[Chad_Bronson]

(Original post by umarrehman187)
dont you fools get it.......keep treat a bitch mean, keep her keen, no one likes good guys...they are at the bottom

Wrong. So, so wrong.

[Am.K]

The bottom line is she didn't love you and that was just some silly excuse. And girls do like bad boys but not violent boys so yeah. Just be true to yourself and mark my words when the right girl comes. You both will make each other feel luckier than ever. F*** the s*** about bad boys. These things are sexy in fantasies and movies but not in reality


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[Ashan17]

Ok honest opinion... I broke up with my ex partly cos he was too nice... We never had an argument becoz if I said something he wuld just agree which is unhealthy and he could never be serious and joked about everything so i just stopped laughing cos it became forced so maybe u try to hard? And honestly from experience, most women like bad boys until their old enough to settle down etc hope this helps and doesn't sound mega b*tchy x

[laurennmc]

I could be completely wrong here, but I'll put it out there anyway...
Maybe, she's not used to being with the type of guy you are? If a girl's been in relationships withs boys who aren't as openly 'nice', or treat them bad sometimes (treat 'em mean..) they can be quite surprised when faced with a guy who is so different. If this is the case, it's possible she could even have felt slightly intimidated, as though she was waiting to see a negative side of you because that it was she has been used to with other boys?
I'm not too sure though, all depends on her relationship history. All in all though, you sound like a truly decent lad, any girl would be lucky to have a boyfriend like you - you just have to find the girls that don't see it as any possible 'threat' or who can't cope with such behaviour.
Don't beat yourself up, 'too nice' is good! x

[cl_steele]

ah one of the ultimate cliches along with 'its not you its me' and 'i just think we want different things in life'

[Stevo112]

Hey man, her loss


I get the whole "genuine bloke" routine from people I date/get with, which is pretty cool and I wouldn't change anything about myself for it.

The trick is to simply find out how to improve your game so that you can take opportunities with other girls in the future. There is a lot of wisdom on PUA sites and if you read up on some of them techniques you do get a lot better with women in general and manage to retain decent ones.

For this girl though just chalk it up to experience Your game probably needs toning up to create a bit more attraction but you are certainly sounding like a decent bloke who would be worth the world to one lucky girl.

[Lucia.]

I still think that being "too nice" is a veiled reason for her to break-up with you. Don't read too much into it.

I reckon that the interest was never there completely if she dropped off after only 4 months. This was either because she came into the relationship when she wasn't that into you, or because you failed to sustain her romantic interest. It's more likely to be the former because interest doesn't drop overnight - it happens under your nose for a while, for perhaps weeks, or even months. But you were only 4 months in so there can't have been much there for her.

Relationships are directed on the woman's level of romantic interest. If her interest begins to wane, she isn't going to tell you about it, so look out for the signs. Too often men look at the relationship based on their own feelings. They think - I'm in love so it must be going well. Meanwhile, the woman might be getting bored and they wouldn't have a clue.

Not objective truth, but merely my observations.

[lad-lad]

Lots of correct answers here, many of my friends were in the same kind of situation.

Too nice just means she is bored, looking for a bigger cock or simillar you get what I mean.

Wipe the floor with her and forget it

[Knighted]

My girlfriend dumped me last year. I got over it in a record couple of days due to having some awesome friends around me at the time.

However 2 months later I found out that she had spent about 4 weeks after dumping me crying in her room most of the time. Almost getting fired from her job and almost dropping out of university.

Women are strange ones mate.

[RichyFrench]

(Original post by Anonymous)
I took her out, bought her flowers and gifts every now and then.

Did she pay for you when you went out? Did she buy you flowers and gifts from time to time?

You probably didn't realise that you were actually treating her a lot better than she treated you. It's the smallest things that count though. A girl wants to be led and told what to do some of the time. If you think letting her pick the restaurant is a good idea, she hates making the decisions so you're best off just picking somewhere for her. It's stuff like that that really matters.

[tehFrance]

(Original post by Anonymous)
She left me for being "too nice"

I know a guy that was left because he was nice to her, he was only nicer to her than other people in general tbh and he went ape **** when she broke up with him, he basically showed what kind of guy he really was in the nice department and she came crawling back, 'women'...

[umarrehman187]

(Original post by sekret)
Bet you have all the girls running after you, you bad man

hahahahahahha iv had few here an there and let me tell u i never be a bitch and b too nice....i treat em like they shud b treated

alot of people might say wrong so wrong blah blah but its the truth man

[umarrehman187]

(Original post by sophisticated)
Correction. Idiots who talk like YOURSELF are "at the bottom".


