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Re: nan demanding her chip pan backExactly. My grandad died in march. I'm 23 and have had a crash course in how to be an adult. Solicitors, power of attorney, estate agents, the works. My nan just died (natural causes, unrelated to chip pan fires) and I get to do it all over again!(Original post by M4LLY)
Tell me about it, the economys in recession, its exam season and us yr13's all need to decide out futures yet she's concerned about a chip pan? -
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Re: nan demanding her chip pan backOf all of the things going on in the world today, ownership of a chip pan seems insignificant.(Original post by The_Procrastinator)
Exactly. My grandad died in march. I'm 23 and have had a crash course in how to be an adult. Solicitors, power of attorney, estate agents, the works. My nan just died (natural causes, unrelated to chip pan fires) and I get to do it all over again! -
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Re: nan demanding her chip pan backLike I've said many times on this thread, she's capable of cooking but because she gets distracted and wonders off, so having a chip pan on unattended is the most dangerous thing. Things under the grill or in the oven would just burn and create a bit of smoke perhaps if she forgot about them. Normal pans with water boiling over is dangerous, but not like boiling oil.(Original post by The Mad Dog)
If she's dangerous with a chip pan then she's clearly dangerous cooking in general so by your logic you should remove her cooker and any over remotely potentially dangerous appliance from her house. -
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Re: nan demanding her chip pan backOnly 1 or 2 of them are sensible. How am I being stubborn, I've have trolls and spam and other people would think it was rude if I didn't reply to them. If it wasn't a difficult situation with many options already exasperated then I wouldn't need to ask it on here.(Original post by isawsparks89)
Only on tsr would you choose reading about a chip pan over productivity.
I do think the OP is awfully stubborn still given that there are some good suggestions here. -
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Re: nan demanding her chip pan backBut it's like 'get a fire blanket', 'get a timer' etc and your instant reaction to the timer was that she wouldn't use it. How do you know that without trying?(Original post by Clare~Bear)
Only 1 or 2 of them are sensible. How am I being stubborn, I've have trolls and spam and other people would think it was rude if I didn't reply to them. If it wasn't a difficult situation with many options already exasperated then I wouldn't need to ask it on here.
And far more than 1 or 2 sensible replies, come on. -
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Re: nan demanding her chip pan backShe doesn't use a timer at the moment and probably never will. If she was that bothered about one she would have got a vibrating one or whatever already.(Original post by isawsparks89)
But it's like 'get a fire blanket', 'get a timer' etc and your instant reaction to the timer was that she wouldn't use it. How do you know that without trying?
And far more than 1 or 2 sensible replies, come on.
Byt the time she noticed a fire, it'd probably be too late for a fire blanket. -
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Re: nan demanding her chip pan backI heard she uses the vibrating one for other activities(Original post by Clare~Bear)
She doesn't use a timer at the moment and probably never will. If she was that bothered about one she would have got a vibrating one or whatever already.
Byt the time she noticed a fire, it'd probably be too late for a fire blanket.
Ok that was too far
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Re: nan demanding her chip pan backGive her the ****ing pan back. Let her burn herself if she wants, her safety's her responsibility, not yours - unless she's non compos mentis, that is.(Original post by Clare~Bear)
My grandad died earlier this year, leaving my 85 year old nan on her own. She's capable of living on her own, but my mum took her chip pan away from her as she's the kind of person that leaves it turned on and goes to watch the TV or has a phone conversation. And she never uses timers etc to remind her. And grandad used to cook chips and was sensible enough not to leave it unattended.
She's now demanding it back/ threatening to buy another one as the (slightly safer) deep fat fryer we gave her doesn't make as nice chips. Although my mum says that sh'es never been able to make nice chips so it wouldn't make any difference which she uses. Plus it's not the fryers fault as my dad could make nice chips with it.
What can we do, or say to her?
She is unsafe using a chip pan. We've gone round her house to find pans boiling over. If they had hot oil it, that could have easily set fire to the house bungalow.
