[Anonymous]

I am a pretty average looking girl, and I know that. I am okay with it, however, one of my best friends is gorgeous; not in that obvious fake way, but just naturally pretty. I love her to bits and she is the bestest friend I could ask for.

She is nice and clever too, so you can imagine all the boys are clambering all over her. Now since I hang out with her a lot, I am used to boys coming up and just speaking to her, and not paying so much attention to me.

It's just lately it has been getting to me, and I have started to harbour a lot of jealousy and envy towards her....what can I do to help get rid of these thoughts, and feelings which are making my days just horrible?

Thanks in advance!

[For The Love Of Giraffe]

(Original post by Anonymous)
I am a pretty average looking girl, and I know that. I am okay with it, however, one of my best friends is gorgeous; not in that obvious fake way, but just naturally pretty. I love her to bits and she is the bestest friend I could ask for.

She is nice and clever too, so you can imagine all the boys are clambering all over her. Now since I hang out with her a lot, I am used to boys coming up and just speaking to her, and not paying so much attention to me.

It's just lately it has been getting to me, and I have started to harbour a lot of jealousy and envy towards her....what can I do to help get rid of these thoughts, and feelings which are making my days just horrible?

Thanks in advance!

Try to focus on the positives in the situation and turn it around - so while loads of guys run after her, a vast proportion probably are quite shallow or just after one thing, whereas you may get approached by more genuine guys. That's the one thing that I've always thought that sucks about beauty - people approaching them rarely genuinely like all of the person or may not truly care for the pretty person, but they just want a hot date (and yeah, generalising, sorry).

I'd also say, maybe if you're feeling jealous, try to focus more on yourself than on what's going on with your friend. So maybe buy clothes which make you feel prettier or talk to more guys and be more confident. If you can be happy that you're as best as can be, you won't feel the need to compare yourself to someone 'better', but instead will just see her as equal but different

[Anonymous]

I am the same as you but boy version. Although I am considered handsome however my best friend's looks overshadows my existence. Seriously the guy is super good looking. People often say he has model looks.

Anyway it has taught me many things about myself and about other people. Like the poster above me - it just shows how shallow people are and I just laugh at it. My friend tries to rub it in that he gets more attention than me and I am happy for him (seriously) but I am grateful that he draws all the shallow girls...and it also means that I can get the genuine, nice girls and the girls that like me for ME (and not just my looks).

Another thing is beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Yes a lot of guys might consider your friend attractive (real talk) but there are a few that would prefer you to her. These people are like gems but they do exist.

Learn to improve your happiness. This is something I am working on. Find happiness in other things rather than appearance, dating or guys. There are loads of articles and what not on the net. One tip though - find time to appreciate the things you have in life. This I find the thing that makes me most happy.

[Aisha~~]

It's really not even that good. You start to feel under appreciated in other regards, since the focus always seems to be on appearance (something which was luck of the draw mostly).