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why are you in denial? i bet if a guy was too nice to you you would become his mate put him in your friend, this is the problem with dumb bitches....you say you want a nice guy when you get him you either become a frend or treat the poor guy like shut....then when you go for a bad boy your like i want a nice guy hahahah dumb females


dont get me wrong the guy who started this thread but its the truth what im saying try it be a dick and the bich will stay

[WordLife]

(Original post by Ashan17)
Ok honest opinion... I broke up with my ex partly cos he was too nice... We never had an argument becoz if I said something he wuld just agree which is unhealthy and he could never be serious and joked about everything so i just stopped laughing cos it became forced so maybe u try to hard? And honestly from experience, most women like bad boys until their old enough to settle down etc hope this helps and doesn't sound mega b*tchy x

This is what the OP needs to pay serious attention to and avoid. Women DO NOT start liking nice guys until their biological clock starts to tick and they can't find committed cock. Women in their teens and twenties will ride the cock carousel and sleep with every alpha in town. But when these same women reach 30+ and are cold product, and are used up and don't have as much value, the Alpha males don't want them any more, so these women start looking for a beta provider who is reliable/dependable, and a nice guy.


Nice guys - do not allow yourself to be used. Ever. Do not accept sloppy seconds. Do not go near a woman who says she's had all her fun and wants to settle down. She is using you. If you're with a 30+ female now, ask yourself, would she have looked at you when you were 18? If the answer is NO, you know what you have to do.

[Orihime]

You honestly sound very pathetic. Get a grip of yourself, man.


From reading your post, you come off as very indigent and needy, try to work on that mate.

[Lucia.]

(Original post by RichyFrench)
Did she pay for you when you went out? Did she buy you flowers and gifts from time to time?

You probably didn't realise that you were actually treating her a lot better than she treated you. It's the smallest things that count though. A girl wants to be led and told what to do some of the time. If you think letting her pick the restaurant is a good idea, she hates making the decisions so you're best off just picking somewhere for her. It's stuff like that that really matters.

See RichyFrench has got game with women. Not kidding; he does. Nice guys forget that women want someone who can be decisive. They're not attracted to bad boys because they're bad. They're attracted to them because they're not afraid to say what they want. These guys aren't afraid to objectify women, and sometimes women want to be objectified.

On the topic of gifts
There is nothing wrong with buying a gift for a woman you care about. After all, it demonstrates your love. But be careful. It's more advantageous to hold off on the gift giving until carefully thought out big occasions, or when she might be feeling especially down. The gifts will hold more value that way, and it means you are less likely to attract a woman with a 'princess' mentality.

(Original post by umarrehman187)
why are you in denial? i bet if a guy was too nice to you you would become his mate put him in your friend, this is the problem with dumb bitches....you say you want a nice guy when you get him you either become a frend or treat the poor guy like shut....then when you go for a bad boy your like i want a nice guy hahahah dumb females

Many of the decisive qualities of a good quality man are shared by jerks. And they know how to play it. It's a case of being able to tell the real thing from affectation.

I argue that people overemphasise the alpha-beta dichotomy. Simply learning to have game means that you'll no longer be seen as second-best by women. It's behavioural patterns which make all the difference. Furthermore, women go for different types of men. I'd never be attracted to a beta male, whether my biological clock is ticking or not. It'd be better to have a man with the best qualities of both. Most men don't fit into one category or the other like that. Most women don't even think in terms of alpha vs. beta when they judge the qualities of a man.

[hiding12]

(Original post by Am.K)
The bottom line is she didn't love you and that was just some silly excuse. And girls do like bad boys but not violent boys so yeah. Just be true to yourself and mark my words when the right girl comes. You both will make each other feel luckier than ever. F*** the s*** about bad boys. These things are sexy in fantasies and movies but not in reality


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This OP, nice guys finish last, if you treated her badly from time to time it would have kept her interested and excited. Why do you think girls long after 'bad boys?'

[Chad_Bronson]

(Original post by hiding12)
This OP, nice guys finish last, if you treated her badly from time to time it would have kept her interested and excited. Why do you think girls long after 'bad boys?'

Which is nonsense, as we know

[hiding12]

(Original post by Ashan17)
Ok honest opinion... I broke up with my ex partly cos he was too nice... We never had an argument becoz if I said something he wuld just agree which is unhealthy and he could never be serious and joked about everything so i just stopped laughing cos it became forced so maybe u try to hard? And honestly from experience, most women like bad boys until their old enough to settle down etc hope this helps and doesn't sound mega b*tchy x

SO why didn't you tell him that we agreed too much? Thought women were supposed to be good communicators. It seems like such a pathetic, trivial thing to dump someone over, honestly with all the **** than women put us men through and you dump him for that. How would you feel if he dumped you for not being funny or something like that?

[Alpharius]

(Original post by Dark Horse)
I hear you OP and we can narrow it down to a number of options:-

1) She found someone better looking
2) She found someone with a bigger cock
3) She found someone richer
4) She found someone with all your qualities but is noticeably taller than you

Sloots gonna sloot.

I was about to say that...

OP, don't worry about it. It just wasn't to be.

If it really is because you're too nice, then she obviously likes it rough