[bullettheory]

(Original post by Banana mouse)
They go by the name 'mental health team'.
They just say if I start behaving I can see her more but that easier said then done


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Who's they? And what do they mean by behaving? And who do you want to see?


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[Banana mouse]

This guy comes to my house and he's called chris and he just asks me stuff like how the week has been, how I feel etc.

When I say behaving I mean he wants me to lower my levels of aggression and start being more polite towards everyone


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[bullettheory]

Do you find him helpful? If he's not helping maybe you should ask if there is anything else they can do to help, like therapy or counselling.


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[funsongfactory]

(Original post by Banana mouse)
would you agree that it's hard on me
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yes it most probably is hard on you, but not to be rude but why do you need sympathy from total strangers on the internet?

[Thorax]

(Original post by Banana mouse)
She is the only person who can keep me calm its just on that day it didn't work.

It's really not fair of you to lay that level of responsibility on her. You need to work on finding a way to keep yourself calm.

[Banana mouse]

Firstly I'm not I just wanted to see if I'm just being over dramatic or if I actually have a point in being annoyed and upset etc...

He's unless if anything he's made my life more stressful.

Well yes yiu have a point I try not to put all of it on her shoulders so I find the best thing to do is just leave the situation and calm down if I'm angry etc...


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[Frazeled]

Bless you. What you need to do is convince your girlfriends father that you are ok and that you wont hurt her. parhaps you could prove this by taking her and her father with you to your next apointment with the mental health team so her father can hear for himself that the mental health team who are pros dont think youd ever hurt her. That might mike her dad relax a little bit and leave you two on your own so you can spend some quality time together . Good luck and take care xx

[Banana mouse]

Well yes I could do that but I he would still think bad of me and as well I think they have stopped me seeing her as I was meant to see her yesterday and my mother and my girlfriends mother wouldn't let me.


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[bullettheory]

Would you be able to give him information on BPD, MIND do a really good leaflet. Sometimes people don't understand because they don't know what it is. Once he knows what it is they may feel better about it.

[Banana mouse]

(Original post by bullettheory)
Would you be able to give him information on BPD, MIND do a really good leaflet. Sometimes people don't understand because they don't know what it is. Once he knows what it is they may feel better about it.

That is a really good idea, I might see him Saturday so if I get my hands on a leaflet I'll give him it thank you


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[bullettheory]

(Original post by Banana mouse)
That is a really good idea, I might see him Saturday so if I get my hands on a leaflet I'll give him it thank you


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This is the best one - http://www.mind.org.uk/help/diagnose...ality_disorder

[Banana mouse]

That's really useful thank you


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[katebrighteyes]

I have BPD and I find it hard not seeing my boyfriend for a few days. Get convinced he hates me. Right now, I saw him about 5 hours ago but Im worried he is angry at me. BPD is a horrible horrible thing. And unless you have it I think it's very hard for soeone to sympathise. So that makes it worse for me because im convinced my boyfriend is annoyed at me for something that I can't help but he thinks I can....ahh.....

it sucks. I've been referred for DBT though. Maybe seek a diagnosis?

[Banana mouse]

Same thing happens to me I get really worried that she's annoyed with me then the day before I see her I'm convinced she's with her friends and she doesn't care about me so I get really really angry with her, but I try my best to stay calm but that doesn't always work.

Iv tried but they don't bother they just say I'm an angry person.
It's just stupid, if I don't have a mental problem then why am I forced to talk to someone who deals with mental problems? (mental health team)


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[bullettheory]

(Original post by Banana mouse)
Same thing happens to me I get really worried that she's annoyed with me then the day before I see her I'm convinced she's with her friends and she doesn't care about me so I get really really angry with her, but I try my best to stay calm but that doesn't always work.

Iv tried but they don't bother they just say I'm an angry person.
It's just stupid, if I don't have a mental problem then why am I forced to talk to someone who deals with mental problems? (mental health team)


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How long have they been seeing you? Just thinking that for a Personality Disorder to be diagnosed you normally need to have had the symptoms at a severe enough level for 2 years, and you must be over 18. Professionals are often wary to make such a diagnosis because there is a lot of stigma attached, and it can sometimes hold you back in life.

If you are seeing a mental health team, they will consider you to be "mentally unwell" but they may of not made a diagnosis yet, but that is quite common, and it doesn't mean that there is nothing wrong, they just don't know what yet. A diagnosis isn't too important, what's more important is the treatment.



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[Banana mouse]

They have been seeing me for about 2 months maybe, not sure really maybe a little longer maybe a little shorter.

I'd rather be diagnosed then treated because it putting a huge strain on me and my gf, it's now to the point where she is saying if you don't stop your mood swings I won't see you any more but I'll still talk to you or I won't come around as long.

When she says my mood she means I can become a little or very annoyed over something's or before she leaves I can sometimes become really low and i don't like looking at people when I'm low.


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[bullettheory]

(Original post by Banana mouse)
They have been seeing me for about 2 months maybe, not sure really maybe a little longer maybe a little shorter.

I'd rather be diagnosed then treated because it putting a huge strain on me and my gf, it's now to the point where she is saying if you don't stop your mood swings I won't see you any more but I'll still talk to you or I won't come around as long.

When she says my mood she means I can become a little or very annoyed over something's or before she leaves I can sometimes become really low and i don't like looking at people when I'm low.


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2 months isn't really long enough for someone to make a diagnosis of a personality disorder, as its a long term pattern of behaviour, and they need to observe you.

Trust me on this one mate, having a diagnosis will not make your life any easier. People with personality disorders are seen by some health professionals as difficult and untreatable, it's not a good diagnosis to have. And people don't suddenly accept your behaviour because you are "ill". It's better to look at trying to sort your mood swings and behaviours out rather than hiding behind a diagnosis in my opinion. Sometimes a diagnosis will help you get some treatment, but not always. You should ask your mental health team if they can get you some therapy like CBT, CAT or DBT. But there are loads more


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