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Should I Just Give Up?

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    I don't know how to structure this so I do apologise if none of this makes any sense. Ok, well I am a 23yr old male, never had a gf, never done anything sexual, never been kissed.
    I have come to a point in my life where I am just considering giving up looking for a girlfriend as I seem worthless and unlovable to women. I am 6ft, slim with a quiet personality - i'm not and never will be one of the lads, nor will I ever be someone who is considered 'fit'. I have joined two dating sites (with pics), messaged about 40 women who I believe to be around my level and these messages have been detailed and respectful, with questions included to try to get them to reply back to me. They have also included things that are relevant to the interests of these women.

    NOTHING has come of these dating sites; I get ignored initially or people reply saying that they are not looking for a relationship despite them saying on their profile that they're looking for a relationship. I have such a s*it personality that trying to chat up women in bars, clubs or at work is a no no.
    The women that I have met have been through gumtree and these are women who are looking for friendship which is perfectly fine, they aren't my type anyway.
    Now, there is one girl that did message back from the dating site. She is a student in my home city and she is moving back here when term starts in September. She says she would be keen on meeting up but again she only wants friendship - so she says. However she is role playing, and speaking on the phone to someone else she had met on an online dating site and I get the impression that she really likes him and wants things to further develop despite him living hundreds of miles away.
    This girl supposedly has a lack of confidence, she says she is a virgin but has apparently done other stuff with her ex. I can't help but feel that she finds me ugly. WHY OH WHY can't I find somebody? What is so wrong about me that women dislike me?

    I don't want to sound petulant but it hurts me when I look at other couples walking hand in hand around town, couples who people may consider 'ugly', or seeing people with personalities similar to mine having no trouble in getting a girlfriend; it's easy as buying a pint of milk from the shop for other people. Why not me? I can talk to women fine, and I don't buy into all this 'friendzone' malarky - you either like someone or you don't.
    Should I give up and just go with a prostitute to lose my virginity? Is that all I am worth? Maybe I should try and be a gangster or a criminal to get kudos with women. I just don't know anymore
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    Why don't you try meet up with the girls who just want to be 'freinds' to start off with? Trust me they are only saying that just in case they don't actually like you when they meet you in real. If all goes well than the 'freind' can very quickly turn into GIRLfreind. Just gota play your cards right.

    Using prostitute/high class escort services isn't such a bad idea either. Maybe that will get you the confidence that you need??
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    I dunno. These girls just aren't my type, i've known them long enough to realise that. You never know what you might catch with going to an escort though.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I dunno. These girls just aren't my type, i've known them long enough to realise that. You never know what you might catch with going to an escort though.
    If they're not your type than try befiriend new girls and take it from there.

    Go to high class escorts, private message me and i will tell you exactly where and what to look for and it's 100% guaranteed safe sex as long as you use appropriate protection.
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    You have to see value in yourself for other people to see value in you.

    Nothing else is holding you back apart from that. ^

    You might be very needy, and that is putting women off.
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    (Original post by noteraz)
    If they're not your type than try befiriend new girls and take it from there.

    Go to high class escorts, private message me and i will tell you exactly where and what to look for and it's 100% guaranteed safe sex as long as you use appropriate protection.
    Are you on commision?

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