[Onion man]

So basically, my main social group of friends tend to hang around in a group. But, there is this one "friend" who is incredibly obnoxious and basically treats me and several others like crap. He seems to have an elitist view on society, where some people are considered acceptable and others he just feels don't deserve to be treated equally (that's the best way I could describe it.) Those he sees as "lesser" are physically and verbally abused by him, which is incredibly childish considering he's almost eighteen.

But my problem is, as my friends like to socialise in their group, he's usually there. And most of the people within the group don't want to exclude him, because the majority of the members are percieved as his "accepted" freinds, and thus he treats them nicely.

Luckily this won't be an issue for much longer, as we're all going to university in September/October and my university happens to be away from their choices. But, over this summer there are quite a lot of events I've been invited to, which include the Sixth Form leavers' prom, which he'll also be attending.

I'm seriously worried that since I'll only have to put up with him for a while longer, that I'll end up snapping and punching him in the face or some other violent contact. Or that I'll just give him a lot of verbal abuse to compensate for his sadistic comments over the years, and then he'll snap and beat me up. This is quite distressing as I know I'll be around him over the summer. Does anyone have any thoughts as to how I should approach this? I've tried telling him how his behaviour is unacceptable, but he never learns.

[EmilyAl]

I know someone just like this, and because you said it's not just you who he's affecting don't approach him by yourself, get others who he's also distressing to go up to him with you so if he does react to what you say you'll have back-up. Two heads are better than one