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    Why do I like older guys?
    I've noticed that most of the guys I like are older e.g. at least 10 years older than me. A few weeks ago I saw this guy who I thought was really attractive he was at least 40. Today I saw another guy who I thought was gorgeous and he was at least 35. It's the same with celeb crushes I have a crush on Louis from One Direction who is the oldest of them all. Ian Somerhalder is gorgeous too and he's like 30 or something. I suppose those celeb crushes aren't that unusual but I'm talking about real life attraction, I've only been attracted to one guy my own age, that's it, the rest are in their mid twenties or even older. Why??
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    Re: Why do I like older guys?
    Forgot to mention I'm 18.
  3. hiding12's Avatar
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    Re: Why do I like older guys?
    cos you think they're wealthier, which they usually are
  4. Pitt1988's Avatar
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    Re: Why do I like older guys?
    You had any daddy issues?
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    Re: Why do I like older guys?
    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Forgot to mention I'm 18.
    anyway, course you're going to find Ian S good looking, he's a model. I mean its like me saying that about Heidi Klum
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    Re: Why do I like older guys?
    (Original post by hiding12)
    cos you think they're wealthier, which they usually are
    I never thought about their wealth

    (Original post by Pitt1988)
    You had any daddy issues?
    Why do you say that?
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    Re: Why do I like older guys?
    Just from some of the girls I know that didn't have the best experience with fathers, tended to gravitate towards older guys for relationships.
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    Re: Why do I like older guys?
    Unfortunately I have the exact opposite problem to you which has landed me in a spot of bother once or twice.
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    Re: Why do I like older guys?
    I find I get on better with older people in general so I've usually liked guys who are older than me. Sometimes younger guys can be immature, although that's not always the case.
  10. Feilo's Avatar
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    Re: Why do I like older guys?
    Well, there's nothing wrong with liking an older guy. But I tend to have a boundary if I were to go into a relationship. My boyfriend's 8 years older than me, and I'm 18. Normally I wouldn't go for someone more than 5 years, but he is a really nice person and I really like him.

    Just be careful with older guys, some may be a bad nut (no pun intended). I've never been properly attracted to guys my age (except for one). I don't know why, but people just have different taste that's all. And I can say I have no daddy issues, my family are divorced and I've never been attached to him (nor my mother)
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    Re: Why do I like older guys?
    OP one word for you. Stupidity.

    Crush with a celeb? Honestly grow up.
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    Re: Why do I like older guys?
    (Original post by Palatial Veranda)
    Unfortunately I have the exact opposite problem to you which has landed me in a spot of bother once or twice.
    lol wot happaned
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    Re: Why do I like older guys?
    im the same.most of the guys ive dated/got with have been over 10 years older(in their thirties). i just prefer older men and i always seem to attract them!theyre more mature and i think im quite mature for my age. ive had a relationship with someone 3 years younger than me before and i will NEVER EVER EVER go out with someone younger than me again.serious cringe when i think back on it!!
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    Re: Why do I like older guys?
    (Original post by bradfriedal24)
    lol wot happaned
    Nothing. I was only making a jocular self-deprecating reference to myself as being a child molester.

    I'm not.
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    Re: Why do I like older guys?
    Try YOUNGER guys, trust me it can be very fun <- Haha, a guy talking

    but

    When I was 15, I dated a 20 year old girl and when 17, a 23 year old. I have to admit I regret nothing and neither do they.
  16. Anonymous's Avatar
    Re: Why do I like older guys?
    (Original post by gintoki)
    OP one word for you. Stupidity.

    Crush with a celeb? Honestly grow up.
    What's wrong with having a crush on a celeb? I'm just saying I've not had "normal" crushes like other girls my age, they've always been much older.
  17. Vikki_V's Avatar
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    Re: Why do I like older guys?
    A lot of girls have crush's on older men as they find them more mature and have MONEY LOL
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    Re: Why do I like older guys?
    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I've noticed that most of the guys I like are older e.g. at least 10 years older than me. A few weeks ago I saw this guy who I thought was really attractive he was at least 40. Today I saw another guy who I thought was gorgeous and he was at least 35. It's the same with celeb crushes I have a crush on Louis from One Direction who is the oldest of them all. Ian Somerhalder is gorgeous too and he's like 30 or something. I suppose those celeb crushes aren't that unusual but I'm talking about real life attraction, I've only been attracted to one guy my own age, that's it, the rest are in their mid twenties or even older. Why??
    You're female.

    Girls generally seem attracted to older men, guys generally seem keen on younger women.

    It's all deep biological bull**** but basically older guys are more established, their 'value' is 'proven' as potential mates (your ovaries are going "Aw **** son, he has survived all those sabre tooth ****ers and ****, dude is still alive and healthy, gotta get me his man-sauce!") whereas with guys we see a young fertile healthy girl and we're all like "Awwwww **** dawg, look at dat fine bit of baby incubator, she probably gonna spit all sorts of my progeny out and probably won't die in the attempt either".
    Last edited by Studentus-anonymous; 16-06-2012 at 15:45.
  19. Anonymous's Avatar
    Re: Why do I like older guys?
    (Original post by Studentus-anonymous)
    You're female.

    Girls generally seem attracted to older men, guys generally seem keen on younger women.

    It's all deep biological bull**** but basically older guys are more established, their 'value' is 'proven' as potential mates (your ovaries are going "Aw **** son, he has survived all those sabre tooth ****ers and ****, dude is still alive and healthy, gotta get me his man-sauce!") whereas with guys we see a young fertile healthy girl and we're all like "Awwwww **** dawg, look at dat fine bit of baby incubator, she probably gonna spit all sorts of my progeny out and probably won't die in the attempt either".
    Lol, this made me laugh. Thanks, I suppose it is normal then.
  20. Foo.mp3's Avatar
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    Re: Why do I like older guys?
    Authority/maturity are attractive attributes, and most women seek attributes correlated with dominance to some extent/in certain situations. 25+ year old men = more sure of themselves/dominant than the average wet behind the ears teenager, in the minds of most women. Me at 21 even wouldn't compare to me in my mid/late 20's. Also, we know how to handle ourselves Et voila :borat:
    Last edited by Foo.mp3; 16-06-2012 at 22:00.
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