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    I mean Im sick of going clubbing where there's an abundance of men and a few shallow women who just pick and choose, most of the time I come back with nothing. Thing is I know one or two girls but not many as I did Economics at uni and there weren't many girls doing it.

    Thing is I was up in London yesterday and there were just so many attractive women walking around. Would I likely get rejected if I just said,' Hi, Im ..., do you fancy going out sometime?'

    Reason I ask is because I know Im good company and have a good sense of humour, kind etc. that I feel if I could get a g/f I could keep her and apply my charms over time. But Im not massively witty but have occasional moments so am unlikely to massively impress a girl in a brief, initial meeting. I wouldn't say I come across as creepy but I wouldn't say I would have a girl head over heels straight away. GIrls, would you just not give a guy a chance like this? I mean you could be missing out on a lot of good guys if you don't. I mean we men have to take risks so perhaps girls should? I just need to try a new tact with women as Im going nowhere fast at 25

    Looks wise, Im ok, tall, dark hair, not a good nose but apart from that not too bad. Far from perfect but been called 'handsome' once or twice.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I mean Im sick of going clubbing where there's an abundance of men and a few shallow women who just pick and choose, most of the time I come back with nothing. Thing is I know one or two girls but not many as I did Economics at uni and there weren't many girls doing it.

    Thing is I was up in London yesterday and there were just so many attractive women walking around. Would I likely get rejected if I just said,' Hi, Im ..., do you fancy going out sometime?'
    My boyfriend basically did this, we met briefly at a social gathering then I bumped into him a few days later and he asked me out immediately. I was very surprised, and due to a bad previous relationship really didn't want a bf so I said no -but I couldn't get him out of my head. He was funny and confident and I liked how upfront he was about being interested in me, so I found him on facebook and then asked him out for a drink. We've now been together for 8 months and it probably never would have happened if he hadn't been so forward But having said that we did meet in a social environment, possibly a bit extreme to stop girls in the street
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    To be honest being asked out straight off the bat by a guy in the street would actually be a bit creepy, particularly in London. A woman would have no idea who you were, what your intentions were, how you would react if she said no (what if you got nasty?). The street is not a good place to ask women out or try to talk to them. in the street people are not in "socialising mode", they are trying to get from A to B without being accosted by strangers.

    Being asked out or chatted up in the street is rather like being confronted by those people who try and get to to give to charity, "charity muggers" as some call them.

    If you're having trouble meeting women I suspect you're trying in the wrong places, no-one goes to clubs looking for actual dates. They're either there to get laid or just to dance and have fun and are not interested in hooking up or getting asked out at all.

    Try bars and pubs rather than clubs to strike up conversations with women. It's a social atmosphere where it's completely acceptable to talk to the opposite sex and where women will be far more open to it.
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    To be honest being asked out straight off the bat by a guy in the street would actually be a bit creepy, particularly in London. A woman would have no idea who you were, what your intentions were, how you would react if she said no (what if you got nasty?). The street is not a good place to ask women out or try to talk to them. in the street people are not in "socialising mode", they are trying to get from A to B without being accosted by strangers.

    Being asked out or chatted up in the street is rather like being confronted by those people who try and get to to give to charity, "charity muggers" as some call them.

    If you're having trouble meeting women I suspect you're trying in the wrong places, no-one goes to clubs looking for actual dates. They're either there to get laid or just to dance and have fun and are not interested in hooking up or getting asked out at all.

    Try bars and pubs rather than clubs to strike up conversations with women. It's a social atmosphere where it's completely acceptable to talk to the opposite sex and where women will be far more open to it.
    You say that but WHERE am I supposed to meet women at clubs? I mean I have left uni and most women just watch **** reality tv like TOWIE and Made In Chelsea so........suggestions? I play tennis and go the gym and stuff and there's no women under 35/40 who play tennis
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    Yes, do it. So what if a few womens get offended/scared? Move on to the next one.


    If you ask 100 girls in one day, you're bound to get at least 5-10 positive responses.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    You say that but WHERE am I supposed to meet women at clubs? I mean I have left uni and most women just watch **** reality tv like TOWIE and Made In Chelsea so........suggestions? I play tennis and go the gym and stuff and there's no women under 35/40 who play tennis
    No I said don't try to meet women in clubs. Try bars and pubs.

    Also, just a suggestion, you don't actually seem to be that interested in women as people or to have much experience of them. You called women who go to clubs and don't get with you shallow and now you've just dismissed most of them as reality TV watching drones.

    So maybe if you actually tried to talk to women properly and find out what you have in common with them rather than dismissing them like that you would have more success.
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    (Original post by Historophilia)
    No I said don't try to meet women in clubs. Try bars and pubs.

    Also, just a suggestion, you don't actually seem to be that interested in women as people or to have much experience of them. You called women who go to clubs and don't get with you shallow and now you've just dismissed most of them as reality TV watching drones.

    So maybe if you actually tried to talk to women properly and find out what you have in common with them rather than dismissing them like that you would have more success.
    I am interested in women as people, its just difficult to really generate much chat when they watch stuff like TOWIE, which is drivel and consider fashion or shopping a hobby, its NOT a hobby, its an interest. This consistutes most of the girls I see or know. Aren't bars basically just feeding places for clubs though? You generally just get the same sort of people
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    Just bend her over right where you see her, always works, gets the point across straight away
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    (Original post by WordLife)
    Yes, do it. So what if a few womens get offended/scared? Move on to the next one.


    If you ask 100 girls in one day, you're bound to get at least 5-10 positive responses.
    u think so?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    u think so?
    Definitely. What's the worst that can happen anyway? A girl says no. Nothing to worry about. There's plenty more out there. You ask out 100 girls, there's no doubt you'll get at least 5 positive responses, and that's on a bad day. It's just law of averages. My friend used to do the same thing a few years ago, and one night I was out with him he got a good handful of numbers.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I am interested in women as people, its just difficult to really generate much chat when they watch stuff like TOWIE, which is drivel and consider fashion or shopping a hobby, its NOT a hobby, its an interest. This consistutes most of the girls I see or know. Aren't bars basically just feeding places for clubs though? You generally just get the same sort of people
    It is no wonder you struggle with women. You obviously look down on them.
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    (Original post by WordLife)
    Yes, do it. So what if a few womens get offended/scared? Move on to the next one.


    If you ask 100 girls in one day, you're bound to get at least 5-10 positive responses.
    So you're saying it's a numbers game......genius!
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    u think so?
    Try it and see for yourself. The worst that can happen is you get rejected (or pepper sprayed if you come across as a nutter).
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    If you have the confidence to do this then yes! You'll get rejected a few times maybe, but i'd say 50% would say yes, the other 25% are lesbians and the other 25% are taken. That should be your thoughts if you get rejected :P
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    i think it depends how you ask them. some people have been really creepy to me one insisted i take his number after i tried to politely decline. i guess the other thing is how you look. not in the shallow way, i mean if you look shady, if you know what i mean? since youre strangers, you have no idea what the other person is like

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