[Jennyf1991]

I have recently graduated, broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years (my choice - doing the right thing) and moved back to my hometown where I have no friends. I have been looking for a job with no success.

I just feel as though I need to do something to change my life because I'm miserable but all I want is to be happy. The only good thing I have in my life is my family who are amazing which I am very grateful for.

I know its a big ask, but any ideas on how to change? Or has anyone been in a similar situation?

[alexlduffy]

Get yourself out there, trying new things. For instance, get some voluntary work somewhere (not only do you get experience for a job, but you're also meeting new people). You could also get some new hobbies and stuff like that? The main thing you want to focus on at the moment is your happiness, so try loads of new things, expand on the things you currently like, and meet new people.

[Its-your-shot-pal]

Sorry to hear your unhappy, id say im in a similar position in terms of not doing that brilliantly career wise, whilst also lacking freinds as many of my school ones are off at uni, and have lost quite a bit of contact with the ones returning soon.

Basically I'd say target 3 things.

1.Job
Its certainly tough out there job wise, but keep going and applying for as many jobs as possible, I struggled for ages but got one a few months back. Its not my ideal job, but it gets me out the house, gets me meeting new people and gives me a purpose. Plus payday puts a smile on your face :-).
And as you have a degree, you should find it easier than me jobwise, theoretically anyway.

2. Expand your social circle

As I said I was lacking a few close buddies, and thought it would be very hard to find new mates. But actually its not too hard, as long as you put the effort in. Ive joined a football team and made some mates there, also volunteer for things, I did think it sounded quite geeky but tbh, you do get to meet lots of new people, especially ones you usually wouldnt talk to, and generally there pretty cool people.
Try Meetup.com, its a website that allows you to search and join local groups in your area, some are a bit odd, such as the cardboard games group lol, but there are plenty of very good ones, such as people new in the area wanting to meet other people for drinks, clubbing groups, badminton groups, hobby groups.
Ive been to a few, and generally there pretty good, and again it allows you to meet new people. The clubbing group in london is a good laugh!

3. Get a guy in your life?

Bit of hazy one as I dont know what your attitude to getting another bf is like after breaking up with your last one. But try and meet some guys, let your hair down and have a laugh. Plus a BF can be that special someone who you can turn too when your stuck like this, and they will understand you the most and give you great advice and support im sure.

Finally, if your down, treat yourself a bit! Whether its spending some dosh at the shops on some new clothes, or simply have a bar of chocolate with a movie, just do something that will cheer you up a bit and give you a bit of a boost.

[kiki64]

Run. Cook good food. Listen to good music. Change your hairstyle.

[insignificant]

You need to try to learn to appreciate the really small things in life. It makes you a lot more grateful for life day to day. Like eating a good meal, watching a good programme on TV, making your family smile, all that kind of thing. It helps you deal with things more immediately, rather than looking at the bigger picture all the time and seeing nothing but a bleak future. Things will happen in time, it just takes patience, and willingness to find new opportunities. Dont put so much pressure on yourself You've only just finished uni.

[Venom123]

(Original post by Jennyf1991)
I have recently graduated, broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years (my choice - doing the right thing) and moved back to my hometown where I have no friends. I have been looking for a job with no success.

I just feel as though I need to do something to change my life because I'm miserable but all I want is to be happy. The only good thing I have in my life is my family who are amazing which I am very grateful for.

I know its a big ask, but any ideas on how to change? Or has anyone been in a similar situation?

Same situation, I reckon I'm gonna do some volunteering. I'm already at my local gym.

Just bored outta my mind