(Original post by SillyMilly)
I totally sympathises ith you
its a horrific horrible feeling, its very very difficult and hurts alot because you dont understand why or when they changed,you have the view of your gf that you knew and spent 4 years with, but then you see whats she is doing and it clearly isint the women you fell in love with.
I found out my ex was cheating on me via facebook (deleted it all now!) when I asked him who this girl was he told me just a friend, then he broke up with me and literally that night uploaded photos of them getting with one another etc.
The only thing you can do is to realise the person she pretended to be to you was fake, she has no remorse and as people have said above usually in their heads they have ended up the relationship before physically doing it so when you do part she doesnt feel any pain. You must delete her of facebook, all photos of her because believe me i spent months torturing myself looking at this new girl trying to work out what she had that i didnt, thinking if i dyed my hair blonde like her if i dressed like her blah blah would he want me, as soon as I deleted him im over him i have no idea what he is doing./ who he is seeing and its great I suppose the term 'what you dont know , cant hurt you' is the most relevent arguement for getting rid of her fb.
You will not just get over her, it will be hard,the first month is hell you feel **** and like nobody understands but then slowly you start to do things alone and discover stuff about yourself, take up a new sport, go to the gym get a passion which you can spend alot of time doing try to make new friends, going out clubbing, dinner, films the pain wont vanish it will numb however. Time is the best healer
Before you know it you wont be thinking about her everyday,she wont be the first thing you think of or the last person you think before you go to sleep you may think about her occasionally but you will feel numb. I feel totally impartial about my ex, at first i was despearte for him back, then i hated his guts and spent weeks fuming and feeling so angry, then i felt sad it was over and then i just felt nothing if friends tell me hes seeing another girl, or hes going to the club we are going to I feel nothing, i think if i bumped into him thn id feel a bit ****e but i wouldnt be too fussed. However its taken me a good 6/7 months to get to this stage .
Its a bloody long road to recovery and hurts alot but as long as you have supportive, friends and family and the will power to get over her you will