Why the negs? we're thinking about her safety. We've just lost my grandad and we don't want to lose my nan as well as this is a genuine threat. I bet the neggers just think we're being patronising and have never been in this kind of situation. How would you feel if you were us? And you gave it her back and she did set fire to the house and killed herself? I bet you'd never forgive yourselves. And it was my mum that did it anyway, not me. i don't really have any say over this. I'm jsut asking for ideas as to what we can say/do to my nan to convince her that this is for the best. -
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Re: nan demanding her chip pan backTMI(Original post by Mr Dangermouse)
I heard she uses the vibrating one for other activities
Ok that was too far
I really don't get the issue here. It's not as if your nan is someone with dementia, learning disabilities, etc. -
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Re: nan demanding her chip pan back(Original post by Tootles)
Give her the ****ing pan back. Let her burn herself if she wants, her safety's her responsibility, not yours - unless she's non compos mentis, that is.
I appreciate that she hasn't been labelled with an illness of some kind, but that doesn't mean she's competant doing everything. My friend is 18 and he's useless in the kitchen. He gets B and As at A2, but his parents don't think he's competant in the kitchen and don't allow him to do anything without supervision as when they do, he hurts himself or breaks something!(Original post by OU Student)
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I really don't get the issue here. It's not as if your nan is someone with dementia, learning disabilities, etc. -
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Re: nan demanding her chip pan backYou haven't read my point, my point was that you're dismissing these options without even trying, which you can't deny as you've said it yourself in the quoted post.(Original post by Clare~Bear)
She doesn't use a timer at the moment and probably never will. If she was that bothered about one she would have got a vibrating one or whatever already.
Byt the time she noticed a fire, it'd probably be too late for a fire blanket.
I still don't understand why you're asking for advice and STILL you are dismissing ideas! This is why you end up still having the problem, because you already made your decision and your attitude isn't working - you need to have room for compromise, cos clearly your gran isn't happy!!! -
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Re: nan demanding her chip pan back(Original post by OU Student)
Just buy her an actifryer. It uses very little (about a teaspoon) of oil.(Original post by Jellytots122)
Get her an air fryer, my mums obsessed with that thing. Fried tasting chips but without the oil and obviously 100x safer!OP why are you ignoring these posts if i ever broke someone's property i would buy them something back.(Original post by Clare~Bear)
I appreciate that she hasn't been labelled with an illness of some kind, but that doesn't mean she's competant doing everything. My friend is 18 and he's useless in the kitchen. He gets B and As at A2, but his parents don't think he's competant in the kitchen and don't allow him to do anything without supervision as when they do, he hurts himself or breaks something! -
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Re: nan demanding her chip pan backDid you give her the chip pan back in the end?(Original post by Clare~Bear)
My grandad died earlier this year, leaving my 85 year old nan on her own. She's capable of living on her own, but my mum took her chip pan away from her as she's the kind of person that leaves it turned on and goes to watch the TV or has a phone conversation. And she never uses timers etc to remind her. And grandad used to cook chips and was sensible enough not to leave it unattended.
She's now demanding it back/ threatening to buy another one as the (slightly safer) deep fat fryer we gave her doesn't make as nice chips. Although my mum says that sh'es never been able to make nice chips so it wouldn't make any difference which she uses. Plus it's not the fryers fault as my dad could make nice chips with it.
What can we do, or say to her?
She is unsafe using a chip pan. We've gone round her house to find pans boiling over. If they had hot oil it, that could have easily set fire to the house bungalow.
Why the negs? we're thinking about her safety. We've just lost my grandad and we don't want to lose my nan as well as this is a genuine threat. I bet the neggers just think we're being patronising and have never been in this kind of situation. How would you feel if you were us? And you gave it her back and she did set fire to the house and killed herself? I bet you'd never forgive yourselves. And it was my mum that did it anyway, not me. i don't really have any say over this. I'm jsut asking for ideas as to what we can say/do to my nan to convince her that this is for the best.
