, acting my age and settling down/committing suicide.
But who's to say whether I'm strange now because I didn't socialise properly, or I didn't socialise properly because I was inherently strange? Either way, it's a bad sign imo when teens and young people don't/won't/can't fit in with their peers and get involved in normal young nonsense. You can bet that they won't fit in as an adult, either. -
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Re: "You need to get partying out of your system when you're young"Though a penis is not a key and a vagina is not a padlock, yeah.(Original post by Blazinq)
If you had a key which could get in to any padlock, it would be a good key.
If you had a padlock which any key could get in to it, it would be a crap padlock
