[PhoenixFortune]

Has anyone else had to move house when you really didn't want to, but your circumstances/decision of others mean that you must?

My dad has recently been charged with fraud, and is required to pay back all the money he has stolen from his employer, which exceeds £100,000. This unfortunately means that we will have to sell the family home (which we have lived in for 20 years) to pay the money back and majorly downsize.

It makes it worse that my brother has learning difficulties, and won't be able to understand that the only home he has ever known won't be his home anymore.

Share your experiences, as I'm sure some people must have moved when they didn't want to...

[Vohamanah]

I'm sorry to hear about your Dad, that's dreadful

I had to move because of domestic violence. Walked out with the clothes I was wearing and absolutely nothing else. Stayed with a friend for 6 months before moving into my own place. That was not fun. Its been nearly 2 years and I still keep discovering things I don't have any more, like my uni certificates

[Instincts_2012]

I'm sorry to hear what's happened, I'm sure you'll do your best to support your siblings in these hard times, best of luck.




My experiences...:
I'm 17 years old.
I don't have any experiences to share about this unfortunately. I live in a council flat, use to be 6 people in the house (Me, 2 older brothers, a sister, mum and dad) - One of my older brothers has gone to Uni, and my sister has gone to Uni. My dad is leaving the house as I type this post (Divorce/Arguments) - he's finally leaving the house now, although he's still verbally abusing everyone. My other brother, has just gotten a job.

This leaves my mum and I in the house... not sure why, seems very depressing :/

[Akbar2k7]

(Original post by PhoenixFortune)
Has anyone else had to move house when you really didn't want to, but your circumstances/decision of others mean that you must?

My dad has recently been charged with fraud, and is required to pay back all the money he has stolen from his employer, which exceeds £100,000. This unfortunately means that we will have to sell the family home (which we have lived in for 20 years) to pay the money back and majorly downsize.

It makes it worse that my brother has learning difficulties, and won't be able to understand that the only home he has ever known won't be his home anymore.

Share your experiences, as I'm sure some people must have moved when they didn't want to...

My house burnt down in 2009 at the start of year 11 due to an electrical fault courtesy of the council luckily no one was hurt but my pet budgies died from the smoke . I had to move to a whole different borough 40mins away from school by car stayed there for about I think 4 months and then move back in after a full building repair lost everything still in a legal battle with our council. Well everything is fine now but yea it was kind of good in some complicated way for me personally but for my whole family it was annoying.

[Dandaman9999]

Sorry to hear about your dad

It's not exactly a moving house story but it's related to houses so here I go:

7/8 years ago we moved house to another county and put the other one up for rent. A nice couple asked to live in the house so we allowed them (as they paid rent).

My dad was on a meeting in the county and he decided to stop by the house before driving to see how our clients were doing. He knocked many times but nobody answered. He thought they must have been away so he came home.

The next two days he had to go to the town again for more meetings. The second day he knocked again and still no one answered and came home.

The third day however, after he knocked and no one answered, he decided to a call the couple to see where they were and what was going on. The man said that they were on holiday so my Dad didn't take any notice (as this is a fair reason for them not being home) and simply cam back to our house.

Later that same month my dad received a call from the police saying that a man walking a dog past that house had complained that whenever he walked past the house the dog started to bark and run towards the door and clawed it every time, and since there was nobody in he had to contact the police(?).

Either way, the police investigated and it turned out that the couple that were living in our house were simply using it as a building where they can grow their own Marijuana and Cannabis plants and sell them to drug addicts... And the couple were actually still living in another city but were using this house as their own drug-haven where they can grow and sell to their needs.

They only visited the house once a month to check on their plants and had hired a gardener to water the plants once a week so they couldn't be caught.

It took my dad months of stress and paper work to get this sorted out and to prove that OUR family was innocent and we had nothing to do with the scandal....

That remains the weirdest illegal thing my family had anything to do with

[PinkMobilePhone]

When I was 23, I moved house 3 days before my son was due to be born. We didn't have movers, we couldn't afford them, so we had to lug everything there ourselves (my husband doesn't drive, so I was the one driving back-and-forth, back-and-forth, and doing loads of heavy lifting).
To top it all off, it was my mother's house we were moving into (house-swap) and she wouldn't lift a finger to pack any of her own stuff, so not only did we have to shift all of our stuff there, but we also had to pack up her entire house and move all her stuff for her too.
That was very VERY VERY challenging for an extremely heavily pregnant woman I can assure you. Oh and did I mention I also had a 22 month old daughter as well to contend with!


Then, when I was 25, our business (we were self-employed at this point) went under, and we were facing repossession. The last thing I wanted to do was sell the house I grew up in (remember I was now living in the house I had swapped with my mother - so this house was the one I had lived in from the ages of 3-19, and again from 23-25, so for eighteen years of my life). I was devastated, but we had no choice, we were completely broke and in massive debt.
So, at the age of 26, we sold our house and moved out of Leeds, where I had lived nearly all my life, and moved to Barnsley. This time with three young children in tow. I cried my heart out at having to sell that house, I really did.

Good news I suppose is that where we are now is better for the children than either of our previous houses, in that it is much nicer for them to play out (there's a huge field in front of our house). Our last house was bigger and in a nice area, but there was no garden (my mother had paved all the gardens over due to not wanting to mow). Plus we own this one outright, so no fear of being repossessed!

But yes, I've had experiences with difficult and/or emotional moves.

[Orphan]

(Original post by PhoenixFortune)
Has anyone else had to move house when you really didn't want to, but your circumstances/decision of others mean that you must?

My dad has recently been charged with fraud, and is required to pay back all the money he has stolen from his employer, which exceeds £100,000. This unfortunately means that we will have to sell the family home (which we have lived in for 20 years) to pay the money back and majorly downsize.

It makes it worse that my brother has learning difficulties, and won't be able to understand that the only home he has ever known won't be his home anymore.

Share your experiences, as I'm sure some people must have moved when they didn't want to...

I would very much have prefered not to have had to move house but the violence from granddad was getting worse so I went back to my family home and lived their on my own for the whole of year 13. Then I went off to uni.

[nekha123]

(Original post by PhoenixFortune)
Has anyone else had to move house when you really didn't want to, but your circumstances/decision of others mean that you must?

My dad has recently been charged with fraud, and is required to pay back all the money he has stolen from his employer, which exceeds £100,000. This unfortunately means that we will have to sell the family home (which we have lived in for 20 years) to pay the money back and majorly downsize.

It makes it worse that my brother has learning difficulties, and won't be able to understand that the only home he has ever known won't be his home anymore.

Share your experiences, as I'm sure some people must have moved when they didn't want to...

I'm sorry about your dad. You must be feeling bad. As your bro has difficulty in learning, I hope you'll help him understand and make him calm down. £100,000 is really a big sum and have you guys paid back completely or yet to pay? Btw, about moving your home outta circumstance, you need to have these following things ready for moving smooth and safe.

1.Prepare a note with all the things you want to move.
2.Now arrange the list in the priority wise from high to low priority.
3.Pack it all in different boxes according to the categories i.e., you may pack your bro's books in separate box and clothes in separate box.
4.Still there may be difficulty in finding the boxes while opening. If you think so, have your box color coded, it should make your work easy.
5.Keep your items that you use frequently i.e., cell phones in your pocket for easy navigation when required.

Let us know after moving to a new place. I understand your problem, still you'll get outta it. All the best, dude!

[jelly1000]

When I was 16 my parents got divorced - they owned half the family home each and neither could afford to buy the other one out so they had to sell the house, I was gutted, although their new houses are in much nicer areas to the one where we lived together.