[Rafu24]

I'm feeling a little odd and ashamed while writing this but I have to confess and get a solution to my deep problem. Since 2nd April 2011, when I was 15 years old, when I had holidays, I started masturbation for the first time. Initially, I just wanted to try the experience and have fun but little did I know that masturbation became a threat for me. While masturbating, I developed a culture of watching pornography; at first, I used to condemn and hate pornography but now I can't live without it. It was actually in a porn video that I learnt how to masturbate and remove semen. Every single day since 2nd April 2011 I've been masturbating and while masturbating I'll have to watch hardcore porn or else I won't "feel" I've masturbated. Now, masturbating and porn watching is becoming a problem: it wastes a lot of my time and I find myself enjoying and masturbating continuously, at least 4-5 times in a day. The problem is masturbation is spoiling me as a person and is wasting a lot of my time and is ruining my schedule...In addition, I feel the masturbation process drains my physical and mental energy and hence I can't concentrate for as long as I could in my revision. Before, in 2010, when I was an IGCSE student, I could comfortably revise 5-6 hours but now I can hardly revise 2 hours because the "itch/call" keeps coming and my penis always becomes hard at regular intervals and I have to keep satisfying it. This masturbation I can't do without watching porn, so these two things have ruined my life in the sense that I can't live a normal life now. I always have to close the door, on the pretext I'm studying, and spend 1 hour or even 2 hours watching porn and masturbating. Masturbation and porn watching has become like an everyday activity, more like how I spend my free time, and It's now my hobby and great interest; however, I need not enjoy at the cost of my grades so I need a quick and permanent solution for once and for all.

I need help on how to stop this activity. I've read lots of articles on the internet but none help. I can't just control myself and I have to masturbate every single day by watching porn; what is more, it's a sin in my religion and despite knowing this I commit this sin. I can't just stop myself! What should I do? How do I get rid of this problem? Now, I'm in college, and I'm almost going to turn 17 years old but I want to get rid of this problem. Porn has seriously made me a pervert and I look at girls as sexual objects of exploitation. I tend to focus more on their sexual features and in my college they are so many girls and I can't concentrate in class. Furthermore, when I'm revising I just remember the porn movies I watched and can't focus on studies! I really want to do well in college, since this activity ruined my IGCSE result! I think masturbation affects my memory too. I don't know whether that's a fact and maybe someone can confirm it for me because when I read a certain topic, having understood it fully, if you ask me to recap that topic after 2 weeks I'll have the understanding but will have forgotten the raw facts and figures and this seriously affects my grades. I don't know but I seem to be very attracted to girls! I used to hate girls and now I admire them!
Please offer me a solution because trying to prevent myself is not working; I can't control myself! What should I do? And how do I stop porn & masturbation from ruining my grades? How do I just become the innocent person I was? This porn watching has put a "virus" in my brain and I tend to look at girls bottoms more often. Please help. The worst thing is I can't talk to my family about this as they'll bury me alive if they know about my problem so I need you guys to help me!

[benq]

find a good girl

[neon]

There is porn with mathsy stuff written on blackboards. Watch that and see if it'll sink in. That'll help your grades.

[cl_steele]

Chastity belt and toss the key?

[Hype en Ecosse]

There's stuff you can download that blocks certain sites for you, and require a password to unblock the sites. Block the porn sites you keep going on, spam the keyboard for your password and press enter. No way you're unblocking them.

[Ps3SuperSRG]

Started at 15? Were you a late developer of something?!?!?

This was posted from The Student Room's Android App on my GT-I9100

[Norton1]

(Original post by benq)
find a good girl

Find a bad girl.

[OMGWTFBBQ]

(Original post by Hype en Ecosse)
There's stuff you can download that blocks certain sites for you, and require a password to unblock the sites. Block the porn sites you keep going on, spam the keyboard for your password and press enter. No way you're unblocking them.

Until you realise you can uninstall it.

There is nothing to it but willpower. Computer based approaches can always be overridden. Where there's a will, there's a way.

[Norton1]

(Original post by OMGWTFBBQ)
Until you realise you can uninstall it.

There is nothing to it but willpower. Computer based approaches can always be overridden. Where there's a will willy, there's a way.

Fix'd.

[iTOMTOMi]

Welcome to puberty...


< No, how about stop being on the PC so much? >

If you aren't online so often there is less opportunity and more reason to continue revising or engaging in other activities... You don't need to internet: look at books!

[ellasmith]

Sorry, but LOL

[Mille Plateaux]

Compulsive masturbation can often be a symptom (and not a cause) of hypersexuality. So the problem lies not in masturbation but rather in your thoughts/feelings concerning sex and therefore that is were you need to start. How you are to do this I do not know not being a guy myself but you can always talk to a therapist about this issue.

[21stcenturyphantom]

(Original post by Ps3SuperSRG)
Started at 15? Were you a late developer of something?!?!?

This was posted from The Student Room's Android App on my GT-I9100

Haha! I thought this too, but then I thought maybe I was weird for starting younger.

[Chumbaniya]

So the summary of that would be "I'm a 16 year old male"?

[Anonymous]

I was in a similar position to you last summer. But the worst thing was my porn addiction crossed over into Ramadan. Im so ashamed. and I feel all my stresses and strains this year are because of me watching porn so regularly. I agree with the cutting off of the internet, but last summer, I had my iPod touch where I could watch porn, even without the laptop/PC. This became such a bad habit, as I could masturbate, watch porn and be in my bed at the same time. My religion obviously becomes a problem here too, cause not only was the porn a problem, as I go to an all girls school, the one person who I enthused about porn with eventually propositioned me. And Im straight. Well, just so you know, my grades did get affected. From an A/A* student, I became a grade D student.
My honest advice to you would be to just think about all the problems watching a bit of harmless porn can cause and then consider even if its worth it. most probably it wont be. good luck xxx

[elia]

Solution = snip.


This was posted from The Student Room's iPhone/iPad App

[ROYP]

go cold turkey. it's a surprisingly easy habit to break

[Politricks]

You take 1 or 2 hours to masturbate? Do you just last long, or do you continue masturbating right after ejaculating?

[Mrkingpenguin]

Lots of people your boys age are the same, all filled with hormones, just try and focus on other things


or break your right arm if that doesn't work.

[Frankie_say_relax]

(Original post by Mille Plateaux)
Compulsive masturbation can often be a symptom (and not a cause) of hypersexuality. So the problem lies not in masturbation but rather in your thoughts/feelings concerning sex and therefore that is were you need to start. How you are to do this I do not know not being a guy myself but you can always talk to a therapist about this issue.

This.

OP if it is really as bad as you say it is (though I kind of suspect this is a troll) then you are going to have to grit your teeth and go see a therapist, with or without your parent's knowledge. If it's not possible without their knowledge then you should go along with it anyway. This is your future. A good career will be so worth the embarrassment you will experience at first.